Angry Girls: How to Deal With Angry Women and Why Women Get Mad


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I’ve been hearing about this a lot lately from a few different folks, so wanted to write a post on it.

Anger. Most men tuck tail and run when they encounter an angry girl. They figure hey, it’s a bad situation, I’m going to get as far away from it as I can.

Of the few men left over who stuck around after she started fuming, most of THOSE men tend to become offended and get angry in return, leading to arguments, shouting, and in some sad circumstances, slapping and hitting and violence.

But are any of those the correct responses to anger? Are any of those the BEST responses to anger?

No. Far from it. And those wrong responses to anger – fear, or indignation – stem from a lack of understanding about what causes anger in the first place, and lead themselves to a worse position with the women you care about or are interested in.

There are better ways.

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Anger is the result of feeling powerless in a situation – especially, powerless to get something you want. That’s it, nothing more complicated than that. It is a reaction of frustration and lashing out in response to a feeling of helplessness. Its very presence signifies an emotional investment – because without a want or need that’s going unfulfilled, there’s no reason for the flame of anger to be fanned in the first place.

Now, you may be surprised to hear it, but the reasons women list for why they’re angry often have only a little to do with why they’re actually angry. Some reasons a girl may list for why she’s angry:

  • She’s having a bad day
  • You were rude to her
  • She just wants to be left alone
  • You don’t treat her right

Here on the other hand are the most common reasons a girl may be angry with you:

Totally different, right? Of course, a woman’s never going to come out and say she’s frustrated and horny or that she feels like you’re too cool for her, but in fact those things are the reasons why she ends up feeling angry most of the time.

** Note for guys still adjusting: if you’re still getting comfortable with women, people, and social situations, do pay attention if a woman seems legitimately to want you to go. It may just be that she’s having a horrible day and everything is going wrong and she just can’t handle meeting anyone new right now. There are times when a woman – anyone, really – just wants to have some time to herself; until you can tell the difference, if a girl you’ve just met seems angry with you, simply excuse yourself and move on. No reason to agitate her any further and make it a bad time for both of you, there are plenty more girls out there with sunnier dispositions! **

That said, for a guy who’s socially adept, most of the anger and frustration he’ll encounter from women is based on one of those three reasons listed earlier. I’ll discuss each and how to recognize the signs better.

1. Horniness. If a girl hasn’t had sex in a while, especially if she’s a girl with a high sex drive (you can often tell by how passionate – or not – she is in conversation), she’ll tend to become moody and irritable. People become more uptight and tense as their level of sexual frustration increases – so the longer it is between the last time a woman had a sexual release and the present moment, the tenser she’ll seem to be and the more sensitive (and reactive) she’ll be – which often includes taking offense at minor slights and blowing things out of proportion.

Of course, once she’s had a good, satisfying release, she’ll be much more relaxed and easy-going! You might even see it as your mission, to spread good cheer and peace to the sexually frustrated women of the world by helping them find a way to just... let it all out.

Most women don’t KNOW that they’re frustrated from horniness; they just are more irritable and tense. But you can be aware of it and use that knowledge to inform yourself better.

A few other indicators of horny girls: horny girls will also tend to separate themselves from their friends more often; stand out from their pack; and pay more attention to the people around them (and hence focus less on any one conversation or person) until they’ve found a prospective mate. Then they will focus on that person, so long as he’s returning their affections and doesn’t push them away… which brings us to our next reason.

2. No Shot. If a girl feels like a guy is just playing with her and not really interested – for instance, if he jokes with her constantly and alludes to something between the two of them, but never really get serious – or if she feels like he just isn’t interested in general – if, say, she’s been shooting signals his way but he just continues to ignore her because he’s off in his own world or talking to someone else – she may become moody and resentful. Why? Because she wants him – but feels like she doesn’t have a shot.

This is an essential aspect of push-pull, the phenomenon of reeling a girl in then pushing her away, repeatedly, to spike attraction. The emotional highs and lows a woman feels during the process simulates the ups and downs of a longer connection, and creates more emotional investment – making her feel like she’s known you longer and has a stronger bond to you. It’s similar to the way that people hold in higher esteem a retail store or restaurant that’s made a mistake but corrected it than such a venue that’s never made a mistake at all. It provides evidence that your connection is stronger than the bad periods and can’t be so easily broken.

