If you’ve ever looked at a pretty girl and suddenly felt a surge of nervousness at the idea of going to say hi to her, you’ll get something out of this article. Because what you were doing when you felt that nervousness was you weren’t thinking in numbers.
Most men who are successful with women have a number of similar traits you can distill and learn from. One of those traits is thinking in numbers. That is to say, thinking to themselves not, “I’m going to go meet that girl… I hope she likes me!” but rather, “I’m going to go meet every cute girl I see, until I find one who likes me.”
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Conquest of numbers
This is a baller article for me Chase. Since I've been thinking in numbers; instead of being the guy "not" thinking of it. Also it reminded me to keep moving, instead wasting time with girl. Who aren't giving much attraction and investment. The ones that are just being social; or later on in the conversation " I have a boyfriend". Troublesome and nuisance it is lol; which I also notice I tend to waste time unintentionally. Talking to attractive woman ,who aren't interested, etc. Could you please write a comprehensive about socializing with a woman. If your not wasting your time in conversation or are? I don't know if you have something covering that, or related to that.
Re: Conquest of numbers
Lau'Ren'Tay, absolutely man, that's an important topic to speak to. I actually had a conversation about this last week, where a guy asked about what to do when you find yourself in a go-nowhere conversation: should you leave, or try to turn it around?
I'll look to get a post up on that real soon: on figuring out when you're in a conversation that's going nowhere fast, and what to do about it when you are.
Chase
Awesome article
Thanks Chase, these articles are very helpful!
Chase, I came upon your
Chase,
I came upon your website a couple of days ago, while googling for answers/solutions after yet another failure with a girl I met and really liked.
I must admit I'm as yet one of those 'average chums' who isn't doing particularly well with women, but hoping to change that soon.
Seriously dude, this is THE best website/resource on this all-important subject I have found to date ! Thanks so much for putting all this brilliant advice out here for us !!! ...every article I've read on here so far seems a gem to me, and it's hard to drag myself away from the computer at the moment...
Cheers, and happy christmas !
'Jack'
meeting many people in the same place
Chase, I was thinking how many people realistically you can meet in the same place. I mean, if you hit on 10 girls , at least one of them is going to see you hitting on others? then she will know she is just a number and lose interest?
Caring for what other people think
Although you may be seen as a "slob" by those other girls wouldn't you say that the expirience of meeting those girls --be it negative, or positive--8q8that those kinds of meeting were all worth it? Of course it is. We are only here on earth for a short period so why waste on what other people think.
Are you absolutely sure this strategy can't backfire?
Hello Chase. I had tried the "numbers game" strategy and the result wasn't good at all. After the 5 or so rejections i thought it was all about getting rejected and moving on the next girl. After some number i think i wasn't even paying attention on what they were saying at all - even if some girl was actually interested, i believe i wouldn't have noticed.
This post is unbelievably important.
Hi Chase. I just wanted to say how amazingly important this post is. I've been steadily improving my fundamentals, touch, repartee and rapport and I have seen progress. Women are more interested in me from the onset. But the progress I make has been limited due to me not thinking in numbers (and so I end up not taking risks and lose girls mid game). But this post is like a revelation. I feel that the answer to so many beginner's problems is this post. And I am so excited to put this mindset into action
Once again, what a brilliant post.
Anon
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