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money and sex
Women are supposed to like money. So why don’t nice cars, jobs, and apartments always get men laid?

In June 2006, I graduated university and took a job. I had an important-sounding job at a prestigious corporation. Everyone knew the name of this company, and everyone knew it was a great company. At the time, I had a less nuanced notion of status more than I do now, and I figured my great job for a high status corporation would net me major points on the dating scene. After five months of grinding it out in college town nightclubs three or four nights a week as just another student trying to pick up girls, now, at last, I had the magic pass: I was a high prestige, high status, money-making machine!

My first month in my new town of Washington, D.C., I made sure every girl I met found out where I worked and what I did. I did it in a smooth way; I wasn’t socially awkward about it. I made sure the girl asked me first where I worked, before I said anything. Most seemed impressed; I’d often get raised eyebrows and a pleasant, “Oh!” And when, after a few weeks, I received my business cards, I felt confident I was about to become unstoppable with girls. I often took to handing these out to women after I’d made a great first impression, confident they’d fast get back in touch.

Yet within a month, I’d stashed my business cards away in the corner of a cabinet somewhere; not a single girl I’d given a card to had texted or called (and I’d given out a lot of cards). I quit mentioning my company or position to girls altogether. But I hadn’t learned my lesson quite yet. A year-and-a-half later, I went down the same status symbol road with my sleek Mercedes-Benz, and ended up at the same destination: after a month or so of showing it off, I soon shelved “the Mercedes approach” and began to hide my car from girls instead.

The reason why was the same both times: when women found out I had a good job, or a nice car, they didn’t put out. Dates were more awkward; sex would not happen. Sexual vibes were almost impossible to create.

These status symbols, impressed as my friends and coworkers were, worked against me with women.

That’s the paradox: make more money, buy more expensive things, and... get laid less.

But why should this be, when everything you see on TV, the commercials, and the movies says it’s supposed to work completely opposite to this?

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stallion's picture

I have been waiting for this postup from Chase.Finally someone addresses the issue clearly. The lesson is to either go big or not at all.
I better start working hard to get that Lamborghini or Ferrari. It is so much hard-work to stand out thou. I live in London and there are these arab guys always flaunting their super cars on the streets of london....everyone just stands and watch. I better start pulling in six figures
And like you said a sexy bachelor pad is essential as well.

Slay's picture

Chase,

I noticed that sex symbols usually have varying degrees of intensity in their facial expressions but they still look intense nonetheless, except for Gary Cooper he always looked warm.

When do you think one should opt for looking more intense as in eyebrows a bit furrowed and when should we be using warm expressions during the interactions?

I noticed that I have a face of warmth 24/7 and this makes me really approachable and my tension isn't as high as I'd like it to be.

Also Chase one time you mentioned while walking you should either look intensely focused, or carefree and relaxedly attractive(can't remember verbatim).

Could you show me an example of what the latter looks like?

One last thing. When I don't socialize for a week in a row. I become kind of uncool. I become a bit twitchy and not being able to handle tension, not being as relaxed, attainability sky rockets, etc.

After about 2 days of socializing I go back to peak attractiveness/game and I become a leader. Is this unevitable?

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Slay-

For the carefree expressions I suggest, both Sean Connery's under #1 and James Dean's under #4 would qualify in this article:

As for rusty after not talking to people... Yes. If you don't socialize for a while, you have to warm back up. If there's a way to avoid this, I don't know what it is! Just part of being a human. Stuff you haven't used in a while you recede from peak effectiveness on. Then once you're using it again, it all comes back to you. Unavoidable.

Chase

SZ's picture

So I guess the next article is gonna be getting laid when you're broke, it's only right ;)

I have a lot of questions for this article, I would appreciate if you answered them for me. I made them very short. This article has me really put many questions into my head.