But I want to focus here on female anger and how you can recognize it, and in this instance it’s easy: if a girl liked you early on, but as you speak to her or see her over a period of time she becomes increasingly negative towards you, it’s almost always because for one reason or another she is feeling pushed further and further away from you. Take a moment to examine the fundamentals of your interaction so you can correct what’s wrong. Often it’s one (or several) of the following:

  • Too much teasing
  • Too much fluff / not enough real connection
  • Lack of physical escalation when she hoped for / expected it

Correct those and you’ll see her anger wash away. The easy solution for this to keep in mind is, “Tone it down and be more serious and affectionate.”

3. You Don’t Care. This one you’ll mostly see in relationships. Always be honest from the outset – let a girl know what your expectations are, and what she can expect from you – and you’ll limit this from blowing up on you all the time. And don’t just tell her what to expect – show her, with your actions. Women will pay more attention to your actions than your words. So if a guy says he just wants a casual relationship but then he goes and sees her three days a week, calls her “Honey Muffin”, and invites her over to his parents’ house, you can be reasonably sure she’s going to start viewing herself as his girlfriend and begin to expect him to treat her as such.

Where anger comes into the picture here is where a woman’s expectations fail to meet reality. Three reasons this happens, generally:

  • You were clear on what she can expect from you, but she is trying to redefine the relationship by setting new expectations and is angry that you’re not meeting her new expectations
  • You were unclear on what she can expect from you, and she is confused and frustrated because she decided it was up to her to set expectations, but you aren’t meeting her new expectations
  • You were clear on what she can expect from you, but have failed to deliver

In the first case, be resolute and unyielding. Be compassionate of course, and tell her you understand if she starts saying she can’t be with you, but stick to your guns so she knows you mean it when you tell her how the relationship is going to be.

In the second case, you need to sit down with her and clearly define what she can expect from you, otherwise you will keep running into this problem. It’s caused by this lack of definition in the relationship.

In the third case, be compassionate and understanding, and comfort her. Then either: a) begin delivering on what you’ve failed to deliver on, or b) tell her what’s changed, why it’s changed (a good, personal reason helps you avoid appearing fickle and losing her trust), how that’s going to affect the two of you, and what she can expect from you.

Remember, NEVER get angry at a girl unless she does you some gross misdeed (such as trying to hurt you physically or emotionally or threatening you). Even in that case, retain your composure and either show her the door (if it’s your place) or leave (if it’s anywhere else). Offer to drive her home if you drove her somewhere. But never escalate the fight or become truly angry yourself – a man who becomes angry as a result of a woman being angry at him reveals himself to be reactive to her moods and attacks – and therefore weak.

Strong men are unaffected by women’s emotional flare ups. They feel compassion for women, and they realize the angry woman is tormented, and they want to help her feel better, and know the right way to do so – not by buying presents or saying they’re sorry (that’s what clueless men do, and end up in the same situation again and again), but by addressing the ROOT CAUSE of the anger, as examined above.

Tackle a woman’s anger not as a threat, but as a great opportunity to make the girl you’re spending time with more attracted to you, more confident in your connection, and, in the case of horniness – more satisfied!

Yours,
Chase Amante

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Jeff's picture

Female anger


my g/f becomes abusive and nasty when I don't rise to her
anger. I do walk away so as not to let it esculate!
I get critisized for this by her!
She was abused @ 11 not as bad as her sisters and only once
She is controlling and stubborn. What is my best course for
a peacefull life?
Your right about the horniness bit! Is she doing it to make
the after argument lovemaking more intense?
Help please

Anonymous's picture

Jeff get out now find other woman.


Get out of the relationship. You have to have the balls to understand she will not change not matter if you get married. Think of the reverse a girl that is abused verbally and physically by the husband. Think of you as that girl. I've been there and married a women who did the same and left her but it was hard for me because I emotionaly invested myself into her. The guy is always on the losing end and the only way you can get something postive out of this is too gtfo. There are more fish out there. -QJ

dom's picture

hey there my wife and i dont


hey there my wife and i dont really fight. whenever she gets angry for the littlest stupid reason like last night i broke the tip of her fun dip stick, and she ignored me all night and was being mean she punched me in the leg she threated to leave me and took off her wedding rings, please help

Anonymous's picture

Wow Jefff. Thats horrible. I


Wow Jefff. Thats horrible. I really hope you left her and moved on by now. Thats not healthy.

