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The wrong woman can be legitimate bad news for your life. To screen these bad news girls out though (and screen the good ones in), you need 4 rules.
Over the years, I’ve penned various cautionary notes aimed at keeping you safe from girls who will slowly (or quickly!) suck the lifeblood out of you. Some of them include:
- Dating Narcissistic and Egotistical Women
- Tactics Tuesdays: How to Screen Out Gold Diggers
- Why I Quit Dating Girls Who Club, Party, or Drink
- 8 Red Flags She’s a Crazy Girl You Should Stay Away From
- Protecting Yourself from Psychic Vampires (and Not Turning, Either)
Drexel contributed his important warning on a certain class of ‘bad news’ girl here:
Yet, as Sadeqh points out in my article on resilience, I haven’t actually given you a system you can follow for keeping these girls at-bay (or under control):
“hey chase! I have noticed that you covered a lot of topics on how to seduce or introduced a lot of ways to success. I admire them all but why didn’t you ever start to teach men how to not let someone (like which would Be called a bitch by society) begin to destroy and suck Blood outta men who only think they love her? why didn’t you write in your book about defense, nothing Held back! about the destroying Powers women could have over men? about the hate that hurt people could use against someone who only wants to enjoy with them? thanks, sadeqh”
So, okay; let me give you that then. Defensive tactics to ward off girls who are bad news.
In this essay, I’m going to give you four (4) manly rules I use myself that make girls who are ‘bad news’ avoid me like I’ve got a case of flesh-eating disease... And turn ‘good’ girls (i.e., any girl who won’t shred you or trample you in a hookup or relationship) even better.
Comments
Hey Chase; solid article! I
Hey Chase; solid article! I've personally seen what can happen with 'bad news' women and it can be scary. People most definitely need to be able to swat away vampires and it's not something I've seen a lot of out there in seduction related blogs. So thanks!
It also helps reinforce what another blogger talks about with the idea of Soft Nexts and how they work! I always appreciate hearing the same thing from multiple people, it helps me know who is on the right track and who I should listen to.
Also, I've been thinking about a way that I could try to give back to this blog. I'm dirt poor, though do plan on checking in on your products when they come out. And when and if that GISS book comes out I'll go into debt to get it lol.
But! I think I came up with something. Have you ever looked at the website 'SmartBlogger.com'?
I don't remember where I read about this, but I think I remember reading about how GirlsChase only breaks even for you or something like that. I think I speak for a lot of people when I say that I really appreciate you continuously updating and adding to this blog regardless or not if you make 6 figures from it. And that I want this community to be as successful as possible.
Smart Blogger is an absolute goldmine, in my opinion. And I feel like you could really amp up your earnings for GirlsChase by looking into it!
If you do, awesomesauce! If not, not a big deal at all. But either way, you've got a lot of people here that love what you do.
Wishing you all the best,
Alexander Abraham/Regal Tiger on the forums
P.S.
Here's a funny:
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Website Recommendation
Alexander-
Thanks for the suggestion, hadn't seen that site before. Looks like a few others I'm familiar with that have pretty good advice. I'll give it a scan through!
We've been doing a fair bit to try to up conversions on the site before I pivot to readying our launch for the new course, so if they have a few good ideas I haven't come across before on that site, I'll certainly give them a try!
Cheers,
Chase
Sounds good man! Though now
Sounds good man! Though now you have me curious, what other resources are you looking at? I'm always hungry for more information :)
Traffic & Conversion Optimization Blogs
Alex-
Sure - some of the choicer ones:
Chase
Awesomesauce
Thanks! I'll check into some of them because the bulk of them are new to me.
And if you like Copyblogger you should like Smartblogger. Jon Morrow worked at Copyblogger for a good while.
Best of luck!
really good article chase
Very good article chase. This is something i personaly can relate to. I think naturally with rule number 4 men fear that ability and drive to drop a number 4 case. I used to fear *will i get another girl?am i being too quick to leave? maybe she ws just about to put out should i wait more*. You end up killing your manhood and she loses respect...Your articles especialy this one made me realise life as a man is all about challenges and overcoming them and sometimes in order for you to progress you must let go of such type girls even if you have uncertainty. It affects even your career as you carry that feeling of unmanliness it causes. it took a while but nowadays i cant believe looking back that now i have girls who bring out the tiger in me.much respect and love from Africa
Thank you Chase / Conversation
Hey Chase,
Before I get to my point, I want to tell you a funny story.
