Brain Hacks: Meditation for the Stressed and Busy
Meditation: you’ve probably heard a bit about it.
It’s a mind-bendingly powerful activity, with benefits of stress
reduction, clarity of vision and focus, and even increased (sometimes
dramatically so) levels of happiness. It’s key to successful visualization, and once you’re
good at it you gain a degree of conscious control over your thoughts
and feelings that all but eradicates things like depression and anxiety.
But if you’re anything like me before I learned something of meditation, the wall of information greeting you at your first foray into the topic is a major obstacle to getting started.
I would ask myself, “What should
I learn about? What meditations are best? What do I gain by the
And so on and so forth... and, unable to accurately answer these
questions buffeted about as I was by tidal waves of information in the
meditation how-to sea, I’d end up not really getting much of anywhere
It wasn’t till I met a man who simplified the process, directed me towards some Western literature on the topic and taught me of the most important facet of meditation, that I felt I knew where to go with my own meditation.
I’m going to pass that direction onto you today.
Now, what this article won’t
do is lead you to nirvana-like enlightenment. It won’t
lead you to an understanding of the different schools of meditation,
their history and chief aims. Those are things you can explore yourself
if interested as you get deeper in.
Rather, this article will equip you with enough knowledge to stimulate that most important facet of meditation, the “relaxation response”, which you can access immediately upon meditating.
Understanding how to elicit the “relaxation response” in yourself has all kind of benefits, from better health to a better ability able to get yourself prepped emotionally in ways that’ll help you get women... and we’ll go into all of these below.
Meditation, in an over-arching sense, encompasses a whole host of different behaviours.
There are many ways of meditating, from sitting down in stillness to dynamic yogic movements, but all involve training the mind to enter a desired state of consciousness to realise a certain benefit, whether it be an esoteric spiritual union, relaxation or some other benefit.
What we are going to be focusing on today is a simple, bare bones mindfulness meditation that you can start out with (since getting started is the most difficult hump to overcome).
I’ll also briefly introduce you to some breath-focus techniques that really help you enter that beneficial state of relaxation in the simplest way possible.
Why You Want to Meditate
The benefits of mediation are well documented in Western medical literature going as far back as 1975, with Dr Herbet Benson’s seminal work The Relaxation Response.
Triggering one’s “relaxation response” is basically using meditation to consciously engage your parasympathetic nervous system.
The parasympathetic nervous system is a part of your autonomic nervous system that exists in opposition to your sympathetic nervous system, which engages the ‘fight or flight’ response.
The ‘fight or flight’ response is the body’s way of preparing you when the appearance of an appropriate stimulus, known as a stressor, is likely to require that your body be at a level of optimum reflexes and strength.
The problem is that in today’s world of hyper-stimulation we tend to have a strong predilection towards over-activation our sympathetic nervous systems, as we generally have or perceive a whole lot more ‘stressors’.
This inability to relax and thus engage the parasympathetic nervous system has some rather negative consequences for health, both physical and psychological, especially over the long-term.
There are reams of research out there on this, a meta-analysis of which would lead you to the conclusion that the increased incidence of chronic mental illness (as well as many chronic physical ailments) within our society has this overload of stressors and the prolonged engagement of our sympathetic nervous system as its most likely catalyst.
Prolonged activation of the sympathetic nervous system (i.e. being stressed out all the time) is associated with this long list of physiological nasties:
- Muscle tension and pain
- Chest pain
- Changes in sex drive
- Upset stomach
- Problems with sleeping
- Urinary problems
And this list of psychological ones:
- Lack of motivation or focus
- Irritability or anger
Now, if you take the opposite of everything on the above list, then you’ve got the list of benefits that you can receive from properly employing your parasympathetic nervous system.
Engaging your parasympathetic nervous system takes you into the more relaxed states you require when you want to do things like digest food, salivate, become sexually aroused and go to the toilet.
Ever noticed how you can’t pee when there’s a big, burly bloke standing next to you at the urinal? That’s your sympathetic nervous system standing in the way.
Noticed how performance anxiety kicks in and it’s ultra hard to get an erection if you’re nervous? Again, that’s the parasympathetic nervous system blocking your good times.
Your body often tries to engage the parasympathetic nervous system automatically if you’re stressed; for example, by letting out a big sigh.
Deep breathing, like a big sigh, engages your vagus nerve, which in turn triggers your parasympathetic nervous system.
So if we use this knowledge and encourage this phenomenon consciously we can get those feel good relaxation chemicals running throughout our body and give the stress chemicals the boot.