Anonymous's picture

Stupid reasons to get mad


My girlfriend gets mad at me for some of the stupidest reasons...I mean I don't want to break up with her. Like today she wanted to tango (its some app on a smartphone. Its like Facetime.) and I deleted it awhile ago and said I didn't want to so she starts demanding that I re download it and talk to her so I say hows about no and she gets all pissy and whatnot. There's been plenty of reasons she gets mad.

Anonymous's picture

Gotta give, sometimes


If "Tango" is a chat program, sometimes you gotta give - this is that example in the article of where you aren't measuring up to her expectations - you need to either "man up", or explain why. But here, women expect communication, to be talked to/with - they are social creatures. If you don't want to talk to her, you should really either find someone you do want to talk to, or some severe intraverted woman that doesn't talk (there are very few of these, my friend - you are likely to end up disappointed, finding she is just finding some guy that will talk to her behind your back, if she doesn't leave you, first).

kris's picture

dealing with unreasonable angry girlfriend


This entire short reading that i came across tonight made me question... Why isn't this in a Bible, Dictionary, or some guy code book? It was 100% accurate. My g/f constantly fights with me. When i say fight, i really mean, she goes ballistic, yelling screaming, disrespectful and saying unbelievable/unrelated comments in an argument. She can't talk like an adult about an issue, she would rather yell and scream. Not only that, but even in this big house she still manages to disrupt everyone else. I constantly tell her to please quite down, count to 10, or lets walk away for a few and discuss in a more simple tone later on. The response i get from her was is if i was in jail and I'm the bitch who has to sit there and take it. Go ahead get a laugh, but seriously she gets destructive and would say made up shit like the boy who cried wolf just to get her revenge. I am just waiting till the day she gets so angry that her skin turns green, so that i get the chance to see what the real hulk or godzilla looks like in person (HULK SMASH). Furthermore, I would mention something i disliked several times to her and yet she would continue to do it, as if it went in one ear and out the other. Suddenly after several times of going through the same process, (over and over again as some days/weeks go by) i would happen to find myself in a place of asking her again "Please, you know i don't like blah blah blah so-and-so, can you just do this for me so i don't have to mention it again" and like usual she blows up in anger. She yells, screams, refuses to talk it out like adults, becomes destructive, etc. Seriously, it would be the littlest thing i mentioned about something i disliked and she goes bananas. Examples of what i disliked when i try to mention it, would include: "can you please clean up after you ate or at least put the dish away once you finished eating, can you please stop leaving your clothes or jackets laying around and hang them up in the closet, can you please not smoke a cigarette with the ash tray on the couch (ITS A LEATHER COUCH, I DONT WANT A BURN HOLE OR, EVEN WORSE, BURNING MY HOUSE DOWN) but yeah those are some examples of what i ask. However, in return i get the most rudest, immature, angry comebacks. Im afraid to say anything to her now because i just want to avoid a fight but also i can't have her continue doing the absurd things that she freely gets away with. Moreover, every time we fight about shit like that, she just so happens to say " you don't love me, or your such a dick, or you'll be sorry once i leave you, or why can't you show me affection, or why cant you open up to me, etc". it goes on and on and on and on..... Also, sex does make a difference, we have fun wild time together and there wouldn't be a fight for the next couple of days, give or take. But as much as i want to be a pornstar with our time together, it just makes everyday difficult because it does drain me out especially when i have to work 5 days a week at a 9-5 shitty, annoying, busy job in the city. But on that note, her anger has gotten so out of control that i fear for her and tried to research about her uncontrollable outburst. I feel like she is bi-polar, or has IED (DSM-IV info symptoms) and has some type of anger management issue. There is so much more to the story and i just sugar coated it, but it gives a pretty good idea of what I'm dealing with. Please comment or help me out about how to fix this. Thanks.

War's picture

DEALING WITH THE SAME EXACT THING !


My chick does the SAME EXACT THING !!! Literally everything u mentioned is how she acts. the whole boy who cried wolf thing etc. shell say she's gonna kill herself do this do that threaten me , say she's gonna leave me same exact type of ishhh. HEEELP lol

Anonymous's picture

Run away fast. She won't kill


Run away fast. She won't kill herself.

