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Tactics Tuesdays: Part Your Lips

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parted lips
It’s sexy to part your lips. Some of Hollywood’s most alluring leading men have used parted lips. If it works for them, it can work for you too.

Just wanted to do something simple and basic today, after my latest stretch of hard/advanced and gargantuan posts. So today we’ll talk about parted lips.

Parted lips do three things for you:

  1. They make you look sexy
  2. They make you look dumb
  3. They make you look physical

This fits in nicely with Hector’s series on smart men vs. dumb men.

In this article, we’ll talk about when to part your lips and what uses this has.

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SZ's picture

Why does James Dean look so different in the first side by side pic ? Lol he looks like a totally different person.

1. I have normal big lips because I'm black, should I still do this? Will it benefit me much?

2. I really liked the intimidation part! At first I was like what? Then I realized what that look meant, it means you look like a caveman ready to attack!

Could you tell me more about how you use this to intimidate men and women ? Think this would work against black people as well ?

I want to have the mindset to go with this too, you know, I don't want to just do the look, I want to do the look and feel myself, and to show others I'm really about my action, and will back my shit up.

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SZ-

Chase

Jimbo's picture

Looking dumb and ready to attack can serve as a great intimidating trait. There's that. Another thing I do when I'm around potentially harmful guys is to simply uncover my scar. I got a nasty one on my forearm from when I was a kid that most people recoil at seeing it (hence me wearing long-sleeved shirts even in summer), and so what I do is just casually roll up my sleeve and even those guys will kind of flinch at it.

But of course, the easiest, #1 hands down way to be more intimidating is open carry. No contest. People don't even think about fucking with you when your gun is in plain sight. I have a thing when I'm around a bunch of guys I don't know (especially if they're much bigger or look fishy) is to just like adjust my pants on the waist level right around my gun, as if I was about to reach for it, you see folks around you like freeze when you do that, including the guys you're doing this for. That's simply the best way to cut any temptation in any guy from picking a fight or pull some crap like try and steal your girl or something, without having to break the law (in most states) or making a ruckus. Nothing comes even close, and it cuts the bullshit short.

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Jimbo-

Oh, interesting note on the scar. Yeah, bad scars do without doubt make a guy look more dangerous. Looks like he gets into trouble... and survives it, too.

The one time I had a guy reach toward his gun at me, yeah - the effect is profound. It is a very "Am I about to die right now?" moment. They have various studies out there that find people react much quicker on seeing a snake or a spider than on seeing a gun. Though I wonder what those studies would find if they showed a picture of a man reaching for a gun, rather than just a gun in isolation.

Chase

Jimbo's picture

I think the study about the snake kind of makes sense. I mean, rationally speaking, true, a gun is more dangerous than a spider. But these kinds of quick reactions are instinctive, i.e. produced from the older parts of our brain. And so it wouldn't be a surprise if the reptilian brain recognized a snake as a threat rather than a gun. With a gun, you have to realize rationally first its potential for harm. We only fear guns because we've seen over and over and heard about their potential for harm.

Lawliet's picture

Hey Chase,

Thanks for the lips parting explanation.
One day my lips were dry, and I was parting them and pursing them again and again and girls were staring, so that explains it XD.

Re: Maneuvering in parties or group events

It's pasted from my log. A little long but it's needed to illustrate my point. Please bear with me.
I've truncated as much as I could.

So in a group event or parties, you see a girl you want to engage.

Approach her and she opens up! Complies! great!
Can't break circle of course.
Neither do you shotgun approach now (both, you'll be punishing her for GOOD behaviour of opening up).

But after 15 min, you have to choose.
Move her? Then escalate at an isolated place. And then maybe leave the party and have some intimacy.

Or grab her contact? and then leave.

But here's the dilemma.
Let's say you don't want to leave the party. Maybe you're waiting for your friend who invited you and it'll be rude to leave without saying hi or you enjoy it and want to hang back.

If you grab her contact, and move on to chat with others. She will think you're just being social.

If she sees you chatting up other girls after her, she'll auto reject.

What can you do?
Guy: Maybe keep chatting?

That's what most guys do.
And that's where they flop. Why?

Three folds:

First, Girls really feel weirded out when conversation is drawn out without reason.
I didn't believe this before until I've seen it happen to me and other guys Who chat girls up.

You see these girls light up and then have a "pleease end the suffering!" Look as if they're sentenced to the medieval torture devices !

