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7 Reasons Why Women Get Into Relationships (6 Bad, 1 Good)

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Hector Castillo's picture

why women get into relationships
Women have all kinds of reasons to get into a relationship. Here are the 6 worst reasons… And the 1 best one.

Both men and women are guilty of entering relationships for unhealthy reasons, but today I’m going to talk about some unhealthy reasons women get into relationships – and the only genuinely healthy reason why she should date you.

This article might rub some the wrong way, because you may find that your girlfriend or a girl you’re interested in fits one or more of these “unhealthy” categories.

Two things to say about this:

  1. Firstly, it’s not a death sentence if you date one of these girls. It can actually be very fun and educational. I have a habit of taking dominant, high-sex drive girlfriends (I’m currently dating one), and these women tend to fit into one or more of these categories. Why do I do it? Because it’s a challenge. I usually come out of these relationships tough as hell and with a new paradigm of game that sets me onto a reckless path of pussy destruction (however, I will note that I am becoming a bit unhappy with women like this; the return on the effort you have to put in is quite unbalanced, and I’m probably going to shift more toward conservative, low-partner count women).

  2. Secondly, you’re probably not going to listen to me. I talked to Chase about a girl I’m dating, and after I concluded I’m not ready to make the relationship serious, I suggested that maybe I should have one or two other girlfriends (not casual relationships, but developed relationships). His response went something like “That’s probably what’s best for you, but I’m not going to tell you who to date, because nobody ever listens; people date who they want to date.” I took this as a personal challenge and am going to actively try and find another girlfriend more suitable to my long-term desires, because I’m not interested in anything but the most elite in life. That being said, most won’t do the work it takes to push themselves beyond short-term emotions, and even I have to admit it’s a bit difficult when you do genuinely like and care about a girl (as I do this one).

So, if you find some truth in what I say in this article but choose not to act upon it, I don’t blame you. It’s hard. It’s where even the best pick-up artists in the world (and the most talented naturals) fail.

That being said, let’s get to it. I’ll go over the six (6) unhealthy reasons why women get into relationships, what kind of women usually follow these paths... and then I’ll tell you the most important reason she should get into a relationship with you.

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JasonH's picture

Great article Hector,

I'm dating a girl who is falling for me pretty quickly and I'm not exactly known for my provider qualities... From what I can see she doesn't seem to really fit into any of the categories above except for the last 'healthy reason'. I would say she's about mid-sex drive(doesn't really like casual flings,dating) prefers to date a guy when she really likes him. So I'm just currently assessing whether to take her as a girlfriend or not.

With long-term relationships what's your limit on partner count? My limits around 3-5, I usually won't date girls seriously who have had more than 5+ partners by the time their 23-25 but won't mind having them as fun fuckbuddies etc.

Looking forward to your next article!

Cheers,
Jason

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Hector Castillo's picture

First, congrats on the relationship. Sounds like she is truly falling for you!

As for the partner count, I'm still developing that criteria. I say this, and LOL, because while my first girlfriend and I took each other's virginity, my second girlfriend had 14 partners at 18, and just before we cut contact with each other recently, we gave our numbers are were tied at 75 (she's 22 or 23 now).

A current girl I'm dating is..well, she's even higher than that and is approaching 30 years old. Like I said, I take on feisty, dominant women, and they usually have high partner counts if they don't come from a conservative background that will tame their sex drive.

There was one girl in Cali who I probably would have taken as a girlfriend had I not left the country, and she was at 10 at 20 years old. But, she was about to turn 21 and liked to drink/smoke weed, so probably good I didn't do that (but goddamn was she addicting; her pussy was heroin).

What keeps me sane with these chicks is that I continue sleeping with other women. Can't lose yourself in one pussy when you're swimming in others. Also, I have a passion that I spend a great deal of time on (writing). This helps, but you can see by my former tastes why I'm not the best person to ask experientially. My tastes are now refining towards that, however, so that my other pursuits aren't safe-guards, but amplifications of a forward-moving lifestyle.