1. I'm not 100% sure, but I think I read you got a degree in psychology? How did you get your corp job with it?

2. For your benz, What did you check for when making sure that it was good? I always hear that used luxury cars are hard to maintain. How old would you go?
10 years? Would you also recommend a used one over leasing a new one? I was thinking of getting a used luxury car, but didn't want to deal with high repairs or people thinking I'm tryna floss with an older car( nothing's wrong with that in my opinion, but I'm talking about people in the hood; they always try to talk shit).

3. I'm still trying to understand how you get girls to drive you around? I have done this, but I was way younger, so it made it easier.

More or less how they agree to do it? It's hard getting them on a date itself. How do you make them want to do it and what do you actually say to get them to? "How bout you drive?" I would love to have girls drive me instead, just tell me what I need to do, and say.

4. What are half decent jobs and professional jobs to you?

5. How can I still shit on my doubters? I just want to get something nice to shit on my doubters, but i dont want that to mess me up with girls. I'm not at the point to get a BMW or Bentley, but I want to show them I got my shit handled.

6. I'm surprised you never mentioned if you have a shitty car or an old car. Is it ok for them to see that or does that make it a lot worse for you? Should you hide it?

7. You saying corp slave job makes me really want to get a business bad haha. I feel that I need to really do that now. I was just wondering how can I even do that when I'm having a hard time finding a good job and getting a stem degree

8. You kinda discussed this in the article, but my question was, wouldn't nice clothes make you look like you have money? But I'll add what if you're black? Would that make her think something else then what you wrote in the article? We should still dress nice right?

9. I was thinking of getting a Honda haha, but after what you wrote, think I'll pass. You know any brands around honda price range that's cooler than Honda? This is more for me, I don't want to be driving a car that gets equaled to lame.

You have opened many eyes with your articles and you continue to do so. I love your site so much.

Thanks Chase, one of your top articles.

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SZ-

Well, I mean, that's basically what this whole site is - "How to get laid when you're broke, skinny, and ugly." Plus a few tips for guys who aren't broke, skinny, or ugly to make better use of what assets they've already got ;)

I do not have a degree in psychology; I have one in business management. Though management is almost as worthless a degree as psychology is in the job market. I got my job because I had a minor in supply chain and the school I attended was the #1 school in the nation at the time for supply chain. If you want an easy path to a good job, then major or minor in whatever your school is best at - since that's what all the recruiters who come there come to recruit for.

I had a car inspector check my Benz. However, he missed some rather serious problems, and I had to fix them up myself. $800 here, $1000 there, over the years.

I'm still trying to understand how you get girls to drive you around?

"Let's grab ice creams. You're driving. Come meet me at [address], know where that is?"

What are half decent jobs and professional jobs to you?

Anything that pays you above the median income in your town. 'Professional' I typically use to refer to office workers. But technically this term is used for all sorts of jobs.

I'm surprised you never mentioned if you have a shitty car or an old car. Is it ok for them to see that or does that make it a lot worse for you? Should you hide it?

The only city I've lived in where I need to drive around was San Diego, and the car I had at first was a moderately sporty Mitsubishi before I got plowed into a 10' concrete wall. Wasn't great, wasn't shitty. I had no problems from girls seeing it and it did not seem to affect dates at all. Was sort of a non-factor.

So I can't tell you from experience how a broken down old car would affect you. But if I had such a car and girls didn't like it, I'd just tell jokes about it when they reacted. "I built it myself, from scrap metal, old airplane parts, and chewing gum" --> girl [incredulous] --> "Hop in."

wouldn't nice clothes make you look like you have money? But I'll add what if you're black? Would that make her think something else then what you wrote in the article? We should still dress nice right?

Yes, the nicer the clothes, the higher socioeconomic class you seem, all other things being equal. That's true regardless of race. You will have to play around with fashion to get the right look that is classy enough without being too pretentious for your scene. Different scenes have different standards and limitations.

You know any brands around honda price range that's cooler than Honda?