Had a girl like this, she's actually abusing you in a way or at the very least manipulating you. Hope you got out.

strongman's picture

stoking man's ego to get what you want..


I think author is stoking man's ego with words like "Strong man" when she actually means a submissive man. Man does go through as much or more stress than a woman, it does disturb him when a woman flares up for vague or no reason and is completely reasonable to resist that onslaught. It is not right to advice only the man to handle her, there should be an equal piece of advice to the woman too.. like.. A smart woman is one who thinks before she opens her mouth..

Anonymous's picture

King


From a woman's perspective, you guys can take the advice or leave it, along with taking a woman or leaving her. I have been on the end where the guy makes no clear committment. It is alright for a while because he is having cake and eating it, too. When I do display a bad mood, usually once a month, or want more from a guy, it is all I have to do to beg to have more closeness or a committment. It is as though, whoa, too much work involved, "let's just have fun," he says. F* that. And let me say for all the boys out there, if your daddy didn't tell you this one little secret, you will never satisfy a woman...if she isn't happy, there is no way for her to make you happy. It isn't purposely, she's a caretaker, and needs just one man to take care of her and in return, that man will be the king!

Anonymous's picture

I appreciate the woman's


I appreciate the woman's perspective. My fiance gets insanely angry over nothing. I say nothing because there have been times where she will just get royally pissed off and vents it out on me. the other night she got pissed over a comment while were joking around. that was it.. she went from ok to i hate you pissed off. this does seem to go with her cycle. I am the provider. I work 40+ a week to provide her a home, food, cloths, money. whatever she needs I make sure that she has it. when I get home from work, I put my stuff down and help her in the kitchen or go set the table. after dinner, I pick up the dishes and put the leftovers away and clean the kitchen; since she cooked I clean. I do this because I want to not because she asks. we then spend the rest of the evening together. i will routinely give her back and foot massages and am very attentive to her needs. I am not macho, I do not swear allot, I am respectful and consider myself a southern gentlemen. I make sure that she is "completely" satisfied in the bedroom. All in all I am a great guy. That doesn't mean in anyway that I am perfect; I am not perfect. Sometimes I forget to tell her plans, sometimes I forget to mention that I appreciate what she does around the house. There are days that I bring work home. sometimes I do not get why she is upset about something and can come across as insensitive. I am not to proud to apologize for mistakes that I make. All this said... I am getting to the point that I can't handle being the receptacle for her emotional bullshit. I am tired of getting pissed of at for the stupidest of reasons. PMS is not a reason, its an excuse. I am sick of hearing that crap. just because you have shit once a month doesn't excuse being a psycho crack nutcase short tempered asshole. if your man treats you well, APPRECIATE it. Show him, make sure that he effin knows that he is your man and only your man. be possessive. i would tell anyone that I belong to my fiance... because frankly I am hers. I would do anything for that woman. I expect the same from her. I would never make a decision without thinking about how it would affect us not me but us. and yet... I get bitched out for nothing. I am ranting at this point because I am sick and tired of it. cant wait to get some replies.

Alberto 's picture

Let her go


I'm going through almost the same shit you are... I do everything for her and sometimes it just seems she wants to fight forever and that she never cools down. and then comes the self-pity "I'm not a good wife for you" " you are great but I'm not" all that bullshit that makes me want to slap her. to be honest I'm done with this kind of woman, she will find someone who takes that crap or treats her like shit, maybe if she's treated like shit she'll remember when once she wasn't... one advice, don't ever play her game, never quit your passions, the things you like for her, because when she leaves you, you'll have nothing of who you were.... I hope it helps.

Den.'s picture

listen man.U will be used and


listen man.U will be used and misused.I am not a gentleman and honestly i dont treat women that way.I treat a woman as she treats me i really dont give a fck.But u have to man up.Where i am from our women give us respect.Ur a hardworking man doing ur best.It is ur right to be respected by her.If she doesnt she could be a nut case who knows.But man do not let urself be a punching bag for somebody.Im imagining when ur dad or mom was working so hard to see u make it in life and now u let a woman put u down?Mr get hold of that bitch when she insults u show her ur a man.She will come back crying for u believe me.

Been around the block's picture

I co sign that!


Spoken so well... When I took on a trade a long time ago as a bricklayer. My mentor who was an old man who experienced the world, he had some words of wisdom for me when I was working with him. He told me that men are fourth on a list of people who get treated better or more respect than them. Children were first, then women, `then dogs/animals, and then men.

