If you want to be respected, you must set boundaries. But how do
you set these, without looking reactive, defensive, or weak?
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A former student of mine asked:
“Hey, Denton, how do you balance being grounded and not being affected by others while also not being weak, a pushover, or being seen as passive?”
How can you assert boundaries without appearing reactionary? When your girlfriend is acting up, you cannot possibly ignore her. If a guy is aggressively crossing the line, you cannot simply stand by. What is one to do?
These are great questions! And they are often a source of dilemma for many guys.
Well, I find the biggest misunderstanding is the huge difference between being grounded and being passive.
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Cutting people off
Great read.
Being able to (or affording to) cut people off and replacing them is a great source of social power. That's why having a large enough network of friends + acquaintances is important for a man. It makes more people replaceable to you, and when people know their replaceability it's more likely to keep them in line.
It's basically the abundance mentality in dating except at a broader societal level.
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