Not my area of expertise, I'm afraid. I'm almost as bad with car stuff as most women are. And I worked in an auto shop for five years, and worked on probably a thousand different cars personally! I suggest you ask girls what cars they think are sexy and go from there.

Chase

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Hi Chase,

I find it interesting that in your experiences your possessions have an effect on your boyfriend value. I've always looked at having a nice car, apartment etc as having your shit handled, which I continue to believe is true but will keep an eye on how this affects my image as a potential boyfriend as opposed to 'short-term lover' now. Perhaps I have been oblivious to this.

I've noticed my boyfriend value to be determined by things such as my attitude, vibe and emotional experience I create. I have a tendency to be charming in a sexual way but also in a way that girls want for a long-term partner. For whatever reasons girls who want a short term relationships with me have generally been girls who are highly physically attracted to me, from a completely different social circle, large age difference (I come across more experienced, successful etc and am seen as more of a lover) , not their type but a sexual guy who'd be fun to sleep with but also when I've disclosed minimal information about myself but appear sexy to them in some-way which puts me in lover category.

What's the best bet to sleep with girls who've put you in the boyfriend category when they've put the brakes on? (or you suspect they could put the brakes on). Many have outright admitted their attracted to me, have hooked up with(but not slept with), but I've also provided amazing conversation, emotional experiences which have put me in long-term category. Now I'm happy to go in to the long-term category but want to know the best way to go about this to ensure we can get intimate and therefore provide them with another type of amazing experience.

Cheers,
Jason

Jimbo's picture

I'm sure Chase will give you a more thorough answer, but I think part of the answer is in your question. Guys girls know and are familiar with are just as more "boyfriendy", while the strangers from outside their circles tend to be exciting and more intriguing, and therefore more "lover-y". You need to go alien bro.

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Jason-

I commiserate, I dealt with this for years too. The prevention element involves disqualifying yourself as a boyfriend candidate (including what Jimbo's talking about on the periphery of her social circle).

However, once you're already in boyfriend land, the best way to get to sex is date compression. Give her the full dating experience she expects to use to vet a boyfriend candidate. Just comrpess the timetables it occurs during.

The other alternative is to build preselection (or run a jealousy plotline, which also builds preselection). When she's trying to slow game you for a boyfriend role, it means she values you HIGHER than she does a lover candidate. If she perceives a threat of losing you to another female, that will often jumpstart her into "I'd better lock this guy down now" mode, which usually involves sex. There are all kinds of ways you can build preselection / run jealousy plotlines... can be a fun way to get creative.

Chase

Jimbo's picture

Hey Chase. I more or less agree with everything you said, I especially agree with your last conclusion. But again, I still think you overlooked a few things from the picture.

Okay first, just to get that out of the way, when people talk about attraction to money and cars, of course they don't mean middle, average stuff. They mean rich people stuff. So if you're coming across as the average 9-to-5 guy, then duh, you don't really look rich, regardless of how much money you've amassed, you just look financially stable.

You mostly framed the article as when trying to just hook up with a girl. I think this could be summed up in one word: cool. Women hook up with cool and exciting. So if you use your wealth in a cool way (bachelors pads, cool cars, cool clothes, going to cool places) you'll be more attractive as a short-term hookup. So yeah, the way to go is not to talk about a nice, clean-cut decent family type car if you wanna be sex, but display a pimped-out blingy car like a douchebag. Remember that theme song? "So you wanna be a player, but your wheels ain't fly. You gotta hit us up... to get a pimped-out ride!" ♪