He said that marriage is not what it used to be 50 or so years ago, and that this day and age makes it practically impossible for a young couple to make it. There are so many things available this day and age that doesn't allow people to stay together.

His only advice to me was really that I had to become a very submissive person with my girlfriend in order to make things work, and I should become a yes man. This in turn has been very difficult for me as I tend to have a very strong personality, and like to take control of most situations. Any girl I have been with and I have tried to contoured to their needs, I often find that when I let them take charge, they often don't know what they are doing, or what to do with that charge. I am honestly at this point one more relationship away from just buying a dog and living in the woods.

Goo luck to all men who have read this article.

catalystiko 's picture

I agree that a strong man by


I agree that a strong man by definition is one who should never be aggressive verbally or physically with his partner. But a strong woman is one who should also be supportive and understanding. not just demanding!!!!!! lets face it fellow men, women do go through a lot more emotional turmoil starting from their teenage years. and behind every great man there is always a strong woman who helped shape him! !!!! not control him.......

James's picture

My wife is always angry at me


My wife is always angry at me for no reason, the underlying reason being that she's from a wealthy background and her parents used to buy her everything, but now I'm building a business and have not yet been successful enough to buy her everything she wants, eg a house in the city, we live in a house in a middle ring suburb, and she is always angry because she has to take the train(because she never practices her driving skills in order to drive).
Whenever I do something wrong, such as misunderstand her when she asks me to get something for her, and a get a different item to what she wanted, she explodes about how I'll never change and she has no hope in me, which I try to ignore, but eventually her anger will make me angry back. After I get angry I try to calm down and apologies, but she keeps attacking with condescending rhetorical questions, and gets even more angry if I stop talking in order to avoid yelling back at her.

The issue that makes her angry is that I have promised to become rich, but I have only given her thus far an average standard of life, eg I have a good job but we don't have mercedes etc so she always feels ashamed. I try to let her in on my business plans and the progress, but she rarely takes any interest.
I'm Doing the best I can to address the issue of not being wealthy enough, but what can I do in the meantime to avoid fights?

Tyler Durdan's picture

A) You can get rid of her and


A) You can get rid of her and find another woman. I know plenty of people in these situations and they all end terribly. B) Don't give in to her demands and tell her flat out you are working on your business and making a good life for the two of you and if she has a problem with it she can leave. Basically either grow balls or grow balls. Giving in to everything she wants will only cause her to repeat the same childish selfish behavior and emotionally beat you down. This advice is coming from a strong man who doesn't put up with his girls shit and still gets laid regularly and apologized to when she comes to her senses and realizes she is being unreasonable and rude. There is no excuse for it. It is lack of self discipline on her part. There are plenty of women out there who are kind and reasonable. They will all blow up from time to time. Stand your ground and let them know how much you love them when they calm down.

Fly High Little Bird's picture

I feel sorry for you...


James - I am replying to your post. I feel sorry for you. I know you love this woman and love should not have anything to do with money; but sometimes it has everything to do with it. The truth is, that this is not your problem. It is hers. She cannot deal with her circumstances so she is trying to get you to compensate at your expense. Instead of her dealing with the issue and figuring out how she can solve it by herself; she is using you to try to solve it for her. When she does not get the result she was expecting she then becomes angry because she is back to feeling hopeless again. There is nothing at all you can do for her. She needs to wake up and realize that if she wants to live a wealthy life she needs to figure out how SHE is going to make the money to do so. She married you when you had no money. Even though you gave her hope that you would make the money later she should still get off her butt and do something to help change the way she feels. It is not your responsibility; you are in a co-dependent relationship. She is expecting you to provide just like Daddy did. But you are not Daddy. She needs to wake up. She is responsible for what she gets out of life; and she needs to quit relying on other people to provide for her what she should be doing for herself. Most rich kids thier parents provide for them for life. They pay for the house and cars and whatever else. Some parents do it only till the child leaves college assuming that now they are capable or providing for themselves. She has no concept of the value of money because it has always come so easily for her. It's unfortunate but I don't see this relationship lasting. The first guy who comes along that flirts with her and appears to have the money she will just jump ship because of her unhappiness. You need to bring her back down to earth and reset her expectations about what is reasonable. I wish you the luck I want things to work out for you. The anger is just a symptom of her not getting what she wants. She is having withdrawal symptons of not having her needs met in the way she is used to. If she has always had a driver and a mercedes; and now she has to drive herself and in a Honda, she is going to be continual frustrated. Just like I am frustrated myself. I used to make $25 an hour and now I am with a company in a professional position making $10 an hour. That level of disparity is enough to drive anyone mad. Every day I am reminded of my situation; every time I go to the grocery store; fill up with gas; think about buying clothes or the latest electronics item; everything related to money because I now have to think can I afford to do this? Now imagine how your wife must feel like.

