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Tactics Tuesdays: How to Isolate a Girl Away from Her Friends

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If you read the articles on here (and especially if you read Alek’s articles – he discusses this one regularly), you’ve no doubt come across the tactic of isolation.

The word isolation describes the act or state of being cut off or removed from others. That might sound like something nefarious, but its use here is far more practical:

Isolation is the art of getting a girl away from her friends, from people who know her, or from people in general, so that you and her can get to know one another more privately and ramp up the connection between you.

how to isolate a girl

This is obviously most applicable in social venues (bars and nightclubs, parties, barbecues, girls you meet on vacation, etc.), however you’ll sometimes find yourself needing to isolate in traditionally non-social places (for instance, say you meet a girl in a crowded airport terminal, or in a busy café).

Assuming you are isolating women who find you attractive (and you will have an outlandishly hard time isolating women who do not), they want this too, enjoy this, and before you do it often will be hoping that, somehow, they end up somewhere one-on-one with you without their friends, much as they adore them, sticking their noses in or craning their necks around to hear what you are saying better.

Today’s article is all about isolation: how to isolate a girl, different ways you can generate isolation scenarios, and what you can do in the case where for whatever reason you can’t pull her off somewhere more private just yet, but you’re nonetheless at the deadline to create some one-on-one time with her.

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Lawliet's picture

Hey Chase,

Are you reading my mind?
Every article coming out of the oven since december is exactly what I'm facing!
They all act like quick adrenaline shot of motivation before going back out there.

Thanks,
Lawliet

JJ's picture

From a girl's perspective all it takes for me to give it a go one on one is to engage me in conversations about things I like. I never let a guy know what my interests are beforehand, but if he happens to share similar interests and says the right stuff talk about animals, natural sciences, music, tattoos, aerial sports, philanthropy, travel or start twerking i may just be hooked. However, I'm unpredictable and will let guys I find attractive at least I do at first, but whose attitude or personality I hate and have nothing in common with just hit it b,c they're prey for my personal purposes. When I dislike the core of a person its as easy as breathing to move on as physical attraction vanishes once I've done the job, thx to my accomplice cbt (bdsm). Disliking a person's essence makes hooking up successful. Places I can sometimes prowl are expos, conventions, fairs, trade shows, concerts etc. of all types its better than a club more options.

Jimbo's picture

Lol how many guys have twerked for you?

Difficult's picture

Hey chase, thanks for all the valuable information and techniques. I like how concise and easy to remember your articles are as opposed to other sources.

Let's say on approach and number, the beginning of seduction; on a date/connecting/transition to seduction location, the middle of seduction; and isolation and sex, the end of seduction, what action/techniques/manuevers/or choice of options do we have that we can take upon a girl acting difficult at any of these stages?

- Difficult

ChandlerBing's picture

Hey Chase,

On when women want you to say hi & proximity, like for ex. in a grocery store aisle that's kind of open & long but empty, women position themselves near me but too far away sometimes for me to just turn & say something, how do I open in a way that seems genuine/natural while also still looks like it took little effort to do so? And I'd open casually right, just like asking an opinion of something in an aisle etc.

Also in your cold approach article, you mentioned when you were younger, you felt shame & embarrassment over anyone else thinking poorly of you, how'd you get past this? I feel like this is what is holding me back most from taking more action.

Also this is weird but having read a ton of your articles, we have a ton of the same background, qualities & thought patterns lol. Well those of when you were younger, i'm 22 btw

Thanks again - Ck

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Chandler-

If she's too far away, look toward her and kind of smile and wave at her a bit and try to get her to look your way. Easy to then scoot down toward her and ask her a question (in a grocery aisle: lean in, eye contact, smile, wave; once she's looking, scoot down, look quizzically at the item in your hand, and say, "Hey, what the heck do you do with this stuff anyway? My friend is insisting I start eating this but I'm clueless." Then whatever she says, compliment her and start chatting her up; ask her / tease her about what's in her cart, etc.).

As for shame and embarrassment... I only got past it by embarrassing myself as much as possible. Getting rejected by tons of women publicly, getting booed off a stage, nearly getting arrested for skinny dipping, doing all kinds of things I'd previously never have done because fear ruled me too much before. Once you've done enough stuff like that, and suffer the embarrassment, you come out on the other side and go, "Eh. It wasn't that bad," and the next time you do something silly, it doesn't bother you.

I recently started doing handstands, and had to do them in front of a few people because I didn't have anywhere more private I could do the exercise. Well, I ended up falling flat down and banging up my knee pretty bad second time doing it. Somewhere in the back of my brain a voice was saying, "You're making a fool of yourself," but that voice is pretty small these days. Just kept doing them, and now I'm getting pretty good at going up and coming down quite effortlessly and impressive-looking.