Remember that example in "Why cold approach works better?"
The girl who every guy stares at, ignores the nerd at first.
Then the sexy man comes and she falls over him.
The two men are actually... you.
Today, I met a girl who I originally approached in my freshmen.
Surprise. She was looking at me this time. I noticed it, turned from my side and met her gaze.
She held it so I side smiled, and she blinked twice, looks down then smiles.
It was a clubs promotion day, so I casually walked near the next table, and talked to my friend there.
Then I went over, and her friend started to introduce themselves.
Girl: Hi we run Club A. I'm Belle, and she is.
Me: Lynn!
Everyone: Oh you already know Lynn.
Lynn: We met?
Me: Yeah we had philosophy first year.
Anyway, after talking about that class we had, and exchanging a few updates on her,
I causally said we should hangout and she happily agreed and gave me her number after a few minutes of chatting.
Though I originally asked to put my number in her phone, but she picked her phone up, paused then asked if I had paper but no biggy.
I did one compliance prior, asked her to come out from behind the table's seat.
She got up right away, but realized there was no gap to squeeze through except walking down the whole aisle to come over so she stood and leaned toward me instead.
Meh, not too interesting stuff you say. I know.
But in comparison, the same girl who said "Look for me on Facebook"
Politely answers me one wordedly when I talk to her, ignored me and avoided me like the plague in freshmen.
Anyway, all thanks to you bro, Chase.
I'm not there yet though.
Still working on conversation when girls ask about me and dates
I answer vaguely, trying to avoid telling them my job (now a top boyfriend instant valuer), and say "It's just a job I sit on my ass, nothing interesting. I usually doodle to keep things interesting. What about you?"
But some girls press on, and the more I think of ways to keep vague as I pause and think, the more they roll their eyes. One girl lost interest when I went into my writing nonfiction as I made it sound "I like adventure novels so I write short stories".
I rethought this after, couldn't think of a way to find out what answer she would relate to.
The balance of intrigue but not to bs or push them into auto rejection...
Lastly, I was hoping to know how dates would progress for you but briefly (of course).
Sort of like the steps you have in "How to approach any girl anywhere"
"Go near her"
"Pre-open"
"Banter"
"Touch at high points"
"Talk about her now"
"Leave after 10 min"
But specifics steps for dates.
I know you have a program coming up, but a brief simplified version list of steps for now would help lots for dates coming up. I can read more about each step when it's released :)
Thank you for everything, bro
Lawliet
Date Outline
Lawliet-
Fun experience with the girl from freshman year. The difference a year or two makes, eh?
Sounds like you're answering the jobs question well. Could probably make it more self-deprecating: "I'm trapped in a cubicle all day under flourescent lights. They let me outside for feeding and exercise once a day at lunchtime." Then if she presses, just describe it and move on: "I'm in accounting. It's boring. Lots of spreadsheets and numbers. What do you do?"
Dates, depends on the setting, and I will improvise. However, my standby is roughly:
In the case of #5, that'd also be where you'd adjourn the date to meet again at a later date if running date compression. I largely abandoned second dates a while back, just because I got very busy. So every date with me ends with an invite home at the least. I don't recommend this until you get pretty good or extremely busy, however.
Chase
Here's what I don't get...
Golden rules, Chase.
But here are the parts that got me thinking...
"But what’s really happening here is you’ve taken a girl who was attempting to assert dominance over you"
"These are the girls who are category #4s from our list in the last section. They want men who will submit to them."
Why would a woman want a man to submit to her? Why would she want to be the dominant one and wear the pants? Especially in a relationship, and especially if the man has proved capable of running things. I mean, what's in it for her? She'll just end up with more responsibilities and a man she won't be attracted to.
I say that because I notice in the majority of relationships today around me, it's the woman who speaks the loudest and wears the pants even in public. If you compare them to relationships in the Middle East, it's the exact opposite (is it because they beat them more?) The only exceptions here in the West are the women who marry super-religious men (or super-rich) that tend to act more submissive.
Other than that, I don' know what's with all the harpies nowadays who want to keep the upper hand in the relationships? I see that very vividly with a good friend of mine who's married: the only times his wife lets him "wear the pants" is when it's time to pay for stuff, to fix or set up something around the house, or to go check if there's an intruder upon hearing something in the middle of the night. Other than that, she keeps him on a short leash. Something that often crosses my mind but that I'll ever tell him is, "How can she even have sex with a man she overpowers like that?"
