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unicorn hunter
Perfect 10s, unicorns, what have you – do they even exist? In particular, we look at American girls, and if you can still find a good one.

There’s a special kind of girl out there.

This kind of girl is perfect.

During the Pick Up Artist Era, she was known as the Perfect 10.

Debates raged across the PUA world as to whether ‘perfect 10s’ even really existed. Did they? Some men claimed 10s walked the Earth and were attainable. Other men claimed there were no such things as 10s. 7s, 8s, 9s, okay. But 10s? Perish the thought.

Now, in the Manosphere Era, they call such a girl the Unicorn.

In the Manosphere, now, we see the same debate rage as previously raged among the PUAs: do unicorns exist? Are they obtainable? Or are they but a figment of man’s imagination: the ideal woman, dreamed up yet unrealized? The female human analogue to Plato’s perfect forms, perhaps.

To answer this question of whether these ‘unicorns’ exist and whether they are obtainable, though, first we need to figure out exactly how we’re defining them, and agree on a definition... Because every man defines these ‘perfect girls’ a little bit different.

And before we do that, we should talk about why we’re even talking about unicorns in the first place.

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Dontwannatell's picture

Out of topic. My unicorns are busty girls or girls with big boobs or nice butts. Even they look from good to very good or even averagr. Should these girls be gamed differentely and should they be complimented on there breast annd butts

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Don’t-

I’m a huge fan of girls with big (natural) breasts but little tiny waists, myself. I don’t specifically target for girls with good butts but I’ll get girls who have nice asses too plenty of the time – often if she’s got big natural boobs but a tiny waist, her body’s in the habit of putting fat in all the right places already.

When I was younger I used to ALWAYS mess up with these girls because they were my body ideals. But once I trained myself to check them out once, and then focus on their faces (at least until I had them hooked / turned on), that killed my nervousness because without continually staring at her massive rack she was just another girl I was talking to. At that point I discovered you can game her the same as any other girl, and she will generally react even better.

My running assumption is if she’s got conspicuous sexual traits, most guys who approach her are too busy losing their minds to act cool and confident. So when you do (by restricting your focus to her face in the initial chat), she says, “Wow, this guy is way more confident than most of the guys who walk up to me. He must be super high quality,” and you get an attraction boost.

And then once she’s into you and things are turning sexual, you can start checking her out again and it’ll only up the vibe.

Also, keep in mind the lessons from Alek’s post here:

Is She Too Hot? Well, Looks are Subjective

Big boobs and big butts do get more attraction than the lack of these traits, but there are still plenty of guys she’s liked throughout her lifetime who just weren’t into her, for whatever reason (they didn’t like her face, or they like girls with more of the runway model body type, etc.). So it’s often going to be another case of “10 for you, but not a 10 for everybody” – while you might think you need to treat her different, for another guy, she’s just another girl. Better for you to be the other guy treating her like just another girl (that he still likes, respects, and would like to get to know better).

Chase

Bruce Wayne's picture

This is one your best articles chase, I gotta set my criteria and start finding my unicorn too.. :D

Sam2's picture

Chase,

Thank you for just another great piece of writing.

My eye stopped when you wrote "I never got a unicorn when I was looking", meaning that these types of women just appeared when you were not actively looking for them. Two questions on that:

1) How was your life when these "unicorns" appear? Too busy with other things of your own? Were they periods that you did not approach women much or maybe periods you partied a lot (work hard-play hard periods) and "unicorns" came because of extreme outcome independence?

2) How did you actually get them once they appeared in your life/sight? Did you do anything special or was it just what you did for other women?

Chandler Bing's picture

Hi Sam, I felt the same when I read that line of I never found a unicorn when I was looking because my experiences have mirrored chase's there.

When I go out trying to look for women to meet, such as the mall, stores or grocery stores this stuff never usually happens. Usually all of strong instant attraction-she's-just-right-for-me or love-at-first-sight moments kind of just happens randomly.

Like a couple weeks ago, after trying to meet women at the grocery store & mall one evening, I was unwinding at the park, sitting down, relaxing and reading stuff on my phone when I looked up and saw this pretty girl walking my way, staring at me w/ a starry-eyed, lovey-kind-of-look. I felt likewise, she was just my kind-of-girl, right down to a tee. Also prettier, cooler & more-into-me than all the girls I saw at the mall when I was actually trying & looking lol. This kind of randomness holds over and over in my experiences. It sucks in bigger context caz it feels so out of my control, but I deduced that if I just go out enough over a 2-3-4 wk period, I'll just run into these kinds of girls simply due to large sample size.

