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24 Ways to be a (Lovable) Dick to Girls

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Hector Castillo's picture

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Girls will tell you they don’t like guys who are dicks. But they do. They really do. And with these 24 ways to be a dick to them, they will LOVE you.

Welcome back.

In the Part I of my "lovable dick" series, I explained a very important paradigm:

That being nice to a girl isn't always the nicest thing to do. In fact, sometimes she wants you to be a prick.

Why? Because she needs to know you have standards of behavior. And also, because she wants you to treat her like a little girl and not take her too seriously.

Now that I've thoroughly explained why being a dick is so attractive to women, and in what scenarios, here're 24 ways to make sure she knows that you're ACTUALLY a nice guy (i.e., you'll give her what she wants).

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Rdawg's picture

Good stuff buddy! There is a lot of great tips and advice in here for everyone to read. Keep the articles and slaying going ;)

Mike's picture

Great stuff to remember. For me its hard to switch between this mindset and the more "nice" one amongst work, elders etc. Any advice for having to switch characters and modes like that?

Thanks Hector

Jimbo's picture

This might seem too politically incorrect nowadays, but women should be treated like kids. Not all women -- I mean, you don't want to treat the clerk lady as a kid or be condescending to her -- but those your age and younger, those who aren't you hierarchical superiors, and your romantic/sexual interests... yeah definitely.

And how do you treat a kid that's under your wing? You make sure he's provided for and protected, you're the one that has the final call on matters that matter, you tease him and be a playful dick to him ("I got your nose!"), he'll want to have fun, play, and have some adventure and you should give him that from time to that by being unpredictable and do some fun activities with him, you put him back in line when he steps out of it, and always keep the upper hand, all of that in a benevolently paternalistic way.

The only difference is that you don't have sex with the child. Seriously, don't.

As to other men, I treat them as my equal, expect the same from them, and only hang with those who do. By that I mean I'm neither deferential nor condescending towards them. I may, like, tease them and fuck with them a little and I expect them to put me back in my place, and vice-versa, because it's kind of fun. But it should remain occasional, playful (not mean-spirited), and without going too far, or else it loses its fun and "ultimately equal bros just messing around" aspect.

Those I perceive as inferior or subordinate to me, I just don't hang with them, but I don't gratuitously mistreat them or anything.

As to those who treat other men as inferior, I up my dick game cautiously with them, depending on how powerful they are. But ultimately I just shun them just like with the lower-status guys. Sometimes things degenerate, but what are you gonna do, I hate people who try to raise their status with low blows and dick moves.

The only people I'm okay with being treated as a subordinate by are my officially hierarchical superiors, but that's only because I keep three things in mind: 1) Accept the fact that someone needs to call the shots and lead for things to run smoothly and tightly and for work to get done in the company; 2) that it's in return for having my boss sign my payheck at the end of each month; 3) that this is only temporary, i.e. I see it as a stepping stone for me to climb the ladder and become the one to call the shots one day.

Yo ban's picture

Hello, Hector ! Amazing post. Got any examples of cocky facial expressions? Like certain actors?

Hi's picture

Do you gradually get nicer as a long term relationship goes on and do these things sparingly? Or should you never get warmer at all?

Captain's picture

A while ago, I saw something you had written.
It made me think you were just a bragging dick, and I didnt read any of your articles.

Now after i clicked on this article and read it, i really respect your skills a lot. I definately learned a couple of things.

You are definately on another level.

Thanks for writing up this article

Are you cool to guy friends or do you usually just go out alone? And do the guys you go out with get laid too?
I know this guy who kind of behaves in similar dick ways, and he always seems to need be the alpha. Going out with him is terrible for attracting
Girls because he always needs to get the attention

Anonymous's picture

Hey Hector,

I've noticed that a lot of your recent articles are very tailored to your specific personality. As such, it seems that a lot of their advice isn't applicable to everyone. Rather, it it's applicable only to others who share the same demeanor and attitudes you have.

For example, #7. "Make sexist remarks/jokes and use sexist language" . Personally, that's not a part of who I am. I have nothing against this, I don't judge people who do it. Nor am I intentionally filtering myself because I think its "impolite" or "rude". Rather, its simply not something I would do. And it doesn't seem like its something we necessarily have to do in order to be attractive to women.

