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Tactics Tuesdays: Demo Seduction

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demo seduction
If you already have something you’re good at doing with a girl, you can “demo” it on her – and get her even more sucked in to the seduction.

In yesterday’s article on being too girl crazy, I mentioned something I dubbed ‘demo seduction’. Demo seduction, I noted, is a way of telling a girl exactly what you’re doing to her, as you do it. In today’s Tactics Tuesdays article, I’ll detail this tactic a lot further for you.

Before we dive in though, a note on who can use this.

Demo seduction works best for men who are confident in the techniques they demonstrate. Usually you will reserve this for tactics you’re familiar with and have used enough times before you demo them. While it is possible to use this with brand new techniques (say, you’re going to try a new physical escalation ladder for the first time, and will describe it to her as you do it), you’re not going to be as smooth, since you’re trying to both describe the technique and figure out how to perform the technique at the same time.

As such, I do not recommend you couple this with brand new tactics. Stick to demo’ing things you already do and are able to make work, and you’ll get the most mileage out of your demos. This will mostly be a tactic for men who are intermediate and up.

Now let’s talk about what this is, how it works, and just why it’s so much fun (and so good!).

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Lawliet's picture

Hey Chase,

So in the situation of compressed dates, third one being "let's cook together" at your place, what would you do if you didn't have a pad as an option (maybe roommates or parents etc.).

I was thinking "My oven is broken (which is actually true), let's go grab some groceries and cook at your place instead".

But what if she also don't have clear logistics.
Living with parents or roommate is so common in Vancouver due to skyrocketing housing prices, it's insane...
Therefore, people 20-mid30s almost don't have their own pad... renting is an option but many also have roommates to split the financial burden...so approaching and filtering becomes like this:

Then what do we do when we are using compressed (3 step) dates?

Re: Creative logistics
You told me to be creative so I took a look around my city.
Yeah, I tried giving them a hard thought.
1. Your pad
2. Her pad
3. Anywhere

My mind hasn't gotten to the point of generating the third option.
Sure, the park or another public place is option, and from what I know, the process is similar as the other places except knowing others might be able to see you (ex. You still kiss her on the neck and escalate...nothing changes).

With maybe an exception from Colt's article on Public sex, you don't take off all the clothes, but only what's needed for copulation. So if you two need to book it due to surprises like spotting a prowling tiger hiding behind the bush who also wishes to join in with fulfilling mother nature, you can easily wrap up your garments and... book it... XD

Also, the Third option, given my current skill level,, I feel that's a jump I'm not comfortable yet too given I had no prior experience with closing because of lack of logistics.
Hence, I might be stuck.

Additionally, if we consider the factors, including logistics and emotional, we have something like this:
(She has a pad) + (She likes you) + (She's also comfortable with men) + (She's attractive)
Last option, I'm pretty lenient as long as she's not fat.
Second and third combination, not always, but it happens every now and then...
But the four of them combined...leads to low chances...
4 to the power of 4 for probabilities

Please don't hesitate to give any input, your advice will help me lots!

Lawliet

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Lawliet-

What's wrong with taking girls to the beach or getting a hotel room? Look for hotels that have hot tubs and use that as the selling point - "let's rent a hot tub." If it's the beach, if you're worried about crowds, just drive a bit outside of town. Drive along the coast, find a nice secluded beach, then when it's date time, take her to a bar or restaurant near the secluded beach, then take her to the secluded beach after.

If these are out and there's nothing else you're comfortable with logistics-wise, then my suggestion for you is to start screening girls fast for girls with their own places. Roommates are okay, so long as the roommate isn't always at home. For the third date, just tell her you'd like to cook some food with her, but don't want to do it when her roommate's around, and just ask her what night her roommate will be out.

Chase

SZ's picture

Chase,

What made you do complete 180 as a person and stay permentaly ?

I'm referring to articles I've read where you didn't want to travel and were a very cautious person with everything you did, but you did mostly everything you feared and were cautious about.

It's like you did a complete 180 and became a new person.

I can do that for a short while, but it never sticks, I go back quickly, sometimes I think I can do it, but I don't.

What did you do to keep it consistent? Was it easy for you to just say fuck it and do it, or something else?

I need to change many things about me to truly be happy.

I've been on here too long to say I'm a beginner, I actually refuse to now, I just can't.

What made me even write this post is because I actually had a girl approach me hard on the dance floor, I didn't have to do anything, we danced, she left, I felt I messed up by not going for her number sooner. I didn't want to look thirsty I thought to myself so I let her go, then I realized that thinking like that is fuckin shit up, later I saw her and grabbed her, we all know how that went after I messed up from before.