Actually coincidentally, I have similar ideal women preferences to Chase - Smart (Masters is not a necessity for me), naturally beautiful, doesn't drink/party, happy/positive (personally ideal-for-me is shy-excited girls that Chase has mentioned) - & low partner counts (generally inexperienced in my case since I'm 23 & go for girls around my age and younger)

So trend is I'm usually doing something mundane in my day/running some errand and then great-girl opportunity knocks. It's actually partially a problem for a beginner like me caz I'm unprepared & my mind goes blank.

I think going out to try and meet women makes this unicorn-girl-matching less likely to happen for me but the skills development there helps for me to actually take action when it comes.

For life style overall, w/ this happening for the past 1+ yr, in the first portion of it I was super busy, then not so busy & alternating back-and-forth so that hasn't seemed to matter in this.

Also I was first at a big, smarter-end university & then now in the suburbs, so my kinds of girls are more likely to frequent these places and that helps my chances, even still if suburbs have much less people & women overall than big cities. I don't have extreme outcome dependence caz I'm a beginner. But I have good initial fundamentals IMO and also seem kind of just lucky in this department.

I'd say the biggest trend/common factor in this period when unicorn women opportunities happen is that I'm lifting heavier weights, not depressed & feeling excited w/ some project I'm working on in my life. This combo - started w/ the heavy weights, maintained w/ not depressed & spurred on w/ excitement over my life direction & progress - makes my testosterone levels feel higher in my body, makes me feel more confident naturally, have more natural masculine energy, stronger fundamentals w/o trying, & my sex drive higher - thus I think about women much more, am more turned on by them everywhere & more excited by girls overall.

Also this was a great post Chase, thank you

-Chandler Bing

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Sam-

I’ve had unicorn-type girls appear periodically at all times in my life. There’s no relation to busyness, approaching, partying, etc., from what I can tell. Obviously, you run into them more often when you’re out and about in the world than when you’re holed up in a cave somewhere – the only common denominator is, “Out somewhere that you will meet new/different people.”

I run my approaches the same way with a “unicorn” I do with any other type of girl. If you think of it as best practices, you develop your best practices during your approaches with “regular girls”. When you meet the super hot girl you’re crazy about, that’s the last time you want to go and be creative / start testing out new things. Even though that’s exactly what most guys do (“Oh, she’s super hot! My regular stuff would never work”). That’d be like if a guy made it into the NBA by doing one thing, then said, “I’m in the Big Leagues now. Better just do something totally different.” He’d be cut from the team before the regular season started.

So, when you meet her, even though you’ll have that emotional urge to treat her totally different because she’s so different and special, just treat her the same. First few times you sleep with a unicorn fast you’ll have the same mind-blowing epiphany experiences you did the first few times you slept with any girl fast. Your head will be going, “But she’s a total 10! She can’t POSSIBLY have slept with me that fast! No way!”

And then eventually you make your peace with it. And get the concomitant ego boost.

Whatever works for you with other girls, do the same thing with the exceptional girls, too. Save trying out new stuff for girls you don’t care about losing as much. The conservative play with the hot girls is to just do what you already know gets you results.

Chase

tayoisrich's picture

I am still looking forward to that article on "how to guard against divorce rape"... i think a lot of guys on the boards would also like it.

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Tayo-

It's still on the books! I think about it sometimes, just haven't been motivated to write it yet.

Sooner or later I'll read something or have some run-in that makes me go, "Okay. I need to write this article," and I'll belt it out. Waiting for that inspiration to strike...

Chase

Jimbo's picture

It's been a year Chase! Okay no more pressure, but just tell me if it's still on the to-write list or if you've just taken it off altogether, cause this is a big one for anyone willing to get married some day (which is most of us). Thanks Chase.

Eli's picture

"The only place in the United States where this is true on average is among urban blacks living in the ghetto". That's not true that it happens for ONLY black people. It happens for black people at a higher rate, but single mother hood has been increasing among both whites and Latinas since the 1940s. http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/3195455

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Eli-

According to that article, it’s:

  • Blacks: 68%
  • Latins: 43%
  • Whites: 26%
  • Asians: 11%

The concern of the commenter is things will proceed like this:

  1. You knock her up
  2. She decides to have your baby
  3. She decides to split up with you

That particular trend I only hear of happening with any great prevalence in the hood (women getting pregnant by a man, then kicking him out). When you account for single motherhood, there are three scenarios you must account for:

  1. She gets pregnant, but decides to break up with him
  2. She gets pregnant, they mutually decide to break up
  3. She gets pregnant, he decides to break up with her

Most of the women I’ve seen get pregnant have gone into immediate, “It’s time for you to man up and take responsibility for this child,” mode. I don’t know what the actual numbers are between the three scenarios above, but my guess is the “she keeps the child but boots you out” one is the lowest of the three.