Most guys worry about not having things to say when in reality... They're SAYING TOO MUCH!

And girls break circle to bow out of awkwardness.

Secondly, you can't really cement much connection or go deep into personal questions when everyone is around. Or at a party or event when a performance or a talk or a sports playoffs is the MAIN focus.

Environments affect people.

Lastly, the long talk phenomenon.
When you chat more than 15 min with a girl the FIRST time you meet her without moving forward and escalating, but instead number closing, she's not likely to text you back. Chase predicted this in his text article. I'm starting to get why.

It's somewhere on the lines of chatter mouth screw up where the chatterbox just keeps running off.
Or escalation windows.

Namely, maybe you dived deep and she expected something to come but only gets a number exchange - disappointing.

Maybe she's worried the next time you two meet, she won't know what else to share with you after telling you her whole life the first time because something should have happened already.

But it's weird when you think in her perspective.
Meeting a guy the first time and you ended up chatting for hours with this dude. And it just comes to "let's meet next time". YOU TWO JUST MET... All that time you spent with a stranger as you two talked for so long.

It feels off to her when nothing results after, given that two strangers normally don't chat that long.
Also, she might be busy, since this interaction was not planned ahead of time. Thus, you instantly become a burden to her.

If you can't make a move now, save it for next time and end the first encounter.

With that said, I'm dumbfounded.
1. If you can't leave,
2. if you can't move her and escalate (leaving the party),
3. if you can't just number close and let her see you engage others/other girls,
4. AND if you can't stick around and chat a long mile with her till the end....

What the heck can you do in this situation?

EDIT: Ok, 2nd scenario:
Let's say you CAN ISOLATE her and ESCALATE and then maybe get a quickie SEX in the closet or washroom, then coming out again, she will still be at the event. Would it be ok to approach others and social or even other girls in which she will see?

Maybe social with others is fine now as she won't be doubting your interest, but approaching other girls still an option?

Lawliet

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Lawliet-

Yeah, that's tricky. A few times when I was starting out I had scenarios like that, where I chose to just leave the party after I'd grabbed the girl's contact info. As I recall, none of those girls I ever met up with. So I abandoned that as a strategy.

So what you do instead is mingle. You chat with the girl for a bit, get her interested, but not too interested, then you tell shift into a conversation with someone else nearby. Then someone else. Then someone else. Then you shift back to her for a bit. Then shift to someone else. Etc.

Women end up much more interested as a result of this strategy. And you have a not-low chance of ending up with a girl later on that night, if done right (either the original girl, or another one you meet along the way).

If you get a quick bathroom/bedroom/outdoors hookup, same deal. Mingle on... unless you want to pair up with her for the night. If you really like her and she really likes you, you can always pair up. Otherwise, let her go, and return to your mingling :)

Chase

SZ's picture

Hey Chase,

1. I have days where I feel like a energetic superhero and can do anything, then I have days where I feel like giving up and being lazy and depressed. How do I keep my energy and confidence to do anything ?

2. I remember one of your comments and you said that I can change my future, it made me happy because I feel like it's too late for me to change anything, and having horrible math skills has made me a failure, but you telling me that gives me confidence.

3. For us to succeed, do we need to think we're special ? Because why would we out of all people be successful and others can not? Wouldn't we be special then? Idk just trying to have a positive mindset for achieving success.

4. In a recent comment you said I do about 5% of what you tell me to do. Damn, that has to change!

From what I remember was it mostly doing cold approach and fighting depression, and getting off the dance floor with clubs?

I'm at the point right now I'll do anything to start seeing some success, if you want me to go to the mall to approach, I'll go, etc. Just tell me the other 95% of what u want me to do to finally get good at this and I'll do it. I'll keep referring back to this comment to remember what I have to do.

It just seems to me that the club is the easiest to keep approaching in, when in out during the day I only see very young women or old married women. I'm serous, and I'd move if I could, but I don't even have money to move out in the same state I'm in.

I also see on another comment that you said if I don't do cold approach or the other notch count thing I should have more realistic expectations, and get a girlfriend. I'll tell you now that having one gf will not solve my problem, I need more experience and I need more notches. Even with getting a gf I have to still cold approach anyway. I know Many people don't do it, but I really have no option but to. I want the skill to have the freedom to do this and get mostly any girl I want.

5. I feel my main problems is that I don't want to look to thirsty and get rejected by strangers. My ego will take a massive hit and I'll be embarrassed. I feel like I'll be wasting the girls time and stuff. There's so much pressure on me to do good and these girls don't show me any attention or invitation at all. So It makes it hard for me to even see of they want to be approached. Have any tips?