I was angry for thinking I was thirsty if I would of asked for her number after she left after her dance.

The girl wasn't anything special, it's just I'm thinking to my self "did I really not pull this chick because I didn't want to look thirsty and get rejected, after she came up on me?" It happened so fast and I was like why the fuck did I let her get away.

That right there was when I had enough of it, because I always try not to look thirsty or get rejected, but luckily I still tried to get her, even though it didn't work because I guess auto-rejection.

I was just curious on what your thoughts were and how you finally just did what you didnt want to do at first, and how you just persevered and stuck with it, despite any failures you had, and also how you wouldn't let yourself give up no matter what. From girls, traveling, to business.

Because I too am a very cautious person that thinks about a lot of the negatives, and wants to just say fuck it and make that change because when stuff like what happened with that girl, it haunts me because I doubted success, it's something I always did, and never want it to happen again.

I Would greatly appreciate your advice.

P.s.

1. Chase, how do you pick up chicks currently? Mostly day game? How much club? Can you still fuck a lot of girls from day game alone? I'm asking because I'm thinking that I will have to do just day gane when I'm older in my 40s, 50s, etc.

2. What do you do about being a regular at day game locations, and clubs? I don't want the reputation as a pick up dude because there aren't so many places I can go. Wouldn't people notice you after going to places so much?

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SZ-

Well, I did them to confront my fears and get out of my comfort zone. And then when I tried them out, I was hooked. The idea of travel made me very uncomfortable, until I took an overseas trip and had an incredible time. Then I decided to do more - took another trip, also incredible. Then another, also incredible. Then another, also incredible. Then you get hooked.

If that isn't happening for you, you probably aren't building in wins to the things you do. e.g., for me with travel, I made sure I went with people I liked a lot, to places that seemed interesting to me. Wins are sort of built in at that point - it'll be a place you want to go, and even if it isn't that great you'll spend a week with cool people you quite like, which can make any place great.

I will say with both travel and business, I got to ease into them because I had the right people and connections around me. I had a wingman propose an overseas trip to me, and then it turned out a girl I'd met whom I liked a lot was also booked on the same trip (one of those "how the heck can that be true?" coincidences). So we all went. And then I ended up sleeping with and dating that girl, she invited me on a few more trips; another couple of buddies of mine wanted to take some trips; and away I went. In business, I was writing a lot on forums, guys liked my advice and asked me to set up a website, and then another guy contacted me and said hey dude, I want to coach and I have a whole curriculum already laid out, but nobody knows who I am. You've got this site and this brand and lots of guys in California know who you are and like you, how about we team up?

So in both those cases, I had opportunities fall into my lap, and the only hurdle I had was, "I don't want to say yes, but I think I should because maybe it'll be good for me." The only hard part was just saying "yes." But I specifically cultviated cool, awesome, ambitious, interesting people and opportunities and worked hard to provide a lot of value. And the people I attracted to myself showed up and gave me those early pushes.

With girls, you know, I had a lot of false starts. A lot of abortive attemtps at regular approaching, starting from when I was 16 maybe. At 18 I decided I was just going to go rent an apartment above a nightclub and go there every night until I figured out how to pick up girls... but I gave up after the first trial night and never rented the apartment. Finally hit rock bottom before my 22nd birthday and said fuck it, I'd better do this, or I'll suck forever. Still was a very slow progression into approaching, and when I discovered the pickup community a year later I immediately signed up for a bootcamp. Main reason for that was not to learn (I mistakenly thought I knew everything I needed to know at the time... the bootcamp was awesome, gave me tons of awesme tech and experiences and demonstrations... just blew my mind), but to get me another push. And I told my coaches that: "This is to get you to push me to approach, and then after it's over I'm going to do everything in my power to maintain that momentum." And after it was over, I did - I kept going out, and kept pushing myself to socialize.

So I guess in my case, usually, you'd say I've sought out friends or mentors who will give me the initial push into something that is scary or uncomfortable. And then once I've had that push andgotten past the fear, I take it from there.

Chase

Dale's picture

I am up there, and the big clubs are out (but as an introvert they always were), but small clubs are good hunting grounds, especially with the female staff. The last one I went to I had IOIs from two attractive bartenders, the singer in the band, and one waitress was pushing her daughter at me (the mom was younger than me). Unfortunately, I was too tired to make it to closing time.

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