So even when you’re talking about black women, it’s 68% (probably higher for the hood; middle class black women outside the hood will bring those numbers down, so maybe it’s, I don’t know, 75% in the hood? 80%?), broken down into three causes for the single motherhood. One of those is her breaking up with the guy. The other two are it’s mutual or he dumped her.

One final consideration: I suspect a large part of the single-motherhood that happens in the hood happens not because the woman doesn’t want the guy around to support her, but because either he’s in jail or he’s a deadbeat. Which might make it “her choice”, but kind of not so much her choice either – it’s the only practical choice, given the circumstances the guy puts her into.

Among non-blacks, it’s going to be a tiny percent – maybe 10%(?) of Latinas who are choosing on their own accord to be single mothers? The rest I would think are most likely to be either the guy runs off, the two of them mutually break up, or the guy gets locked up and she has no other choice. That’ll be even smaller among whites, and almost none among Asians.

Chase

SZ's picture

Chase could you please correct these for me?

Can black men find unicorn?
I

1. You said go to the deep south to meet women, I know the deep south is notorious for being racist against blacks, even black women want light men, does this work for black men?

2. you said get girls who are religious devoted, I heard they are the biggest sluts.

3. you said girls in small towns and cities? just a wild guess, but wouldn't they be all fuckin each other because they all have a small social circle?

thanks

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SZ-

Race is irrelevant to finding unicorns. Every cool black guy I know has found his fair share of unicorns too.

There are huge swaths of the Deep South that are predominantly black. Just take a look at the racial dot map of the U.S.:

Racial Dot Map

Even if the whites / etc. are racist there, you should be able to find plenty of black girls. There’s a preference among blacks for lighter skin, but there’s a lot more emphasis on girls being light skinned than men being it. Confidence trumps looks in men’s attractiveness.

Religious girls are not the “biggest sluts”. They get characterized as this because their repression makes them much more sexually zealous when they finally get a release. Men discover how horny and excited they are and say, “Wow, they must be sluts.” Typically the strongest tell of a girl who sleeps around though is that she is blasé about sex, not excited about it. If she’s excited, it’s still fairly new for her (OR she has a super high sex drive. There are some of those too – always fun!).

Small towns and cities – yes. Much harder to do the playboy thing here. Though I do know a few guys who’ve gone from big city to small town and reportedly cleaned up; it’s the old game from a tough market cleans up in a soft market phenomenon.

However, if your goal is to find low partner count women who want a quiet, settled, monogamous life, and not to hook up with tons of girls, I would expect you wouldn’t be as intimidated about heading to a smaller town and potentially taking things a little slower.

Chase

Lawliet's picture

Nice article Chase! All home hitting pointers!

Lawliet

Debunker's picture

"It’s no coincidence that California has both the worst male-female ratios in the U.S. for men ... and many of the most round-the-clock workaholic billions-or-bust entrepreneurs in the U.S."

"All those guys busting their butts to ... create wealth are doing so because they live in a more competitive sexual environment."

You're putting the cart before the horse.

You think that bad gender ratio creates competition among men, which then creates a tech boom in California (Silicon Valley). Tech boom happens, according to you, because men create businesses in California to be more competitive in the local sexual marketplace.

Let me give you an example to show that your thinking is flawed.

Oil boom in North Dakota. If you look at gender ratio in ND, you might think: "Aha! Bad gender ratio creates fierce competition among men. This competition then produces the oil boom, since men build oil businesses to get women".

* Why is there a tech boom in Silicon Valley?
Early government investment there gave SV a first-mover advantage in the technology industry. Venture capital is there. Skilled employees are there. Mentors (other entrepreneurs) are there. The weather is nice.

* Why is there an oil boom in North Dakota?
Discoveries of new reserves in the area. New and better methods (horizontal drilling and hydraulic fracturing) of extracting resources. There is a low human population density. There are political reasons - energy independence and job creation.

Your general template:

1. Gender ratio is bad for men
2. Bad gender ratio creates fierce competition among men
3. Men build businesses to compete better in a local sexual marketplace
4. There is a boom

My general template:

1. There is a boom
2. Jobs are created in male-dominated fields (engineering, programming, physical labor, science)
3. Men go to where the jobs are (they are, in many cases, immigrants)
4. Gender ratio changes and becomes bad for men

Which one of these templates sounds like Freudian philosophizing ?

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Debunker-

I never said the women were the only reason the men worked hard there!

During the California Gold Rush, the male-female ratios were ridiculous – some parts of the West had towns with ratios of 700+ men for every one woman present. The reason those men were there in the first place was because these were men who wanted to get rich. The uprooting of men from all over the country to California is no exception.