I feel like quite a few of your articles and examples are littered with similar advice. I'm not saying that it's BAD advice. But rather, that it only caters to a specific kind of person. Would you agree, or is there something I'm misunderstanding?

ST's picture

You don't need to mold into Hector himself, that would be tiring as hell. Play around with the above traits that mesh well with your style. I'm sure doing 15 of the 24 would boost your game significantly! For instance, Chase has said that he isn't usually as a sexually blatant like the other guys and he still finds success. I've used some more sexually blatant material before and realized I wasn't liking it and eventually came up with a more congruent and mild version. There have been times where I test their angle on a situation with huge pressure because it's like pretending to be someone who is the polar opposite of you. I think with time and practice and persistence, you will be able to comfortably gauge and deliver whatever advice you've accumulated in a manner that best presents you.

I like the bean bag analogy I made for myself. Chase sells black beans, Hector sells brown beans, etc.

At the end of the journey, my bean bag with have 30 different colors, but it's still my bean bag, and sure it might be a mix, but it's a hell of a bean bag now.

Use what works, ditch what doesn't, or customize it.

Carver Montana's picture

Hey Hector,

Well, I have some criticism to offer. I hope it can be taken constructively.

You might want to tone down the way you talk about guys who aren't as advanced as you. All the macho talk about other guys being pussies and pansies is likely to turn off a lot a readers, therefore missing out on all the valuable things you may be able to teach them.

I'll relate a little story from my own experience.

Several years ago, after repeated failures with women and a lot of getting friend-zoned and just plain getting walked all over, I decided I wanted things to change. I went online and started looking for ways to improve. What I came across were a lot of advice articles, forums and products where the focus was on getting better with women. One thing that they all had in common was that there was a very condescending and disrespectful attitude from the "gurus" toward those with less expertise looking to improve.

I landed on the sales page of one product in particular that told me I needed to "Stop being such a pussy!" Well, what would you guess my response to that was? Yeah, a pair of elevated middle fingers and a quick click on the close box.

And at that point I thought, "Ya know, if getting to be good with woman means I'm going to end up being like these pricks... fuck it. It ain't worth it. That's not who I am."

It wasn't until a few years later that I discovered Girls Chase. I quickly became hooked, in large part because it was the first place I found where I could come and learn real effective advice without feeling like I was being insulted every second paragraph. Only then did my learning and my results really begin to take off.

And I know I'm not the only Girls Chase reader who values this site for that very reason.

And really, what is there to gain from that type of attitude? What was gained by that product owner throwing that line in his sales pitch? Well, I can tell you what was lost. He missed out on a potential customer and I missed out on years where I could have been improving myself.

If your goal is to teach, know that the best teachers are the ones who are able to connect with their students, and the best connections are formed through mutual respect.

Explosive Results's picture

That's an interesting perspective because I barely noticed the mention of other guys being pussies and pansies.

I suppose when I read things like that I don't feel as though the author referring to me (irrespective of my current skill level), rather the uninitiated fellows who don't make any effort to further their knowledge and skills in this area.

Carver Montana's picture

I may pick up on it more simply because referring to others in such terms is not something I tend to do myself, and I tend not to click well with people who do. It may not be so much directed at the reader, but regardless, I always find this type of attitude to be off putting and not something I would want to model in myself.

Varoon Rajah's picture

Best post yet, I fucking love it (and for me personally this is exactly what I need to practice). Thanks, Hector. Love it love it love it!

SilverTongue's picture

Show her who's boss ;)

Great article! I will definitely be sending these to some of my fucking friends.

Mike's picture

Hector,

With all due respect, some of things you are advocating border on sexual harassment/assault (seriously). I think you should make it very clear to your readers that randomly grabbing girls' asses or dry humping at parties could land you in a whole lot of trouble if you don't gauge their interest levels properly. And don't get me wrong... I think you have a lot of great advice. However, I don't want to risk getting arrested or dealing with the Title IX office at my university.

Any comments you have are greatly appreciated!

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