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A Feminine Man, Done Right, Can be Wildly Sexy to Women

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Hector Castillo's picture

feminine man
Masculinity is good. But a feminine man who is still sexual and dominant offers something uniquely special women just go nuts for.

We focus heavily on becoming masculine here at Girls Chase, because it’s a problem that plagues most men reading this.

You’re probably too feminine.

To define this, allow me to define some feminine behaviors:

  • Meek body language: avoiding people’s personal bubbles – if something makes you feel small, it’s feminine body language (e.g., standing with legs close together)

  • Words that temper the assertiveness of your assertions (e.g., “It’s just this” or “I was only saying that…”)

  • Flamboyant gestures (e.g., rolling your eyes)

  • Extravagant clothing (e.g., peacocking)

On that last point, though, strangely, it’s the males of almost every species on earth that “peacock” and display the most colorful coats, feathers, or behaviors to attract women. My argument would be that males are demonstrating their feminine energy to more closely link with women.

This principle, that the feminine attracts the feminine, is the heart of this article.

For a lot of men, though not all, their problem isn’t attracting women. What I’ve noticed, upon reflection, is that I’ve never really had trouble attracting women, even absolute stunners.

What the journey in game, then, seems to be about is:

  1. Increasing the frequency and degree of attraction I receive from stunning women (i.e., fundamentals)

  2. Learning how to take that attraction and lead it to bed (i.e., game)

Women are, I’d guess, far more attracted to you than you think. I know this because I will go out with guys who are in every sense beginners and immediately spot women who are attracted to them. I tell them to approach, and it goes amazingly well.

The reason they don’t close is because of their game.

Therefore, when I say, for anyone intermediate or below, you’re probably too feminine, I’m saying that you probably attract women you yourself are genuinely attracted to (distinct from doggish horniness), but you lack the male aggression to close the deal. For those who already have that masculine spirit nailed down, we can actually take a journey back into the feminine energy and amplify it to amplify attraction (and also induce chasing).

Feminine behaviors will mostly help with:

  1. Tempering your attainability

  2. Calming your over-aggression

  3. Encouraging women to chase

But before we begin, one note.

Comments

U's picture

Hi Hector,
Big fan of your articles here on GC, especially the college ones - great stuff.

In regards to this article, I can definitely see what you're getting at in regards to attainability being the crux of the reason to be feminine - as it may be 'too much' aggression etc from masculinity. I get that, I can agree with that too. And I feel this is not a topic for a beginner, as most men in society are effeminate and doctrined... to tell them to calibrate that would be a confusing aspect... Wouldn't it be better for a beginner to hone his masculinity first a lot more, *then* deciding to dial it down with feminine actions? Do let me know your thoughts on that.

Also, with your natural friend's story...is this something you have observed across the spectrum that feminine men are doing better...which would confuse me with the narrative of a lot of the other articles on this site.

Regards,
U

kevin265's picture

Hi "U" :)

I had the same thoughts as you, but i think the first point got already answered by hector in the article:
"...Therefore, when I say, for anyone intermediate or below, you’re probably too feminine, I’m saying that you probably attract women you yourself are genuinely attracted to (distinct from doggish horniness), but you lack the male aggression to close the deal. For those who already have that masculine spirit nailed down, we can actually take a journey back into the feminine energy and amplify it to amplify attraction (and also induce chasing)."

And the second point: i think what Hector is trying to tell us, is that not feminine men are doing better but men who have a perfect sweetspot of masculinity and femininity :D And this sweetspot is different from each person to the next (i dont think i will ever use Hairspray for instance ^^... well but who knows :D)

aks's picture

you nailed influence and dominance to the point.

Jimbo's picture

Hey Hector. Very interesting article. I never thought I'd read about dating advice advising men to be feminine. But strangely enough, much of it made sense. Most of it except for this part:

"When a woman sees another woman who is genuinely beautiful and expresses admiration, there is genuine attraction intermingled there, along with jealousy and hate.

It’s the woman in you that attracts her. It’s the man in you that plows her."

Here you're basically depicting the average woman as a lesbian or a bisexual at least. I don't think a woman is physically attracted to your feminine traits, or else why not just go for women outright? I'm pretty sure she'd like to be plowed by the same gender that she was attracted to. Or did I miss something in what you're saying?

About this part: "Remember, men are mostly designed for killing and humping; it’s the woman inside of us that chooses to socialize instead of pillage and take." -- Even our socializing, much of it is for the purpose of "taking". I mean why do men socialize? While part of it is just to chill with their buddies after a work day, much of it is to either pick up girls (take, hump) or build networks and alliances or connections for business (acquiring resources) or for gaining access to new places and circles (territories). The modes have changed but the ends and motives (acquisitiveness, expansion) remain pretty much the same.

Damien1's picture

Props on the Article! I can definitely relate to this. It works very good in social circle where you are often around a girl and can't be too obvious about your interest. On cold approach I like being more direct but it can backfire too easily in a group. Btw I really like your "whatshereallymeans" instagram, really good and useful breakdowns of conversations and it's cool that you also post the ones that didn't go anywhere! Could add a bunch of them too ahahah.

PS: I can't log into the comment section with my board account (Damien), is that intentional?

Mike's picture

Awesome post man. I would love to hear some more stories about this natural friend of yours. I would love a life like that. Instagram models every week. That is the fucking pinnacle. How do you get there? What are your theories to how come this guy is so damn good? Purely natural? Know anything about his past?

I will try some of the techniques. Personally I like being very playful with girls but have suppressed it, especially while texting. I have great closing game so I will let myself go a little more now and see what kinds of results it brings.

B's picture

Could you do an interview with your friend so that we could pick up on vibes, etc?

lux7's picture

I love reading your articles and refreshing style Hector.

This one was good -except the "steal all your bitches joke :)- but I think the attractiveness of the feminine side goes deeper though, including, for example, the fact that it works because it makes women feel more at ease and more comfortable.
And that it gives them the fantasy of having sex with a girlfriend with a penis.

B's picture

If you approach her, get her number, take her on a date, then bring her home to have sex, and all along she was going with your requests, suggestions, and demands, she was chasing.

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