It’s basically the difference between being the flitty-eyed zebra that has just spotted a lion to the one chillin’ in the shade, munchin’ on grass.
Here are the things you need to get into an appropriate state for simple meditation and engage your own “relaxation response”:
A comfortable place to sit. A back support is usually a good idea so that you’re able to focus on the meditation rather than the discomfort of trying to keep yourself upright. Some people prefer to meditate lying down, though for me it’s easier sitting up as I’m prone to falling asleep if I’m lying down.
An environment where you’re unlikely to be distracted. Find a place where you can comfortably relax without distraction. It’s much easier to engage more fully with the meditation when you don’t have distractions.
Avoid a full stomach of food or stimulants, such as coffee, immediately before. Wait at least one hour before attempting to meditate if you’ve just eaten or consumed a stimulant such as caffeine.
Remove pre-conceived notions of desired outcomes. You want to ‘let go’ into the meditation. Trying to hold onto pre-conceived notions of what should happen is a hindrance to the facilitation of fluidly flowing thoughts.
Finally, you need the meditation. Here’s a recording on SoundCloud that will guide you on a ten minute meditation:
You can try it immediately after finishing the article and see what all the fuss is about for yourself.
How Meditation Helps with Girls
Since this is a seduction site, it’s of course worthwhile to have a look at some of the implications meditation has for your ability to seduce women.
Better body language. This will help in a number of ways. It tends to slow your movement down and allows you to feel a whole more comfortable. And as Chase observed in ‘The Law of Least Effort’:
“[I]f you feel comfortable, you look comfortable. The more comfortable you look, the more confident, strong, and effortless you appear.”
Reduced stress and anxiety in your life. Getting women when you’re stressed or anxious is pretty darn hard. If you’re a more relaxed person and subsequently live a more relaxed lifestyle, that is something that is going to permeate your interactions and make you that much more appealing, to everyone you meet. If you want to know more about the mechanics of this effect, see ‘Emotional Contagion in Seduction and Socializing’.
Increases ability to become sexually aroused. Which in turn does wonders for your sexual confidence, your ability to turn girls on and your ability to have better sex. Sexual health and sexual confidence are two of the most important pillars of seduction, and releasing relaxing, feel-good chemicals by meditating is one way to help increase both.
These three items can be immediately affected by meditation. However, as you make meditation part of your routine, it is possible and typical for the effects to permeate through almost every aspect of your life... thus making meditation a no-brainer, once you’ve experienced its potential to have a positive effect on your existence.
To make sure you’ve got an easy guide for getting started with
meditation, I’ll leave you with a quick review of what we’ve just
Meditation encompasses many different behaviours, but is aimed at achieving a certain state of consciousness, usually in the attempted attainment of a certain goal, be that enlightenment, relaxation or something else
The meditation we’ve focused on in this article is a mindfulness meditation, which also delves briefly into breath-focus, allowing you to engage the parasympathetic nervous system
The “relaxation response” involves triggering the parasympathetic nervous system and this can be achieved through meditation
The sympathetic nervous system induces the “flight or fight” response in response to a stimulus, known as a stressor
Over-engagement of the sympathetic nervous system can lead to myriad problems, in both the psychological and physiological realms
There is a tendency in our world of hyper stimulation to over engage the sympathetic nervous system, and this leads many to aforementioned health problems
Conversely, the parasympathetic nervous system encourages the body to go into a state of relaxation, which has many proven health benefits
To achieve maximum results with your meditation it is important to:
Have a comfortable place to sit with a back support
Have an environment where you’re unlikely to be distracted
Have an empty stomach, particularly devoid of stimulants like caffeine
Remove yourself of pre-conceived ideas of what the meditation might achieve
Meditation can help with women in these ways:
Making your body language appear more attractive by making you more comfortable, slowing down your movement and reducing the appearance of effort
Help to avoid transmission of states of stress and anxiety to prospective women, by diminishing those states within yourself
Increase your sexual health and sexual confidence, which are two of the most important elements of being good with women
As the benefits of meditation tend to be quite wide-reaching, it’s impossible to tell in advance the full-spectrum of positive impacts that regularly meditating may weave throughout your life - but it will have them
Meditation is basically a win, win. There’s no real harm in trying, it takes little time to do and the positive outcomes may well leave you quite impressed.
If you haven’t tried your hand at meditation yet, it’s worth a few
minutes of your time to do so - the practical benefits for your life
are hard to oversell.
‘Til next time,
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