Developed country role switch
I think its a developed country role switch that has transformed much of what society was once in that facet. Personally, my reason is that I like the power of being able to control men sexually & emotionally more so than financially it's irresistible; an aphrodisiac for me. :)I had a challenging upbringing a child result of rape, a criminal/fugitive 'pop' & lots of drama, so I carry insecurities like you picked up last time. To make up for my lack of power over the past and even presently with that aspect. I compensate by being assertive in relationships. I relish having the upper hand. With sex I'm into dominance a majority of the time even if I choose very masculine men. I have the tough guys wear d*ldo mouth straps, enlargement strap ons etc.... A little humiliation to emphasize the power I hold over them. ⌒.⌒ I can speak for myself although, every group of women have different motives for playing the role of the boss.
Genuine vs. Foxy Reasons
Hey there, J.! Thanks for your input.
So you do it because it turns you on, because you enjoy it. Fair enough. Actually I think that's the best reason a woman may want to be the dominant one in the relationship: because she's predisposed to it and likes it. In this case, all you have to do to get a good LTR or MTR going is get a guy who's fine with being the beta in a couple, or better yet, gets a kick out of it, and you're set for a healthy and smooth relationship.
But here's the thing, what makes most women tick is submitting to men rather than submitting them; and if the opposite happens, they end up despising their men. Which makes me think there are other, more conniving or less genuine reasons so may women nowadays are insisting on keeping the upper hand. Because make no mistake, they still do like having their men do masculine stuff for them like repair the sink, but they do it in a boss-employee kind of way, and so my buddy's like, "Dude I can't make it by 8, [Wife] said I had to finish X by X-time..." And I'm like "Wtf, 'said you had to', like some kind of authority figure? What is she, your boss' wife?! What kinda driving-miss-daisy crap are you living man?!" And the guy shrugs like, "Meh, whatever, it is what it is..."
I wouldn't have had a problem with it if I didn't know how this will most likely end: she'll end up despising him and either dump or cheat on him.
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So mouth strap, huh? (Eyebrow = Raised) That's some kinky sit-on-my-face stuff you've got going there, Mistress J.! Now thanks to you, whenever I'll come across ranchers downstate I'll picture them with a phallus on their faces. I just hope for them you're not packing too much cake down behind. ;)
Re: Genuine vs. Foxy Reasons
Jimbo-
Right, my experience is most of the girls who angle for dominance do so for what you dub "foxy reasons."
These foxy reasons are tied to insecurities, like what Judith mentions as her motivation. It's usually just that she feels like men may not value her or care about her. By having them comply, she's able to feel appreciated and cared for. It's kind of an "Okay, he isn't going to run off or hurt me" kind of deal.
The one I've heard most frequently from girls like this as justification for why they want men who will submit to them is "I feel like a more dominant guy will not have time for me" or "I feel like a more dominant guy will make me feel bad." It's basically a fear of being neglected or uncared for.
In my experience, the feeling of neglect / not being cared for is the biggest hurdle that faces you as a dominant guy in relationships, too. Much different from the non-dominant guy's hurdle, of losing his woman's attraction.
Chase
General
Salute Chase :)
I read the whole article and came to think that it applies with everyone.
Merci so many for having our back.
Fancy you .Sadeqh
Enablers
The other side to these abusers you've described are 'enablers' (usually parentified children).
Here is a good article that describes these types of codependant relationships:
Narcissists, Borderlines, Psychopaths and Codependents: Mutual Mommy and Daddy Issues
"One note, however: if she’s
"One note, however: if she’s insulting you because she’s horny, that can be a time when you may not want to combat her on the insult."
One clarification please. This statement only refers to the context of dating a girl you have not had sex with yet(at least that is what I am thinking). I remember a few other articles talking about not rewarding bad behavior in relationships or not have sex with after she exhibits bad behavior even if she is horny. She will subconsciously drift toward bad habits if she is horny and wants sex. Something to do with how operant conditioning works, right?
Horny Insults
xcdhs-
Yes, that's an important qualification. You're right, that's what I meant.
If she's your girlfriend and she's slinging horny insults at you, call her out and squash that.
