A lot of guys are too considerate to get what they want out of life. It’s not that being inconsiderate is the key, it’s that sometimes you need to be inconsiderate to get the things you want. Our society venerates meek behavior but at the same time it rewards people who have the ability to be selfish.
It’s not about being completely one or the other though, it’s about knowing when to be what. But in order to know when to be inconsiderate, you have to learn how to do it properly.
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What You See Is What You Get
William,
Something similar to your take that I've been thinking recently: you get what you see. Like in motorcycling when they tell you not to look at the trees you want to avoid, but to look at the road where you want to go (because your body follows your head/gaze).
You think you're going to take up her time and be low-value? You'll probably end up acting like it and voila, self-fulfilling prophecy.
You believe that you'll finish this last set of squats? It may still be too heavy, but you're more likely to than if you don't believe.
Also, by always putting others' (perceived by you) needs ahead of yours, you're basically signaling to yourself that you don't value yourself as much as others. Another self-fulfilling low-value prophecy.
I really like your posts on here, and look forward to reading each one.
Cheers,
Huan
Thank You Huan!
I really liked the last one about putting other people's needs before your own. I feel like a lot of time we get lost in what we want to do for others and what we feel obliged to do for others. It's important to look at what you want out of situations and see how you can get it, not what you don't want to happen and see whether you can avoid it. I have a lot of great post coming in the next couple weeks, so keep reading bro!
Balance?
Hey William,
Great stuff as always bro!
Just saying, how can we know where the line is for "going too far" and pushing her into auto rejection?
Cheers!
Lawliet
A Quote from Hunter S. Thompson
The Edge... there is no honest way to explain it because the only people who really know where it is are the ones who have gone over."
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Yea, that story about the
Yea, that story about the girl at the gym that didn't get back to you the 1st time, just shows how inconsiderate she was. She's not the person to go to when you're depressed or having a bad day - this just adds on the evolutionary evils of women, not defend.
She's Cool
Honestly I wouldn't want to be someone a girl comes to about a bad day. Not a woman thing, more like successful person thing because other people's problems tend to way you down. Thanks for reading man!
Life changer
This article was exactly what I was looking for! Thank you for sharing this with us! I have been using this mindset recent week and I am so much more confident in my actions and words while getting warm receptions from bosses/girls/colleagues alike!
Thank you William! Keep it up!
Really Happy to Read This
Thanks for implementing my advice. I am really happy to hear about your progress man, and keep us posted!
-Will
Good advice. This article
Good advice. This article made me realize that, although I don't fit the nice guy description, that I am trying to hard to be perfect and it's keeping the girls in my life at a distance. Suddenly, everything makes sense. Thanks will!
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