I find three (3) typical reasons men relocate to California:

  1. They want California beach babes
  2. They want to break into Hollywood (or roll in those circles)
  3. They want to be in Silicon Valley / be a tech millionaire

But what’s the deeper motivation to get into Hollywood or become a tech millionaire? Purely for the vanity of it? Or perhaps just to say they could?

Biological organisms are simple. They want to survive, and they want to reproduce. Anything that doesn’t help them do one of these things either gets avoided, or it is easy and addictive (like pornography, video games, junk food, or narcotics). If it’s hard to do, and people still do it, it’s either because it gives them a survival edge or it gives them a reproductive one.

Men in San Diego work hard to build buff bodies, but otherwise aren’t as concerned with social status or wealth building. Men in Los Angeles work hard to build connected social networks, but otherwise aren’t as concerned with body building or wealth building. Men in San Francisco work hard to build wealth, but otherwise aren’t as concerned with body building or social status. Why do they work so darn hard, though? What’s the motivation? Why’d they move across the country to do these things in the first place?

I’ve yet to see a man move to a place with abundant, easy-to-get women and stay motivated. Hot women who are harder to get are the greatest motivation driver that exist for men (there’s even research on it).

I did not say “sex imbalances created the tech boom,” nor is this my “general template.” You’re drawing inferences (incorrect ones).

There are probably 200 books on “why the tech boom happened where it happened and when”, each one focusing on this or that mishmash of supposed causes. Direct causes of booms are often impossible to pin down, usually because they require a whole host of contributing ingredients.

However, the role of sex ratio in both contributing to an environment ripe for male competition and in helping to maintain it – yes, absolutely.

Think guys’d be sitting in front of their computers coding all day in city with a 60/40 female/male ratio? You’d never get a tech industry off the ground in such a place. Every guy there would tell you, “Yeah, yeah, I will totally start up my tech company. Just as soon as I find a time slot that isn’t occupied by a girl coming over to bring me dessert and mess my sheets up.”

Men were attributing the male drive to sex long before Freud. Give this paper published in the Journal of Research in Personality a read; it’s filled with some fascinating charts and data, as well as hypotheses on why men’s productive output clusters so heavily at the ages it does so. You may reach a different conclusion than the researchers; perhaps you think there is another motivation (aside from sex) that drives young men to work so hard and be so productive across so many fields. But better to view the data before conclusions are drawn:

Why productivity fades with age: The crime-genius connection

Chase

SZ's picture

I think I might have sent in my comment blank.

I wanted to know how can I get rid of the bad feelings that I have for wanting to keep sleeping with women well into old age and not settling down.

I want to do it, I just feel bad because people are judging people all of the time who don't settle down around 30.

I never told them what I wanted to do, but they discuss it.

I just feel bad that I have to be judged if I want to keep sleeping with women. they try to make it seem like I would be a creepy old man.

also, I checked Sasha day game website, and he said he didn't want to be 40 trying to pick up girls because that looks very bad.

I want to get rid of the negative feelings and doubt that I am having about sleeping with many women at an older age.

one minute I'm like I'm going to keep sleeping with different women until I'm ready to settle down no matter what age.

then when people talk about how people shouldn't be 30 and still trying to sleep around.

then the doubts come in saying maybe I should settle down soon.

I'm trying hard to fight what society wants to do, but if everyone is against it, it just makes it seem that much harder.

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Chase Amante's picture

SZ-

Solution: get out of your head. Go live your life NOW.

If you keep on the way you are right now, I have a strong suspicion you are going to reach 60 years old, and you are going to look back, and you are going to say, “Goddamn, I can’t believe I spent my entire youth worrying about bullshit that never happened. I could’ve spent my youth shagging pretty girls and doing all kinds of cool things instead.”

You are worrying today about make-believe hypothetical solutions in your distant future (that, probability-wise, most likely will not happen).

You write on here about having read the website for years and getting no results, and then in other comments you write that you do not cold approach, aside from grinding up on girls (i.e., you read everything, and apply almost nothing).

Your entire life seems to be lived in your head. When are you going to actually start to live?

Chase

Dud's picture

Don't worry.
I slept around until, in my 30's, I found one to keep. After 26 years it came to a natural end and within a week I discovered there are thousands of older ladies competing for freshly available, experienced, husbands... Don't go there.
Later I also found a fair number of (mostly younger) lasses willing to entertain an older chap without strings. The only essential rule is: She MUST have a good time. If they leave with a smile you get very few complaints and third party censure is founded on jealousy ... there's no reason ever to feel bad about spreading a little extra happiness.

mk's picture

How did you know? 

"they avoided dating because their whole lives have been about preparing themselves to find a top-caliber guy in the big city and not a middling-caliber guy in the medium city."

Crazy how accurate the above statement is. 

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