So yes, I'd say that's a pretty good metric. 3-5 by 25 means mostly long-term relationships, and maybe one hookup in there that didn't go well afterwards (probably a sociopathic seducer who played her well) or just couldn't (he was travelling and offered her a quick but meaningful romance).. She should associate sex with strong-emotions/love-at-first-sight or slow-love-built-up-by-a-friendship-turned-relationship.

Hector

JasonH's picture

No that's great, it's good getting feedback with someone a bit more 'experienced' haha, hence exactly why I asked you.

"She should associate sex with strong-emotions/love-at-first-sight or slow-love-built-up-by-a-friendship-turned-relationship."

I think that's a great way to look at it, how does she think and feel about sex the majority of the time. I've been in relationships with girls who had higher partner counts but still less than 20, they were fun and great girls but I'm taking a more serious stance on relationships now and don't want to deal with the more feisty ones(though their hella fun).

Thanks for the insight Hector!

Jimbo's picture

"... probably a sociopathic seducer who played her well"

Maybe I'm just too cynical but I don't believe there is such a thing. That sounds more like the instinctive bullshit girls come up with when they try to save their reps and snag a high-standards yet willing to believe it dude for an LTR. Same for girls who pretend they've only had a few partners. Bitch he didn't "play you", you knew his kind and what he was all about even before he said hi, and his devious ways is what you loved about him and why you went along with him because he gave you the plausible deniability you were craving for future reference and the opportunity to get laid and bang the bad boy guilt-free!

Dale's picture

I doubt women really know men very well. I've been invited back to a woman's apartment before I even asked her out (but later turned out to be good LTR material). Unfortunately, this was pre-Chase so nothing happened, and when I did ask her out I was turned down. (Pre-Chase as in before he was born. not just before the website).

Jimbo's picture

Well you can't always know people's intentions, but for the most part you can know their type simply by seeing them talking and behaving or just by looking at them.

Why do you think women keep "attracting" all these "jerks", or as they say guys who "turn out" to be jerks/deceivers/etc, as if they had no clue when they met, despite the guy coming out drunk at the party, whipping his dick out and yelling 'fuck you' the day they met him, or despite him blowing more sweet smoke than a car salesman when he talks. No in truth women love the bad guys and inveterate liars because they can sleep with them guilt-free without looking like a slut, because they give them the possibility to say, "He tricked me!" "He told he was going to change!" "Can't you see he's so bad and scary? I had no choice!" And that's hot.

Lena Dunham claimed she was raped in college by a cowboy-boots-wearing, Williamsburg-moustache-sporting, Barry-White-voiced campus Republican named Barry (who also shelved books at the library). Her story had it, Barry led her to the parking lot and when she knelt down to take a piss, he jammed a couple fingers into her (aka 'pulling a penetrative Donald'), then when in her apartment banged her so hard without her consent she had to sit in a hot bath to soothe herself the next day. After investigation it turned out the whole thing was made up. No shit?!

Or check these novels chicks get off on, it's often some bad boy who either gets a "naive" and "innocent" girl to do things, either by misleading her or forcing her. Thus the girl not knowing, the affair not being her fault, being (mis)led is obviously a major attraction trigger in women. Which is why leading is the most important part of seduction.

Jimbo's picture

Spot-on Hector! I'd add a seventh one and that is rebound. Some girls will date any guy who's polar opposites to the one before him simply because the latter burnt/scorned them (by being too bad) or bored them (by being too good).

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Hector Castillo's picture

Hey guys,

Just an addendum to this article, I actually remembered two more motivations I've seen, but they're with younger women, so it's much rarer, but definitely worth noting.

She Wants to Have Sex/Feel Romance - This is usually with virgin chicks who are on the conservative side, or girls who have never hooked up. They will date a guy who's the best they've found so that they can have sex. Are there better options out there? Sure, but she wants SOMETHING. She'll take that over nothing.

She Doesn't Know Her Own Value - This is with younger girls who don't know what caliber of guy they can snag. She'll date a guy because he seems cool and she likes her, so why not. Then, years into it, she begins to socialize more, go out, and realize just how attractive she actually is. She usually breaks up with you soon after.

Hector

Papichulo's picture

Yo Hector, do you have any experience dating Arab girls? I want to date them but idk what they are looking for. Also, I find that black girls are the most attracted to me so how do I pick them up?

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