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How to Date a Party Girl (If You So Dare)

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Hector Castillo's picture

how to date a party girl
Party girls are fun, but can be real handfuls. Want to date one anyway? Here’s everything you need to pull it off… As well as can be expected.

While I was visiting my hometown after a long tour through Europe, I decided to hit up an ex-girlfriend. Since our sex was always great, we stayed friends after multiple breakups... and she was bisexual, so I decided that we should set up a threesome together. We’d done it before and it was hella fun, so why not again?

We spent the next week matching with girls on Tinder and contacting anyone we knew. We had a few YESs, but they fell through for some reason or another. It was around the holidays, so most girls who were down were going to be out of town and wouldn’t get back until after I’d already gotten out of Dodge. I personally had a lot of “I like you but I don’t want to share you” messages. Those were nice.

Eventually, the night came and we decided to go out and find our prey together.

Awesome, right?

We meet up, shag a few times, drink a bit, then head out to the bars. We talk to a few girls and both make out with some (and almost pull), but half way through our second pull attempt, she starts getting super aggressive with the girl. If it was a guy doing it, he’d be considered creepy, but she’s a hot girl, so it’s more funny than anything.

After this scene, I watch her stumble up to random girls and get totally blown out. She comes back to me, defeated.

“That girl totally ignored you, chica.”

“Yeah, she’s a bitch.”

“Haha, oh really? Well guess what – welcome to my world. This is how guys get laid.”

“Yeah, it fucking sucks.”

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Huan's picture

Hector,

This hella resonates with and inspires me. Is there a preorder for your book? Because when it comes out, whether I'm still in college or not, I'd like to buy a copy just for the mindset, the vibe you can almost get by osmosis, same as reading Alabaster Girl.

A question: lots of us former stereotypical nerds still carry some remnant of that cold aloofness, that snooty smarter-than-thou entitledness and occasionally bitterness (esp. towards guys we want to be and girls we want to date). What advice would you have given your younger self who's working on beating that? (Like what does it feel like, intuitively, to move into a better mindspace, to level up your mindset?)

Thanks much - your writing is dope. If you're ever in the CO, USA metro area, you got drinks on me in appreciation!

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Hector Castillo's picture

Shoot me a PM on the forums with your email and I'll put you in the beta reading group for the book (Anatman is mah handle). I'm about 300 pages in (haven't done much in the past few months; had to do other stuff to make $$). It'll be 100% done by summer (no pre-orders up yet, but if Chase wants to set up something like that, I'd definitely be more motivated to write).

It's dudes like you that make me happy to write.

On aloofness, ya, I feel you. Work on pushing through bitchiness with a smile and MORE compliments. Often, she'll just rebuff you even more, but at least you'll learn how to smile in the face of resting bitch face. Then, eventually, you'll find the occurances of snooty bitches goes way down. It's a long-term strategy.

Noted on your drink offer. If you're ever in Romania, lemme know. You got a place to stay and drinks/cigs on me.

Hector

BMontana's picture

...your article basicly suggests to never date any girl in a big western city at all. Why? Cause ALL women between 18 and 25 (up to 30) party, at least all attractive women, all women who spend their time on Facebook, Instagram, Tinder etc. All women who have many friends, posts pics, who are popular and good looking, they all party. Some of them more than others, some of them on a fewer level but they all do partying. And most women do ladies nights with their friends and without their boyfriends. So all the dangers that you have mentioned in your article that come along with dating a party girl apply to every single modern girl and woman. Right?

And what about women who travel a lot, yet are not considered party girls? Women who spend a weekend in Rome or London with their best female friends or who go on a summer trip to Croatia, like those Yacht week vacation trips? Even when they are not considered party girls, they will do the same thing(s) that party girls do, don't you think? They will cheat or show interest in other males, if they get approched by the "right" guys even when they have boyfriends.

So while I appreciate you sharing your thoughts on this topic I can't help it but feel that this article actually applies to like 90% of all women. So how do you handle women at all, who go out with their firends, who party at times and travel?

Jimbo's picture

You know the thing you said had to be done to keep up with a party girl (being hot, successful, an asshole, a player, etc.) are just regular things that make a man sexy to any woman, not just a party girl.

