If Your Girl is Bored, Change These 6 Things

I just wanted to say thank you for allowing me the privledge of all the knowledge you and this website has to offer. This website has literaly taken my dating game to the next level. I used to be one of those "nice guys" because that is what i thought everywoman wanted me to be. did not even kiss a girl untill I was 20!! LMFAO how lame is that!!! Now i work out religiously (lifting and sprinting) to get that physique that makes women weak. because of your site I had a very proud moment. The girl I was dating one day said that she did not want to date me anymore, taking your advice we talked it out and i remained calm and unbitter and accepted it like a champ all chill with little to no emotion. we parted seperate ways and I dropped all contact. out of the blue she started texting me, and asked me to go to lunch with her, reluctantly i oblidged and she bought me lunch, we went back to her place and I helped her study, I felt an extreme amount of sexual tension, I fought through my concinse saying "she doesent want this" and taking your advice of moving fast I did, note this was within 10 minutes, I turned to her and said "even though were not dating anymore we can still have fun" and we went at it. After which she said "your such a bad boy". One of my proudest moments. just wanted to share one of the experiences that without this site most likely would not have been possible. so thank you!

Best post in some time, my life has changed from this site and much appreciation to you.
I always check for updates and each one makes me feel more positive!

This is so much relief to me. My girlfriend broke up with me about 5 months ago. I was apparently the "Nice guy" and I gave her all the things a girl would ever want! I really couldn't understand why this had to happen until I read this article. You have no idea how much respect you've gained from me. Thank you so much !

my girlfriend hits me all the time and makes me cry...how do i stop this? she also is the man in the relationship.

Being readin this blog for a while now and its really being helpful, I tried ur advice On texting and it works like crazy,not gotten anyunreplied text ever since.even girls who acted like they they didn't feel my vibe. can't wait to try some other advice on other girls. this site is jackpot. Thanx loads man.

Hi Chase,

I've been coming across your articles for a while now because every time i'm trying to understand my girl i'm on the net trying to work her out and your articles are always there - Great stuff!

I'm in a particular pickle though and it isn't quite as simple as your post makes it out to be. I'll explain through my particular story.

With this particular girl we started dating 4 months ago and it was non-stop sex without condoms (i know, stupid) and passion and we both knew what we were doing until the inevitable happened and she fell pregnant last month. Since then we've done nothing but fight and had some pretty heated spats. About either keeping the baby or not and sometimes she wanted to and now she doesn't (to which i'm rather devasted but she is considerably younger than me and says she is too young) even though she admits that within the madness of the last few months it was almost like it was something we both wanted.

I still like her allot and would like to pursue a relationship with her but she has become considerably colder and distant with me and we hardly see that much of each other now but says she isn't interested in anyone else and wants to continue seeing me but that she's all messed up and emotional about the pregnancy / abortion and that i should just wait and see how she feels afterwards. Obviously this has an affect on me because i don't sense a feeling of passion from her but don't know if it really is because of her hormones or she just isn't interested anymore but is using me for support while she goes through with this.

Now, some people have said it's because she doesn't feel secure with me, even though i have tried to tell her i want a relationship but she also knows i'm a bit of a party animal. The other side is that she was, until pregnant, a bit of a party girl herself, so other advice people have said is she has just lost interest.

So i'm stuck now between thinking i should open up more and give her a sense of security or just play hard to get making her feel less secure and see if she responds with interest.

As she seems so unsure i told her to just be straight with me and not waste my time if she's not interested anymore and whether i should just forget about her and start dating other women - mute response to that!

So can you advise here or link me to one of your articles that may shed some light on it for me?

Thanks a million from a new reader

Anon

In addition to the King's suggestion (yes I am indeed in love via the internet), search his article on Self Expansion because sometimes you can be all man but you're boring and stagnate.

Hey Chase,
this article is really amazing to me and explains exactly what my girlfriend was trying to tell me! She actually flat out told me she missed the chase....
So i have pretty much done everything you say not to do and
my girlfriend knows i'm more invested in her then she is in me.
Do you guys think i can salvage the relationship, or should i try to move
on? Any tips are very much appreciated.

YOUR GOING TO WANT TO READ THIS ONE!!!!

Okay so my relationship was/is very complicated. Due to some major dissagreements and some previous bad history we split up after being married a few years and having a kid. We never completely totally went our seperate ways but we did divorce, did live in seperate households and did our own thing for several years before i began to try to put things back together because she is my best friend and we also have a child together and i love her.

I have been in a catch 22 situation and i think i might have finally cracked the nut on it....... Read On

So here is the short version..... She and I dated...had a passionate relationship with some volatile situations a few times than we got pregnant, than we got married..... than we got divorced than i started to try to put us back together. It has been a trecherous and difficult road, one i wouldn't recommend to anybody, but i am finally seeing light at the end of the tunnel. In order to regain her trust and emotional security almost completly lost from me divorcing her... i had to overly commit and become the super super nice guy which was needed so she could feel some type of security versus NONE at all and just have resentment. Well in doing this i did regain much of her confidence and trust...it took alot of patience on my end and tolerating things i would normally not tolerate but the worse part was that it created the issue of me being too nice, no challenge for her which in turn = bordome and relationship killer!! i was damed if i did and damed if didn't. She complained if i did something that jolted her trust in anyway and when i was overly committed, she actually told me that i was too nice and that she wanted to come to me. Well after two years of being dedicated to making her get over most of her resentment issues, i finally got into a place where i could get back into a position where i could start creating a little more resistance...the resistance needed to create the instability that keeps women on their toes and puts the control back on my side of the court. So long story short....... if your committed, patient and play your cards right....anything is possible....... Good Luck guys

Excellent post!
I need to start applying this ASAP.
I feel like my girlfriend is too secure right now, to the point of me feeling like crap.
It's time to regain control by shaking her security a little bit.

Thank you you might have just saved my realeashanship(srt for bad english)

Well I met this girl we started getting serious kissing and having sex but she don't want to get in a relationship because she's been recently separated and going through the divorce she said all she wants is a friends with benefits right now and don't give me wrong everything is going great but she's always on the phone always talking to people on Snapchat always sending pictures back-and-forth but she doesn't want to relationship with me but she talks with everybody else and we have sex all the time so I just get out of it or what do I do

when a girls already in charge, we are doom! :D , to day I just said missed her so bad ! and I ask validation is it okay to miss her! and she reply, its okay! but guess what, she start to ignore me and not reply my text! to be honest I felt like stupid man! because I gave my secret! but I actually I plan to do that anyway, so I am not bother with what she think! and the I just delete her contact! thanks god, I use BBM, to communicate with her, so she will find out, if delete her contact! let's see what happen next :)
I am using this kind of tac tic, and almost works everytime!
tell her that we love her, and then walk away! just make sure she know that we leaving after she's being arrogant! :) i.e feeling guilty!