6. I'm not around a lot of females, so there's no opportunity for me, I keep going to the club, but I'm missing more opportunities by not being around a lot of females. What can I do to be around more women ?

Just tell me the other 95% of what I have to do to finally get out of my head and start getting my notched up. If you have to link comments of stuff you said already, ok, if you want me to go to the supermarket, mall, etc. 3 times a week I will. I'll just keep referring to this comment to remind myself what I have to keep working on.

Thank you.

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SZ-

Check out bipolar disorder. That may describe you. Of course, everyone has down and up days. But if you have days where you're manic and filled with energy, and other days where you're just completely depressed, good chance it's bipolar.

I'm not an expert on handling mood swings; it isn't something I've dealt with myself. I'd suggest you seek out someone who is and hear what he has to say on it.

Most successful people seem to view themselves as ordinary humans with one or two extraordinary gifts, talents, or abilities. Whereas unsuccessful people will simply view themselves as special... not "I am special because I have XYZ extraordinary ability" but just "I am special because I'm me"... or they view themselves as anti-special: "I'm an insignificant nobody whom no one cares about or respects" - which is a way of defining yourself through lack (i.e., "I am NOT special... but I want to be").

Just tell me the other 95% of what u want me to do to finally get good at this and I'll do it. I'll keep referring back to this comment to remember what I have to do.

Follow the steps in the post on depression every day for the next 90 days to gain better emotional awareness and control. Then complete the Newbie Assignment, all 14 days, one day at a time, even if it feels like you are too skilled or can skip a day. Do not skip any days. Post a report for each day in a journal in the Journals board. After you've done 14 days, you should start to have an idea about what to do next. If you don't, ask on the boards: "Hey guys, I just finished Day 14 of the Newbie Assignment and completed all 14 days. But I'm not sure what to work on next. What should I do next?"

If you do this, you will have done everything I think you need to do for the first 2 weeks to get yourself moving in a positive direction.

(I know there is more stuff, like visualization or specific techniques, etc... but you need to add a piece at a time, not everything all at once)

I feel my main problems is that I don't want to look to thirsty and get rejected by strangers. My ego will take a massive hit and I'll be embarrassed.

Well, you've gotta choose: what's more important to you?

  1. I want to be able to meet women anywhere and everywhere. But I accept that to do that I will have to take initiative and some/most of the women I approach won't be interested vs.

  2. I want to save myself from facing social embarrassment. The prospect of copious sex with beautiful women I meet in random, exciting, and unexpected ways is not nearly reward enough to deal with the sting of potentially looking silly in front of some people if I approach and a girl rejects me

Right now, by virtue of only rarely approaching, you're mostly in the #2 position. Which is a choice you've made; non-action ("I'm not going to approach") is a choice, just like action is (see that? You are in control of your life. Your choice was "I don't want to look silly, and that is more important to me than trying to develop this skill set, which I'd like to develop, but am not 100% confident I can").

In answer to your inevitable question ("How can I be 100% confident I can do this?") the answer is short of hypnosis or brainwashing, you won't be certain you can do it until after you've done it.

(my life, I can tell you, has been one long series of me saying "This sounds ridiculous, but let me see if I can make it work")

What can I do to be around more women ?

Are you subscribed to the Girls Chase newsletter? Did you get my email a few weeks or a month ago about various unconventional places you can meet girls?

Failing that, you will have to get creative. Look around your town, explore, see where women hang out.

If it really just is a small, boring town with few women, then you'll need to move if you want to realistically get decent at cold approach. To develop the cold approach skill set takes volume, and that is very hard to accomplish in a small town without some level of natural ability at the outset.

Chase

Don's picture

Hey chase,

I have a conversation question

I’m having a little trouble with relating in conversations. I get that I need to focus on the girl. So I ask questions and deep dive, which I have gotten good at, but it’s relating part, when I need to say something back to her, is where I have been tripping up every now and then

-Should I relate what she says to something I have gone thru?
-Should i make an assumption from what she said
-I know I can just deep dive more, but sometimes it feel awkward just to ask question after question.

Should I have a ratio of how much I relate what she said to me vs assumptions I make? And should I use any other tactics when relating

Are there any posts directly focusing on relating you can refer me to?

This is my weak spot in my game so Any advice would be appreciated

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