I suppose it helps to tell yourself, "Someday I'm going to do this and it's going to look impressive as hell. But before I reach that point, I've got to wade through the parts where I look like a jackass. Oh well, here goes nothing."

Chase

RS's picture

Hi Chase,
I'm a frequent reader of your articles, and I love reading all them. Not only are you an excellent writer, but all of your articles are always so convincing and logical.
However, being raised socially secluded from most others, I have trouble with a lot of basic socializing, let alone properly connecting with girls. I've read and analyzed your articles on being a conversationalist and deep diving, but I have trouble relating with the common interests of others. My conversations end up feeling like interrogations or lead to dead ends because of this. I'm not shy, but I end up with nothing in my mind and nothing to say. I have trouble thinking of any stories to share in groups.
Also, in just casual conversation, I don't know what to talk about. This means situations that aren't really suited for a deep conversation or much connecting, but rather just making an interaction more interesting and not completely quiet. Similarly, what do you talk about long after you've made a connection with a girl? Again, this might sound basic, but I completely have no idea how to have anything to say. Because of this, sometimes I'm pretty sociable, but other times, I'm at a complete lack of words for everything, and the mental effect this has on me just spirals.
Additionally, in groups, as an introvert, I run across a similar problem: I'm not shy (or at least I don't feel shy), but I generally have nothing in my mind, no story, no joke, and no comment to add to the group. Sometimes, requests for compliance or pointless remarks come to mind, but I know that this doesn't advance the conversation of the group at all.
I've been struggling with this for quite a while, and even after observing others and trying to emulate them, I either don't like the way they add to the conversation or their humor (too wild).
Can you give me any advice?

Thanks.

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RS-

I can relate.

You might have seen it by now, but in case you haven't, this article a little after your comment hopefully answers your questions:

How to Get Started When You’re Socially Hopeless

Chase

90210's picture

Chase mentioned earlier on this site that INDIRECT approaches were bad, as "hiding the banana" downplayed your interest. My question is, how can naturals do this, as you described in your article, and make it work? is there something i am missing? Regards,

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90210-

My grievance was with true indirect, where the guy walks up and acts completely disinterested and platonic toward the girl.

What naturals do is they talk about non-sexual topics, while oozing a sexual vibe, teasing the girl, flirting with her, and touching her. When you know what you're doing with this, it drives girls crazy with mixed signals, because everything about your nonverbals says, "I am seducing you," while verbally you sound (relatively) harmless.

I think the article you're thinking of is this one:

How to Use Indirect Game to Get Girls

(indirect, hide the banana)

If it's been a while since you read it, reread it with these points in mind, and you might read it a bit differently. It's not necessarily an indictment of going indirect; it's an indictment of going indirect without the proper sexuality to turn what would otherwise be a context-free platonic question-and-answer session into, instead, a seductive, flirtatious dance between two people attracted to each other.

Chase

Lawliet's picture

Hey Chase,

I encountered a dilemma lately.

Re: If text don't work...

Two parts for the call / text switch.

1. If they said they're busy that week and you're up to pursing instead of throwing it in her court (let me know when next week text), but your typical progression says 3 days after text, then call...and she already said she's busy that week. Then what do we do?
I'm tempted to banter or rapport in the meantime until next date ask, but what are your thoughts on this?

2. What if the 3 days away is a weekend or another day that's "do not call day" under your "Making the first phone call article" then what do we do?
Do we wait until weekend is over?

Re: First text / Interested but cold?
Also, I've meeting a lot of girls and starting to see some patterns.
Usually, if she doesn't hesitate, gives you her number right away, or even checks if you got the text or phone call, it means she's interested. Then it's usually followed up by quick replies.

I've had a number of girls who would say, "Put it in my phone" and then they never text you. Or those that hesitate, which usually turns out bad numbers and they never reply.
Reference points for lawliet!

So this girl gave me a call, she even asked me if I got it in person when I didn't immediately take out my phone to check, I'm pretty sure she cares.
She also broke normal friend physical space as she leaned almost in my face when she couldn't hear me and leaned her head in my face upon approaching.
Another very positive reference point I've found was, if a girl let's her hand linger in your handclasp, it's a very good sign. I did it twice, approach and end, and she just let it sit there.
I was 99% certain this was a good lead.

Yet, I texted her the next day afternoon (it was thursday night we met) with "Nice to meet you friend", then the next day with a rapport text, somehow she's not replying. Disappointing.

I'm confident in the reference point and pattern, so i'm wondering if something I did that pushed her into auto rejection. Disappointing that after all the mini losses, I thought I got this assymetrical return finally!

Re: Calling
I have a number of girls on pursuing list for calling practice.
That's a lot of fun. According to Ricardus, he says to ask them if they're free to chat if you're calling them out of the blue.