And not just for hookups btw, a guy who leads an interesting or exiciting life because of his money will also be interesting as boyfriend. And most male-female sexual relationships don't occur as hookups, but as a boyfriend-girlfriend thing, and let's be honest most girls will want to be with a guy with a car as opposed to one without. Have you ever been on foot with a girl of yours (not hookup) and a guy with a nice car parked next to you and people look at him and so does your girl, I mean as much as one tries to deny it one does feel a little diminished next to him, slightly less of a man so to speak; he just signals more power and clout and that's a thing associated with manhood, and a thing females are hopelessly attracted to it as much as they deny it. The guy in your first picture is just sexy, and not just because he's handsome. That's the thing I think you're not considering when talking about wealth, which I referred to in our previous conversation. You expounded on it when talking about authority, but wealth is a close cousin to it and they intertwine (the guy who own the club and get tell you to get in or out has similar power as the guy who owns the big nice house with a pool and can allow you to enjoy it provided your whore yourself for him, that's one of the basics of female attraction to wealth).

But there's also another thing to the picture, as to why so many women are left unimpressed by upper-middle-class guys nowadays, and you touched on it with the rednecks girls thing. As you mentioned in the 'Asshole' article women want superiors not subordinates. And a lot of today's women make a good living, they even make a majority of college students. And if you hang around educated girls then of course you won't impress them by doing just well financially, (unless again, you go the douchey/cool way if you want hookups). They're not attracted to men they're more powerful than (or as much as). That's like trying to impress the club queen with your "popularity" by telling her you know the doorman or the DJ, or trying to impress Ronda Rousey with your muscles or physicality (who btw says she wants a man who can look like a man next to her), bitch is more powerful than you, let it go. And that's the thing, women were 'down there' for most of human history; men did the real business, got shit done, and women assisted them, so the men have always been manly to the women and the women womanly to the men. But now chicks want to do masculine stuff, like serious rocket-science, career, civilization-building/-maintaining stuff, and collecting resources. They even want to fight and join the military, and a consequence of that is that there won't be as many desirable men on top, i.e. men who are more of men than they are. And so in a sense it works against the women themselves. I mean, the average blue-collar Joe makes less than six figures a year. When a woman makes six figures a year, she isn't increasing her dating options, she is decreasing them, as she'll be searching for a man who makes more than $100.000 a year. Men who make more than six figures can attract some of the hottest trophy wives, so the woman who makes $100.000 a year has to compete with bimbos who make $0.00 a year, as well as other career women who make $100.000 a year who are also gunning after the man who makes the big bucks. And this, dear Chase, is why I mostly go after uneducated / poorer chicks (I'm talking relationships here. Although..) It puts you much more easily as the alpha, or the man. I know you're into the exact opposite of girls, and that's cool.

"Ghetto Asians" lol is there such a thing?

Anonymous 's picture

Hey Jim,

Where are you meeting these uneducated and poorer chicks at? Are you going to the hood? Or can you tell by how they look? Do you show off your success to them?

Jimbo's picture

Yeah you could just go to the "bad part of town" and hook up with some redneck or hood chick there. Though I'd recommend not display wealth just like that, could be dangerous. Just go there and approach some hood chicks you like. Try to get her to take you in in her apartment to bang, only then tell her you got your shit together and want to take her in. The more she looks like a bimbo like one of those chicks Chase posted pics of below the more she's likely to wanna be under the wing of a man, to depend on a capable one.

So yeah, the other option is just the "bimbo-looking" ones, or girls who have a "spoiled" air to them, because those usually don't have a job that makes good money and mostly depend on men for a good living. But if you're approaching those outside of the poor areas you're better off displaying wealth.

A third option is go for nail salons or beauty parlors, and go for the chicks who work there (obviously not the owner, the lower their status the better). Those usually work long enough that they can't be in college at the same time, and also aren't paid that well. They usually stopped in high school.