Then do not have sex with her that day. You can sleep with her the next day. Assuming you value peace in your relationship, in any case :)
Chase
How to get checked out
Chase,
I've been practicing fundamentals, but can't tell if it has been working, I don't notice women show me attention whenever I'm out, I don't catch them checking me out, so I can't tell how good mines are.
How do you really work on your fundamentals?
I feel I'm getting better, but not by what I think I should.
I don't catch girls looking at me when out.
So how do I work on my fundamentals for getting attention when I'm just out, say at the mall or shopping, and what fundamentals are they?
Fundamentals, Girls with Careers, & Getting Older
SZ-
Unfortunately, there's no concrete metric you can use to know how far you've come on your fundamentals or how big an impact you're having. Even if you use some kind of rate-your-looks website, the ratings you get will depend as much on the camera angle, lighting, background, pose, etc., as they will on your own appearance.
It's like any social skill, like sales or negotiation. You add a bunch of pieces in and have no way of telling exactly how much Piece A contributes to the overall result compared to Piece B. All you can do is rotate pieces in and keep them if they feel like they're helping and discarding them if it feels like they're not. You'd need ridiculously large sample sizes for any outright scientific testing on new tech and fundamentals (e.g., approach 1,000 girls and try to get laid with each of them with one set of fundamentals. Then change just one thing and approach 1,000 more girls and try to get laid with them too. Even then, it's still not university-caliber science because the control isn't really a clean control - too many other variables at play).
Life for me continues to get more gripping as I get older and I do more and more cool stuff. Just this year I spent 2.5 weeks on a movie studio with a crew I put together in a country I'd never been to before, hustling everyone to shoot video for 14 hours a day, daring us to get 60 hours of video recorded in an incredibly short amount of time. I meet up with selfmade multimillionaires to talk business, and run a company that employs 20+ people in various part-time contributor roles. I've met all kinds of awesome people and beautiful girls this year, expanded my mind with brilliant books and perspectives I'd never encountered or considered before, and even took up a new approach to physical fitness that had me doing stuff I'd never in my life done before (like handstands and fingertip push-ups).
I was the slimmest I've been since I was 18 this summer (at one point I got myself down to about 1500 calories a day to shave off a little belly fat and get trim). I won't sleep with girls older than 30 (18 and 19 year old girls love me), and every guy I know who has kids loves it. You do lose interest in parties though... And it's not that it sucks and is boring, but rather that parties start to suck and be boring, so you just don't go as much, and do other, more interesting things instead.
You, Sub-Zero, have all these negative beliefs about aging. Aging is not the problem. The way you live your life (potentially) is. Life is what you make of it, man. If you're not doing much and start doing less, then life will get boring, yes.
But if you're like me, and the first half of your life was lived in study and hibernation, there's basically no way it gets less interesting, instead of more, if you come out of cryosleep and build a life that revolves on taking action.
Girls with great careers, we've talked about this, several times, I think. You've got to be above them in some way. If it isn't career, it must be vision or ambition. There are a few who just want to nurture, and will accept a lower status man, but you will not be the dominant party in the relationship (and they are unlikely to remain monogamous to you). For the rest, something about you must compensate for the lack of career.
Chase
2 questions
1.Do you feel life gets boring and dull as you grow older?
I feel sad about how things will get boring and dull
Do you feel that way?
is there a way to not feel that way?
2. When you're trying to pick up a girl who has a very good career, how do you frame it so she doesn't try to feel she is better than you?
I'm referring to one article I read from Hector and it seems that since the girl had such a good position it caused him to mess up.
Say if you don't have a good job, or even one at all, how do you pick these women up who have great careers and keep frame control, and sleep with them?
I felt I didn't elaborate
I felt I didn't elaborate email enough with my question on being bored as you get older.
I just feel lower energy levels, gaining weight, having kids and reminiscing about your youth sounds depressing.
You can't really do the same stuff. you're too old to party, you can only bang old chicks, older chicks might be looking for just a husband not someone they can just fuck.
You're not who you used to be, etc.
You get tired easily, don't really have any exciting things to do.
You just get old and bored with everything.
I don't why I'm even thinking about this, but I am.
I feel the older you get, you just keep thinking a out younger days.
Don't know if I should even worry about this.
Typos:
Typos:
In a relationship, this means if she’s acting closed off about sex, and she really isn’t going to sleep with her (you)
Girls do not (like) feeling like something bad is “their fault.”
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