If we're using the typical progression from call and text, and she says, "I'm busy now" what do we do? or "I'm busy but I'll call you back" but doesn't,

Does it count as a strike for next on the list step or do we call again when she's free before moving onto text since rapport wasn't done over call?

I caught myself saying "Well are you free to chat next day?" "No I have " "What about next next?"
"No I have that too" which is ultimately bad and chasing on the outset.

Lawliet

Lawliet's picture

Hey Chase,
Speaking of isolation, it reminds me of your story in 5 essential groups and how to be unfazed articles.

Have you isolated her away from her friends, you wouldn't have ended up with her in after party by the bartender, or at her house in the end too. Strangest is you managed to build it up to the point she back you up WITHOUT isolating her. How? Supposedly, she would be self-conscious with her friends around.

I remember you said she's being difficult and busting your balls at the beginning too.
What was going on here in terms of isolating her? It's as if you knew staying with her friends would lead to a better outcome :).

Btw, if a girl is busting our balls upon approach, what did you do to turn her into backing you up to stay in the after party? A complete opposite change!

Thanks,
Lawliet

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Lawliet-

The “do not call” rule is for weekend nights:

Tactics Tuesdays: Making the First Phone Call to a Girl

Perfectly fine to call weekends during the day. Just don’t call too late.

If you’re using call-text switching properly, you won’t be asking women out every time you call them, so calling in the middle of a week she says she’s busy should not present an issue, unless she’s told you she’s so busy she has no free time. Usually, if she likes you, you can call 8 or 9 PM-ish and she’s done whatever she had to do for the day and can talk.

If a girl tells you she’s busy, just be a little over-dramatic and hop off: “Say no more! I’ll leave you to it then. We’ll chat another time. Hope all’s well.” If she says she’ll call you back and doesn’t, no big deal. She just isn’t that into you… can’t win ‘em all. Sometimes you can still turn those around if you’re persistent.

If she’s blowing you off and you ask her if she’s free to chat the next day, she’s already told you “no” once, which means good chance you’ll get that again. Don’t ask that.

In fact, you might be better off simply not asking if she’s free to chat. Instead, just dive into talking to her. You’ll annoy some girls, but at this point I think you could use the experience. When most of the women you call are brushing you off, you’re not at the point yet where you can ask if they’re free and expect them to call you back later if they’re not.

With the girl from “5 Essential Insights on How to Meet Girls in Groups”, that was a situation where it was the end of the night, I was in a really tiny bar, and I hadn’t had enough time to build more than cursory attraction up yet. I could’ve gone for a 10-minute pull, but we didn’t quite have that chemistry. If memory serves, the girl started telling me they were going to an after party and she was going to bring me; I think prior to that I just looked at the situation and said, “Well, I’m not sure what the right call is here, so I’ll just hang around and let’s see what happens,” and it ended up working out okay. That happens sometimes. Sometimes you’ll spend all night hanging out with random people and nothing comes of it. I don’t do that so much anymore unless I really think a girl’s cute, but when I was learning, those kinds of experiments were worth their weight in gold as far as my education was concerned.

Chase

Robinhood's picture

Hey Chase!

Series of questions regarding some of your articles

How to spot and avoid lesbians? My experience has been that most of them are a bit rude and crass as i like more feminine women. They are tomboyish and dress in mens clothes lol

How to spot naturals in daily life? And what is the best way to learn from them except observing? Most of them i know dont divulge their "secrets" and hold their cards close to chest.

Game imbalance hypothesis.. how to overcome nerdiness and social isolation in your teenage and early adulthood? Already read your socially hopeless article.

How to spot naturally beautiful girls in day to day life who have amazing bodies as you said that they dress in plain clothes and dont show off but hide their bodies? How to differentiate between a naturally beautiful face and one made pretty by makeup as most girls use makeup generally?

I have noticed that when im preselected at a place massively girls auto reject pre emptively without giving me a chance to show my attainability. Some harsh blowouts lol. Moreover, massive preselection leads to a lot of getting thrown under the bus behavior from people. How to spot and avoid it?

How to screen for receptive women? Ones who are genuinely interested in you vs throwing around fake iois to feed off the attentions of a high value man. Thsse time wasters are a result of preselection too as far as i have noticed.

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And one more thing.. i have a habit of bringing up people in down position. Like if someone is being bullied i would side with the weak everytime and encourage them to stand up for themselves. This happens sometimes in college. What is your opinion on it? How does it make you look if you are facing off against people high on social ladder to help the weak?

Thanks for all your content.

jack's picture

What about her friends? You don't even talk to them at all??? In my experience, these 3 pulls are pretty obvious, it's how to get her friends to stand idly by without interfering as you make the pull that takes the skill, why is there no mention of this here? You really find girls out with friends and the friends do nothing when you try to pull in only 5 minutes??

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