distraught's picture

Rising and Sinking


Thank you so much for this article. I feel validated, guilty as charged but validated.
He came on strong and hot and heavy, then I guess he was done and I was just getting ready for more. But alas I did not know him well enough until he said "sorry hun, I'm all outta quarters" and then proceeded to turn into an ice cube.
Wow, I just went army on him. And of course I was confused and felt terribly humiliated. But he had nothing to say, nothing to give. There was NOTHING!!
My mistake, not confirming our intentions or needs in the beginning. No, I was not falling for his sweet talk, I was actually falling for him.
He's gone AWOL and I can't blame him. But my lesson is to find a man who can keep up with my libido and passion. Maybe younger men. At the same time knowing that when a guy is acting hot and heavy I should ask at the time just how long that's going to last. The sad thing is, I miss him. The sadder thing is I rarely miss anyone. So now I'm facing yet another development along the road of love and life.

distraught's picture

Rising and Sinking


Love is respect. Adoration and Admiration. It's when you say "I love you so much, that whatever you have to do for yourself, wherever you have to go, I wish you the very best"
Love is that feeling when they hold you that the world melts away. Only they can do this for you. Only their touch can heal, calm, warm your soul.
Love is sexual freedom, it says WOW I'm so good with this, this is delicious! And I am so very present, so here with you!
Love is saying I am worried and confused or angry, but I'll never let you leave my soul.
Love is fun, vibrant, silly, vulnerable and protective. Love stands and fights for the other, love is like that.
Love is a blending of souls, true love never dies, that energy lives past life. It creates universes.
Love is passion, it's lust, it's crazy.

Above all it's always moving, always flowing, always in action.
Love is faster then the speed of light. That's probably why alot of us miss it.
It's actually all around any person who has a loving heart and good intentions.
I guess the question would be "ARE YOU LOVE"?

Anonymous's picture

Some ups and downs are fine *but* watch out for extra negativity


I hope my story helps other people in similar situations. For 3 years I was in a live-in relationship with this girl with whom we got along so, so well, our moods matched to a tee and we could uplift each other without much effort. Perfect chemistry in most regards. *However*, on the few occasions we fought, things invariably got out of hand; she'd start, I'd retaliate, we'd end up very angry with each other. When air'd get lighter after a few hours or a day or two, we'd just resume our "normal" selves and be playful, funny and caring with each other. To make things worse, whenever I tried to solve it "rationally" she'd block herself, change topics or even get angry again, just as if she considered her "prerogative" to be mad without any notice whatsoever.

With time, things of course deteriorated between us. By the beginning of the third year, fights became more frequent and with them, personal offenses appeared (also started by her). That's a low *no couple* should allow themselves to sink in. I know and accept my responsibility in the breakup but nothing and no one will convince of other that, even though she was usually such a lovely and warm-hearted girl and apart from having the *expected* highs and lows in female temper, she had the tendency to be negative and revengeful, as in whenever she thought I did something wrong she had to "punish" me, even if that "wrong" could be easily, readily solved. My (much more frequent) good deeds were received by "fine" and "cool", my (infrequent) mistakes by heavy bursts of anger.

My main point: it's fine with women to have some ups and downs in mood, I wholeheartedly accept it (indeed I never met one who didn't have that character trait). However, negativity should not be accepted. Nor personal attacks of any kind. There's only one way those relationships go and it's separation or a life of misery.

Lovelez's picture

Angry and Horny


I'm a girl who just had her first relationship ever with someone, and that someone is also a woman. Not long ago I was talking to my girlfriend on the phone when the conversation was starting to get steamy and was just turning into phone sex.
Unfortunately, my call promo just expired and I had to go out to buy more credits to register again for the call promo and I did some things in between, it took around an hour. When I called her again, she sounded annoyed, and angry. She told me that she lost her appetite for it and that she's going to sleep, and if it happens again that she'll probably never talk to me again. So I left her to sleep some more, and now I realized my mistake when I read this article. Thank you.

