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Tactics Tuesdays: Over-the-Top Romanticness

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over-the-top romanticness
To save a failed open or a stalled date, use ‘over-the-top romanticness’. It’ll put a smile on her face and reset the tone of the courtship.

Here is a fun little technique, just in time for Valentine’s Day.

It’s what I dub ‘over-the-top romanticness’. While something of a niche tactic, it is fun, and it provides a bit of a resistance-buster.

With this behavior, you can melt the resistance of otherwise-icy girls... And you do so in a way that gets you having a lot of fun as well (so no matter how she responds, you end up in a better mood).

This is a tactic that opens up ‘negotiations’ with girls, which means (if you’re a half-decent ‘negotiator’) you can carve out a shot with girls you might otherwise not have access to.

Further, it serves as a ‘get out of jail free’ card for those situations where you thought you might have blown it, broke the spell, or otherwise flubbed your chances with a girl.

First, I’m going to show you what this is. Then, I’m going to show you how (and when) to use it.

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ItGetsBetter's picture

Hi Chase.
Do you have any posts or ideas how one might get more respected at work? I work in an environment which has a strong hierarchical sense; it's a hospital. We have a chief doctor, a few physicians, normal doctors, the secretary, medical supports and me, a kind of intern in the hospital. (I have a slightly higher postiton than a normal intern though and when I had some I usually got respected by these as I have a higher position and more experience) However, while they always thank me for doing tasks for them I never get the feeling of being taken serious at all. Often they don't even recognize my existence in a room or they control everything I do. I can relate to them as some tasks are of such an importance that they need to be fulfilled (especially in a hospital) but they aren't super hard either.

On the other hand if they feel like it I get to do things which others had 3 years of apprenticeship for. When I make mistakes there, my competence gets questioned really hard for quite some time. It's kind of a vicious cycle.

So do you have any suggestions on what to do? Do I just to suck up some free time and get tons of knowledge? (I don't plan on staying in that field or a similar one) Or did I do something wrong when they got a first impression of me? Does it wholy depend on the peoples personality I'm working with? Or is it just nature of a lower position or my younger age and I need to suck it up for the next 3-5 months?
I usually do everything they tell me to.

Thanks a ton Chase, I love your website.

With regards,
Rob

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Rob-

Yeah, being low on the totem pole is not fun. There's not much you can do to rapidly advance your position in a well-ordered hierarchy like the one at your hospital. You won't go from intern to internist, for instance.

I suggest this article for a starting point:

It's about mentors, but it's also the same process you want to use with superiors - particularly those with good lessons to teach you. These should also be worth a look:

I'd also recommend Venkatesh Rao's Gervais Principle, which gives a deep look at social positioning and social machinations inside an artificially structured environment; in this case, a corporation, but many of the principles will be the same:

One difference with hospitals is I'd say be careful not to get your hopes up too high. No matter how good your personal leadership and magnetism are, you're never going to match one of the surgeons in power and appeal. However, you can certainly be the most respected intern, or the young guy everyone sees dripping with potential and wants to have a hand in training up.

Chase

Sadeqh's picture

Hi chase

Salut you for your ethereality that makes dating life more valuable.

I have to know what you do mean when you say bonding phone call because you haven't really opened it yet not in your records on GC nor I could found it in your inscriptions anywhere else.

It's like a lost necessary fragment that could fill the time you wouldn't make a date because you are away or have not yet handled the logistics for reasons.

What's better to say how to do it and other stuff related you could teach performing it jovial.

Mania è Dementica, Sadeqh

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Sadeqh-

Hmm, I guess I haven't spelled bonding phone calls out explicitly elsewhere. I'd suggest these two articles to start:

Bonding over the phone is no different from bonding in-person. It's about building an emotional connection. How's your day, what happened, oh no, your coworker sounds like a complete dick, oh I just found this awesome new gym but there's one thing, the locker rooms are the filthiest locker rooms I've ever seen in my life. It's so weird too because the rest of the gym is completely spotless. Etc.

A little connection, a little finding out about her and her day, a little talking about you and your day. You do not want to deep dive too deep (save that for when you have her out in person); instead, the bonding call is all about getting her comfortable listening to your voice, hearing you communicate, and deciding, "Okay. This guy is a normal dude who is not going to stab me or embarrass me. And he sounds pretty fun and sexy; he'd be a nice difference from my usual day-in-day-out drudgery." So she gets comfortable with you, while also viewing you as someone she'd like to meet. The aim, in a single sentence, is to lower her resistance to a date while raising her desire for one.