Now something you need to keep in mind, from what I've seen girls are most loyal to two types of men: fixable bums (they think they can fix or have them as a project to turn into decent good ambitious men), or the men who own them. Now if you're taking a girl in hand into your harem you're gonna be #2 (these girls are looking for #2 anyway) so you wanna do it well. How you do own a girl well? Well you make sure she understands she'll be taken care of but that you'll expect certain standards from, that she has to do certain shit for you, whatever your standards may be (she has to keep her weight between this and that, she always has to keep your shirts cleaned/ironed, make you this, look like that, etc.) Always be leading. You have to make clear that you're the alpha of the house, that she depends on you for allowance or to do whatever and so she better act like it. One of the other ways to make her feel owned is when you feel like fucking you just grab her randomly (and forcefully if necessary) and have your way with her then leave, trust me, she'll be as aroused as she's ever been just thinking about that again, and she'll feel yours.

So you have to be decisive and at first even like coerce when she resists (mostly as a test), until she listens and accepts your rules and authority, always be willing to show her the door, and also knowing that with authority comes punishment if she messes up, which you shouldn't be afraid to dish out (could be a cut from her allowance, chore work, spanking, etc). This is MANDATORY... A man who doesn't exert his power and asserts himself or leads an egalitarian relationship will be disrespected. That's especially true of a provider man, because he'll just look like a sucker. Provide with the mindset that you own her, not out of a "duty" mindset. What you see as duty or noble she sees as supplicative. And that's the kind of provider women take to the cleaners and cheat on, the other "boss" type they just worship and suck his dick.

For a more "toned down" version of what I just said, check out Chase's 'alpha provider' essays.

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Jimbo-

These are other useful perspectives on wealth displays, yes.

Sexy wealth displays as upping the coolness factor, absolutely. And wealth as a display of male power/potency, for sure. All wealth itself is is more or less a store of power.

Women getting educated are not actually doing themselves a disservice, much as it might seem that way (or much as the manosphere likes to claim they are!). The manosphere likes to talk about how rich men can date any woman anywhere in the spectrum while rich women are far more limited, but the truth is most rich men marry other rich women, and vice versa. You may be an exception, of course. But if you look around at colleagues, unless you're in an unusual situation you will probably find most of your colleagues date and marry women in their same socioeconomic bracket.

A woman who increases her income reduces the number of her dating options while raising the quality of the options available to her (assuming you judge income earning potential as an indicator of mate quality; if a woman pursues higher education and a good career, it's safe to assume she does view it this way). Like moving from 10 Grade C options to 4 Grade A ones. She is not in as bad a place as the manosphere likes to portray her as (I presume largely to make its male readership feel better / gloat).

As for ghetto Asians...




Chase

Juno's picture

It's a mathematical impossibility for most rich men to marry rich women, because most rich people (~ 90%) are men. [1], [2]

It's not true that rich career women have access to rich men and that most of those men are willing to marry them.

Here's an interesting article from HBR (go to 'Slim Pickings in Partners' part):

“In the rarified upper reaches of high-altitude careers where the air is thin…men have a much easier time finding oxygen. They find oxygen in the form of younger, less driven women who will coddle their egos.” She went on to conclude, “The hard fact is that most successful men are not interested in acquiring an ambitious peer as a partner.”

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Juno-

It's a mathematical impossibility for most rich men to marry rich women, because most rich people (~ 90%) are men. [1], [2]

Yes, of course. Men inhabit the poles - more very rich, more completely broke. Women cluster around the middle. When we say "rich", rich for a woman won't necessarily be rich for a man. Billionaire men don't tend to marry billionaire women, because there simply aren't many billionaire women. However billionaire men do often marry millionaire women or at least highly educated professional women, and not, say, taco stand girls.

Tiger Woods being the exception rather than the rule. Tiger Woods just does all kinds of things wrong with women in general, though, smdh.

It's not true that rich career women have access to rich men and that most of those men are willing to marry them.

Here's an interesting article from HBR (go to 'Slim Pickings in Partners' part):

It's an interesting article, but it simply lists statistics, then uses anecdote to draw willy-nilly conclusions. The most crucial statistic the article lists is that almost all high-earning 40-year-old+ men who want to have children, while many high-earning 40-year-old+ women who want to have children do not. This is a great statistic. Now why is this so?

