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Tactics Tuesdays: Attention Grabs (to Elicit Approach Invitations)

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Here’s an oldie but a goodie from the bygone days of Fast Seduction: Jay’s (Formhandle’s) pre-approach invitation male approach invitation, which used the (rather exhausting) acronym ‘pAImAI’.

It’s a complicated-sounding name for a simple technique: behave in an attention-grabbing way that entices women to send you approach invitations.

pre-approach invitation male approach invitation

If you do nightlife often, you’ll likely have started doing this one on your own already.

If you don’t, and you want to make your opening easier, you’ll probably find it useful.

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Tareq ali's picture

Hi Chase,

Really like your articles on various topics both for becoming better with women and improving ones life. I was wondering would you ever consider writing about Friendship in terms of how you can tell someone is your real friends as your friends can define who you are and impact your life greatly. I've been going through this thought process recently in terms of who I should consider my real friends in order to bring value both for them and myself.

JJ11's picture

There's an excellent article about social vampires that talks about this.

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Hugo's picture

Does using rAnGE in your voice make it sound sexier?

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Hugo-

Using it in a sexy way does.

There are all sorts of ways to employ range. Obviously plenty of unsexy ones in addition to the sexy ones.

If you're not sure which are which, watch movies of guys whose voices you like, and listen for parts of the film where the guy varies his voice a lot. Those will typically be the examples of "sexy range" you want.

Chase

ChandlerBing's picture

Hey Chase,

How'd the experiment/this go of thinking of women's bodies in "Women as sex objects: supercharge your game" http://www.girlschase.com/content/women-sex-objects-supercharge-your-game

You said you were only about 15% of the way there, how much better at this did you get this? Do you think it's because it increased your testosterone/sex drive & that women are naturally attracted to higher testosterone levels in men? - Ck

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Chandler-

Ah, good question.

I suppose yes and no.

Yes, I’m pretty much 100% on viewing women sexually. At the time I wrote the article, I was still working in an office environment (and would be for another year or so), and reined my sexuality in quite a bit so as not to “rock the boat”, I now see. Many women I viewed as just asexual people, not as potential sex play things I could bend over and pleasure till they screamed. Now every woman I look at, I think about it, and they can tell.

I actually discovered toward the tail end of my tenure working in office environments as I did this that it was really polarizing; I started sleeping with women from work, which I never used to do (since I viewed them asexually), but I also started getting weirdness with women at work, from women whom my sexuality made uncomfortable (which also never previously happened). So I’d say this one’s a mixed bag if you have to work with women.

Yet also no, I abandoned trying to get myself to 100% turned-on-ready-to-shag, because I found what happens is that for a while, as you adjust the dimmer of your sexuality upward, it’s all plusses: women get more interested in you, you begin to seem more aware and tuned in, more dynamic, more alive. But there’s a point where it starts to move in the other direction: you’re too much of a horn dog, too single-mindedly focused on sex, and you polarize more and more, and screen out increasingly more women while screening in a shrinking few (the ones you screen in are only women who are as aggressively searching for a sex partner as you are, or more so - so if you’re at, say, 80% horniness, only women at 80% horniness or higher respond well, and it’s probably only 1 or 2 women out of 100 you meet in any given situation who are hovering at 80%+ horniness. Great for screening, but bad if you’d like to not scare off women at lower levels of horniness whom you can as yet seduce, and bring up to a more lustful state once you’ve spent some time with them).

Another downside of getting too horny is the pressure mounts on you to perform perfectly; if you seem extremely aroused, women expect you’re going to move things aggressively toward sex, and if you make any mistakes it seems incongruent (“Why would a guy who’s this horny delay on hitting my escalation window by 5 seconds? He must not really be into me. [auto-reject]”). Keeping it a bit lower cuts you more slack.

So yeah! Fun to go back and read this. I definitely view women much differently than I did in 2009… I can’t look at an attractive girl without thinking “Sex.” At the same time, might’ve been bad had I done that while I was still plugged into an office environment - they expect you to rather leave your sexuality at home when you’re in a coed office. No Mad Men in the 2010s. And I discovered there are limits to how far you want to take this, at least unless you want to freak out most women and suck in only the ones who want sex ASAP (that said, I do know a few guys who’ve taken it this far, and do exactly this - it’s an option, just not the one I ultimately settled on… I went for more of a happy medium).

Chase

Anonymous's picture

Franco, how do I remove a comment I already posted?!

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When you "move" a girl, is this one step, like having her sit with you, or is moving her a small distance different from when you have her sit down with you? On the street or on transit would you move her and/or have her sit with you before asking for a number?

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Anon-

Any form of moving women is good, though the nature and distance of the move has an impact. Moving her over a step or two is good; having her come sit down with you is better.

If you can move her before you take her number, that’s ideal. It’s not mandatory though… you can still take good numbers without moving women at all (especially if you’re opting for rapid 2 or 3 minute number swaps). Better if you do, but won’t be a deal breaker if you don’t. Just a nice little bit to throw in if you can do so naturally.

Chase

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