Anyway, that should be enough to start with. But I will try to do a post on this one soon. Maybe the next Tactics Tuesdays!

Ricardus also has a great article worth reading on phone calls here as well:

Chase

Lawliet's picture

Another tip to add to our arsenal!

Hey Chase,

To make ourselves more attainable, what do we do?
In person, we can be warmer but also sexy (nonverbally to make it not pressure for her when you come too strong).

But I was thinking for valentines week, if we text girls who turned down our invites before, or didn't reply our ask out and we have dropped ball in her court to both, Would inviting them again or multiple times make us more attainable? Especially for auto rejection ones. Or if not dropping ball in her court, would that change our options?

What strategy would you use?
I just feel there's something we can do with these numbers/leads in the right circumstances, but I'm still experimenting on what circumstances...

Can't get too carried away though. Must still continue meeting new people.

Thanks,
Lawliet

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Lawliet-

I can only speculate, as this is not one I've done myself.

If I was going to do it though, I'd just fire off a text like this: "Happy Not-Valentine's Day <3 =D", just to bait the hook for any of the girls who are hunting for men post-Valentine's to get back to me and let me know they're available if they are (i.e., any response longer than "You too!" is probably a worthwhile lead).

Could be worth a shot if you've got some otherwise-useless/dead numbers ;)

If you try it out and it works for you, do let me know the results!

Chase

Jimbo's picture

Nice tip. And yeah that's the best thing about it: the worst it can happen is her not going along with it but still secretly admiring you or thinking about you at a quieter moment.

TopicSuggestions's picture

How do you deal with unexpected scars you see on girls body/hands when you undress her for the first time?
Do you have a way of understanding them without breaking sexual tension?

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TopicSuggestions-

I do.

You do this: gently run your finger along the length of the scar (or, if it's circular, trace your finger around the scar). When she looks at you, give her a half-cute & sexy look expression, without saying anything.

She'll either explain, if she wants to explain, or she won't. Either way, usually you won't engage with the topic any further. After she's told you, "Oh, my little sister was playing with a knife when we were young and she cut me," you'll give her a very (only) slightly sad look, then continue on with the escalation.

Scar acknowledged, elephant in the room addressed, and now you've moved along without her worrying about you being weirded out or afraid to say something.

Chase

Lawliet's picture

Hey Chase,

I've been honing my fundamentals.
And I feel it's time to move on to the next level.

I notice I don't make compliance and leading a habit.
When I approach, I usually focus on conversation part (since my conversation is probably the worse) to help me fix it. After all, conversation is a very central part of meeting, building the trust for them to follow you, and eventually following you to bed.

However, I also find myself thinking "OK, compliance time, what can I ask her to do?"
And my mind comes up blank most of the time.
If there's a long list of things I can plug into "Compliance time, let's do X", that'll help me avoid the mind going blank and automatically know what to ask during that step of my process (Very robotic..but it's essential).

Thanks,
Lawliet

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Lawliet-

Check out this article - couple of lists in it (should be just what you're looking for):

How to Get Her to Say “Yes”

Chase

Lawliet's picture

Forgot to clarify.
Maybe some for different situations that's more common daygame.

A common situation is transit.
What kind of compliance could I do besides moving them (sometimes I don't want to give up our seats when bus is full) or examining their accessories?

A list for other day game situations would be perfect too!

Thanks again,
Lawliet

Somedude's picture

Chase, how do I know if Im a bitter man?Also, how do i know if im a pussy? Ive been suspecting im both of these things but idk.

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Somedude-

Look for emotional reactions.

e.g., when you look at girls doing various things, are your emotions more 'warm and fuzzy', like, "Man, girls are so cute, and silly, and really fun to shag the daylights out of!" (warm smile)... or are your emotions more like [blood pressure rises] "Goddamn girls, so irrational and stupid, look at that stupid stuff they're doing, their only redeeming value is that slot between their legs :rage:"

The emotions are the cue. Some negative emotions sometimes are perfectly normal, especially if a girl is behaving in a crummy way. But if your default is negative/pessimistic, that's the cue you've probably slipped too far into the dark side.

Chase

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