The paper author concludes it's because men just don't want these women. But let's look at the women. If you are a highly driven career woman, and you think about marriage and babies, you have to make a choice: do I give up my career for babies, or do I just keep on keeping on, and let any male who's interested know my career comes first, and all other considerations come after? Some of these women will ditch career for babies, but many of them by the time they're in their late 30s or early 40s are so invested in their careers it simply ain't happening. They effectively remove themselves from the marriage market. Or they make themselves unmarriageable to men. The claim in the article is "Men want women who aren't as ambitious", but it might just as well have been "Men want for wives and mothers women who want to be wives and mothers."

In addition to this, studies of this sort are subject to heavy survivorship bias. A large number of career women drop out of their careers in whole or in part in their late twenties and throughout their thirties to bear children to their husbands. Even if they remain in their careers in a part-time or consulting role, they tend to split their focus between family and work, and are a lot less likely to reach the high-earning group. The women who reach the high-earning group tend to be those who have eschewed marriage and children in the interest of pay and promotions, and if past is a predictor of future, they can be expected to continue to eschew marriage and children in the interest of more pay and more promotions, too.

(the statistics about high-achieving men's marriage partners are equally open to interpretation - are their wives' incomes lower because men date down, or are their wives' incomes lower because if you're a high-earning man, your wife doesn't need to work, and thus you are able to specialize, with the male as breadwinner and the female as child rearer? While there's doubltess some dating down that occurs [women do tend to date up in terms of income], if you conducted an honest investigation I verily believe you'd find the largest factor at play here is the sexual division of labor, as opposed to men marrying down / women marrying up)

Chase

Jimbo's picture

Actually the men I work and even I hang out with do okay financially but aren't what I'd call rich and yeah I guess they all date girls who just do okay as well. So I don't know you may be right about that.

About the ghetto Asians... lol.. these guys look like when suburban dudes wanna act gangsta or wigger and the girls just look like bimbos/Nicki Minaj wannabes. I guess that's ghetto. I'd bang tho.

Anonymous 's picture

Hey Chase, I plan on doing an online course on copywriting and wanted to know how do I get started in it. How will I know I'm ready? And I don't even know where I would find work. I plan on taking a course, will I be ready after one course? I don't know when I'll be ready to start making money with this or where to look after I'm done taking my course.

I looked up on more of your money making ideas and I do need a job now, problem is I still don't have any skill set to get a decent job to start making a living while I work on some skills. All I can think of is retail or call center, which sucks and the pay sucks, anyway, do you know any jobs I can search for that would pay a decent amount without having experience?

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Anon-

You will know when you're ready, because you'll be saying, "Damn. My copy is pretty good." When that happens you're ready to start working some gigs. At which point you will likely find out your copy is not as good as you thought. But that's fine, it's good enough to work and learn at.

I can't tell you the best places to look for this. You will have to do some research.

Aside from what I've discussed in my posts on work/money/career:

... I don't know what the low end job market is like right now. You'll have to ask around and do your research to see what jobs are paying what. If it's unskilled however, the general rule of thumb is the harder the manual labor it is, the better it pays. Or the more demanding the emotional labor, the better it pays. Though harder manual labor often pays better for unskilled than hard emotional labor. Think working for a moving company (where pay is great but injuries are frequent) versus working in a call center.