Anonymous's picture

rediculous arguments


My gf gets really angry over what Is nothing most of the time. Its rediculous. Literally one second well be fine, and the next second, shes out the door pisst at me. And by yhis time of our relationdhip, I know what it is that ill say. Itll be something like saying something about going out with my friends or me calling her a chicken when im joking around and she clearly knows it. And sometimes shell get mad like 2hrs later over something shes thought about after a good conversation. And she also seems to think I just want her for sex, when we dont have sex all that much, maybe 1 time out of 6 times I see her and she complains and gets all mad and I do everything to show her I love her and care for her and do alot for her and go places with her and buy her nice things and make her dinner and surotise her and stuff. She also thinks its ok for her to do stuff I cant, and say things I cant and when I give her a taste of her own medicine, she gets pisst. I dont understand where I go wrong and why she gets mad. Please help me understand why she does this nonsense.

lee's picture

bEWILDERED


i LIKE THIS PART
– a man who becomes angry as a result of a woman being angry at him reveals himself to be reactive to her moods and attacks – and therefore weak.
AND
ealize the angry woman is tormented, and they want to help her feel better, and know the right way to do so – not by buying presents or saying they’re sorry (that’s what clueless men do, and end up in the same situation again and again), but by addressing the ROOT CAUSE of the anger, as examined above.

Ok. Totally agree with you.
No presents and saying sorry
The problem is it she broke up with me on day after valentine.
and UNFRIEND ME FROM FB. ( I texted her to block me coz it makes no difference!)

Refuse to say why she's angry
It;s been almost a month now

Anonymous 5's picture

Fuck that


If a woman puts her hand on me she getting fucked up. Sorry. I don't let anyone put their hands on me. If you any of you think that's weak, that's your problem, not mine. I'm far from weak. I just don't put up with bullshit.

Anonymous's picture

If you want to give effective


If you want to give effective relationship advice, you could advice guys that in case a woman is angry, you could advice them to sit down and listen to what she has to say.
There is not a simple list of four reasons being angry might happen to someone. But there is one method of finding out: Sitting down and listening, imagining the point of view of the other person.
Women in heterosexual relationships way too often take the burden of trying to see the other person's point of view, and making concessions to them. Simply because if one person in the relationship is not doing that, it is not possible to have a relationship at all.
The ideal would be that both people in a relationship do this, but by the way they are socialised it often does not dawn on men that this is even possible.

Euphorious Epiphany's picture

Here is the bottom line


With all due respect, Ladies, your expectation ABOVE ALL ELSE is for us men to be a mature, compassionate, caring partner who is also fearless, fair and decisive. The problem with many guys out there is they do not go through a formal initiation into manhood that used to be required by the tribe. It took my divorce to open my eyes to this. I was argumentative and had to have it my way. Always agree from the place of rational understanding with women, but make sure she understands her place. Once you let them walk on you...your done, move on

Anonymous's picture

why?


My gf asked me to find and show her pictures from me growing up. On a trip to my moms house I found some and sent them to her via text. I sent several, but all she focused on was one of me at my prom. My thumb covered up my dates face and she blew up asking why would I send that picture and cover her face. Am I missing something, what on earth did I do wrong?

confidence's picture

A lot of women lack confidence/self-esteem.


If your girl is blowing up over BS, it's not because "she's a woman and that's how women act," it's because she has low self esteem and that's what people (regardless of gender) with low self esteem do.

They value themselves so little that they're hurt and angered easily.

I think guys are naturally attracted to these women because they're more "submissive," but in the long term they could bring you down. You need to either help them grow as a person and get more confidence OR just find a woman who is already confident.

Keep in mind, YOU also have to be a confident man to get a confident woman.

Dale's picture

The married guys with angry wives


Read the Married Mans Sex Life Primer by Athol Kay; this site isn't really for married men, although I'm learning a lot here.

Anonymous's picture

Always a fight !!!!


My gf and I were always arguing about to go to a hotel room as we dated.she never wants to go to because it's not suitable before marriage.she said she'll never let to get her before this right time.but I know she's already turn on by me.so,how should I persuade her to come along with me to a hotel room.

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