Tactics Tuesdays: How to Sidestep Unnecessary Confrontations

What do you do when a girl tests you and you’re suddenly out of your depth? Sidestep! The sidestep lets you avoid all manner of traps, snares, and pitfalls.

The sidestep: it’s an incredibly powerful move and the antidote for a lot of men’s problems when facing resistance.

When a man encounters a wall in a conversation or with a girl, his first reaction is either to give up or to push past the resistance. The flaw in giving up is obvious: neither of you win. You don’t show up to play the game, and it’s over.

Contents

1. Russian School of Seduction

2. How to Sidestep

3. If You Can't Win

4. If She Ignores You

5. If She's Vague

6. If She Grows Cold or Angry

7. Battles Not Worth the Fight

The flaw with pushing past resistance is that most guys do it in a needy or overly aggressive way.

They concede to her way of thinking and find a way to please her or assuage her concern.

Or, if they do choose to face her frame head to head, they attempt to strong-arm her emotions at a much more severe emotional level than that at which she resisted. Their brute conversational force scares her off.

Instead, when a man faces resistance, he should consider sidestepping or moving around the obstacle rather than wrestling against it, which usually leaves either your two egos broken.

Parry her loving strikes.

But before we get into the how-to, allow me to illustrate how badly you can embarrass yourself when you try to outmaneuver a much more dominant and socially savvy girl... By sharing with you perhaps one of my most shameful stories.

Hector Castillo

Author

Hector Castillo is the star of the Girls Chase YouTube channel, and the web’s top expert on getting laid in college. In his small town university, he went from World of Warcraft nerd to president of his fraternity in 4 years... And on the way, he bedded close to 50 women. Learn to do the same in his book King of College. To follow his life up close, follow his Instagram here. Listen to the 40-minute interview with Hector on his story and some of his prized tech... and sign up for a 12-week coaching course with him, here.

Comments

I totally dig this. Nice

Posted by someguy (not verified) on Wednesday, 19 October 2016

I totally dig this. Nice stories and good observations. I feel this is something I can learn from at an intuitive level.

In a way it is like acknowledging an obstacle and still moving on towards your own goals in a positive way.

Realizing there is an obstacle displays a good level of perception.
Not acting like nothing happenend, shows that you dare to lead when neccessary.
Staying positive and focused on your own wellbeing/goals shows your frame is strong and that you might be a valuable ally in the game of life.

Nice Story!

Posted by Anonymous (not verified) on Wednesday, 19 October 2016

Hey Hector,

I'd like to start off by commending you for including that story about Anna in the article. It shows a degree of humility which I don't see in many pickup and dating advice gurus today. In fact, I'd go so far as to say that most men wouldn't even admit that story to even their closest friends (and lets be honest, we've all done shit just as bad or worse than that!). So thank you for sharing. I feel like I can trust and respect you.

Another thing I might add is: It was clear as day that the two of you were incompatible. You said it yourself. She's used to dating rich, powerful businessmen etc. You don't fit into that. And frankly, I'm sure that had you spent more time around her, you probably would have discovered overtime that she's not all that great a match for you either. It's not that you're bad, or she's bad. It just seems like the two of you were not compatible in that particular time and place in life. In fact, I darsey that had you been compatible, none of the advice in this article would have been necessary. Because you probably wouldn't have felt as insecure (which is the reason you did all those unnecessary confrontations early on), and you wouldn't necessarily have been outframed later on.

So my question is, what was your motivation for wanting to be with her? I ask this because I personally have no motivation to pursue women I can't truly connect with. But I'd like to hear your perspective because maybe there's something I'm missing or don't understand? :)

Good article, but one thing...

Posted by Jason L (not verified) on Friday, 21 October 2016

Hector,

Good article. You nailed a lot of important points. You wrote, "Not butt-hurt, but I’m not going to reward her flightiness, either." This is so important by overlooked. I really think an article needs to go over when and how to respond to certain situations so as to not look butt-hurt but at the same time not rewarding her.

It's too much or a grey area and I think it's really hard to come off not looking too butt-hurt but not rewarding her for bad behavior. If a writer on GC could shed some light on this I think it would be great.

Thanks,
Jason