Chase

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Hi Chase,

an interesting article again, I would like to ask you something. Do you believe it is a big disadvantage with women if I do not have a driving licence? The cause is not that I did not try to get it, but because I failed at the licence exams (not sure about the proper English term, I mean the exams at the end of the course for getting driving licence). In my country, we have a law that you have to pass the licence exam no later than six months after the first attempt and if you fail at all the attempts during this period, you have to start (and pay) a complete new course again. And I failed at all the nine attempts I had during the six months period. I am not going to describe in detail why I was that bad and made so many mistakes - only that the probable reasons are my difficulties with focusing on more things at the same time (paying attention to the traffic, following the rules, controlling my car, deciding what to do with my legs and hands etc.) and my slow reactions to what happens (maybe partly because I have troubles with making quick decisions). I am not much into cars and I do not need a car for my life right now and in the nearest future it will not be different. But I know that some people are very judgmental to people (especially men) without a driving licence and see them as incompetent. And if I decide to find a girlfriend, she may think: "How could he take care about me and our children, if he is not even able to drive a car (which is very useful if you have a family)?"
It is a bit comic since one of the reasons why I did the course was that I wanted to increase my confidence. I have always had lack of confidence and a common advice here is to develop different skills which should result in higher confidence. And driving a car is very useful skill to learn. But I failed at it so there was no confidence boost. I doubt about what you wrote somewhere that ”what one man can do, anyone can do” – here I failed at a thing where almost everyone succeeds, although the conditions are similar (car, city, instructor) and although I took many additional driving classes and read carefully the manuals. I am clearly undertalented for driving a car and I am not sure if I can improve enough to succeed at it.

And another topic: at what age, how and by whom (parents, school…) do you think children should be educated about sex and relationships? In my country some people (typically religious conservatives) fight against sex education in schools and they say it should be right of the parents to decide how and when to talk to their children about the topic. On the other hand, in reality most parents fail to do it and never talk about sex, feelings and relationships with their children – or if they do, it is not sufficient. So many children are dependent on medias/internet (including many of the bad resources) or friends (who are often not well informed) because of lack of proper education and start their sexual life early and uninformed. Others suffer from huge sexual shame because everything around sex was taboo and have serious troubles to even start sexual life when they are older. In my case, we have never talked about it in my family, both me and my parents were uncomfortable to do it. At school we learned some basic biology of human reproduction, but then except two or three other special lectures, there was no systematic sex education. I was no way prepared for intimate relationships with women.

And one more remark: You named your website “GirlsChase” – is it inspired by your name or is it a coincidence?

Thank you.

Anonym

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Anonym-

Ah, interesting. I think you're from Eastern Europe, if I recall. I'm not sure if a driver's license has different cultural significance there than it does in the U.S., so I couldn't quite tell you for sure.

However, assuming it's similar, if you live in a big non-driving city in the U.S. (like New York), it's not an issue if you don't have a license. You can just say, "I've lived all my life in the city, I've never needed to drive, and taxis serve me just fine," and no one will care. However, if you live in a suburban area and can't drive, people may view you as almost childlike, largely since they'll assume you can't take care of yourself on your own. Of course, if you're able to make arrangements (you ride a bike everywhere, say; or you're rich enough to have a driver), this goes away.

So I guess the real consideration is "Can you take care of everything you need to be able to take care of?" If 'yes', no problem. If 'no', then problem. Your response to, "You mean you don't have a license?" should address the root question: "You mean you can't take care of yourself and your needs?"

Whether your response is, "I ride a bike everywhere. I don't even know why I'd need a car," or, "I walk and use the train. I throw all the money I'd waste on car payments into an REIT," or whatever it is, it should show capability and lack of neediness / incapability.

My personal opinion on sexual education is it should happen in the preteen years. Younger than this and you risk educators being able to inculcate uncritical younger children with their own biases. Older than this and they may already have read everything they wanted to read online and/or may be resistant to or embarrassed about being edcuated on sex. So I'd say probably 12 or 13 is ideal. It's a big problem with left-right in Western society right now, with the conservative folks basically wanting to give only the most cursory understanding to children when they are 16 or 17, while the liberal folks want to encourage kindergarteners to explore their sexuality. Completely bizarre, on both ends of the spectrum.

Re: 'Girls Chase', not a coincidence ;) I needed something short and memorable (easy to type into a URL bar; 'girls chase' is only 10 characters), a big part of my approach has always been to get girls chasing after me, and it also has my name. Thought it was perfect!

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