You divided manly men into rough/combative and charming/slick. And while I usually see the hottest girls with the high-status successful slick guy (like the DJ you mentioned) as opposed to the thugged-out tatted up guy who picks fights, even having of those isn't enough. Take one who has both (badass + successful): Mike Tyson. I mean the guy was born to a street pimp, made millions beating up/knocking out 200+ pound men who themselves were professional fighters. Can't get any more badass than that, right? Yet Iron Mike himself was cuckolded. In his autobiography he states that the son he thought was his was actually another man's child and the woman knew it. He says that it came out when he was about to go to prison and he wired her one hundred thousand dollars. She promptly used the money to hire an attorney to sue him for millions in child support. Not only that but his other wife cheated on with... wait for it... pretty boy Brad Pitt! And that was in 1989, even before blondie became a big shot, before his acting career took off. Was pretty boy Brad Pitt so "alpha" and dominant that he cuckolded Iron Mike? Who knows.

Truth is, we're not designed for monogamy. You're wondering why would people get into monogamies if not for the fidelity contract, no actually people get into relationships. We're wired to enjoy relationships. One-night stands are fun, but most men and women need a connection beyond that. But monogamy is hard, and I don't wanna go through the gymanstics of trying to pull off a one-sided one, so yeah, most of my relationships have been open ones -- I have the occasional fuck on the side, she has hers, we're both happy. And in the relationship itself I still wear the pants, call the shots, when the girl is resistant to that at first I often coerce her into it a little by means that could be considered abusive, but once she no longer disputes your authority, she's yours, and you can make her dress however you want, have her assist you in whataver you endeavor, and tell her not to go to that party or hang with that friend (and she'll listen), especially if you do most of the breadwinning or lives at your house. You can even pimp her out if you want to after some point of domestication. See that part where you said men in erotica novels say to women, "your pussy is mine", well that's the thing, women want to be owned, it's politically incorrect, but it's true. Now you might note, "you play alpha in the relationship and then you let you woman cheat on you wtf?!" Well first is it really cheating if I give her authorization? Second, yeah, and I don't know, it just works for me, I worry less and I get to smash foreign pussy every once in a while, and by the way she still submits to me in the relationship I'm certain she still respects me, and I don't even think she cheated in the last month or so (I can't be sure, I instated a 'don't ask don't tell' policy for our alien bangs, mostly so that she doesn't bug me about the girls I hook up with). If I ever have a child with a girl I'll make sure it's mine before spending a dime on it (isn't what the whole concept of cuckoldry is for anyway?) but that's it.

Btw the part where snakes are lurking at every corner to steal your girl sounded a little exaggerated. I mean I've been out with girlfriends and not once has a guy try to pick her up right in front me. And I'm not like massive with scars and a mean mug (5'10", 160lbs). It happened once to me but like the other way around; I was talking to this girl at a minimarket and then the boyfriend came out of nowhere saying "can I help you bro?" (bitch played along and didn't even tell me she was with her guy), but I mean that's it, and it didn't escalate beyond that.

Based on your article and my overall observations/experiences with girls, I'd sum up a party girl as a hyper-girl, or a girl²; meaning she has pretty much all the inclinations other girls have, but on steroids. If you have a wild and unpredictable streak in you (like you'll tie her up, slap her around, break shit, take her somewhere unexpected out of the blue), if you're okay with an open relationship, and if you're dominant or even abusive/rapey in bed, if you're a guy other guys respect socially (like the DJ) and she gets to see that, then this girl is for you you'll both dig the shit out of each other.

nolimits's picture

Hector, i m in love with you insights.

My favorite? ''if you feel the desire to through people under the bus , by any means do it. Don't think about it too much, just do it. Most of the people you consider friends are probably acquaintances ì and everyone is just there for himself.
This is a necessary truth to come to grisp with.''

I wanna learn to through people under the bus when they joke, and to destroy people when they attack me.

WHERE THE FUCK IS YOUR BOOOK??????

Can't wait

PS: about to force myself to leave italy and go to some other place, we ll see if i ll have the guts to leave the girlfriend i have here!

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