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20 Ways to Talk to Women and Make It AMAZING

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Lately we've had a number of readers asking about more ways to talk to women and keep the conversation going. Here's JFav, answering the question of what he'd like to see in the new forum's bonus book:

Love to see something on keeping the conversation going. Some strategies a newbie could possibly use to deep dive.

Wanting to know more about conversation, particularly for newer guys.

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And on the recent article about how to pick up girls shopping, Maxz commented:

Hey Chase, another rocking article.

Question for you man, I have been having problems on the conversational aspect of the game lately. When you talk about deep diving and all, is it all about asking girls qestions about themselves? I can't seem to truly crack this nut. Some of the girls I have talked to lately, we usually just end up in strange silences at some point in the conversation. What kind of easy probing questions will you suggest to carry on these conversations?

Thanks Chase, love every single lessons on here.

I referred Maxz to a few articles to help him get his bearings, but I realize that a lot of guys need a more basic layout of how to talk to women properly than is laid out in the article on deep diving or being a conversationalist.

So, today's article has been put together to be exactly that: talking to women for beginners (with a few neat tips thrown in here and there to spice things up for the old pros), broken down into four lessons with five points each - a total of 20 ways to talk to women and make it go swimmingly.

Let's dive in.

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Flames's picture

I've read a lot of your stuff on conversation and although some of the examples sound a bit corny to me. I get that general idea your trying to put across. On the subject of pauses though, and Eric was kind of touching on this too, sometimes I deliberately DON'T say anything just to create a bit of tension. It seems to be quite an effective tool (although mostly this is social circle stuff) I've actually had a few more or less jumping through hoops when there talking to me, and they're deep diving me, rather than the other way round.

As I said the other day, this *seems to be* creating a good attraction and rapport almost off the bat.

What are your thoughts?

(on a side note) Today I just had one of those EC moments when you look at a girl and she can't help saying 'hi', I love that... :)

Regards
Flames

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Chase Amante's picture

Hey Flames,

Yes, conversation's one of those things that's kind of a devil to try and teach over type... you lose all the voice tone and nonverbals and that's the majority of what's actually being communicated. A lot of it is left up to the reader's imagination to fill in, and if you aren't on exactly the same page, some assumptions can get made about how it's intended to come across that aren't what the author intended. You almost do better to think of talking as a vehicle for the vibe and atmosphere you want to put across, rather than the words themselves.

You can use the tension-generating no-words pause to good effect, although you need to be mindful of its limitations as well. It works best with women who feel markedly lower than you in social status, and with younger / less socially experienced women (up until maybe 24 or 25ish in general it works fairly well... depends on the girl though, of course). The older she gets and the more experienced with men she becomes, as well as when you find yourself talking to a girl who feels she's "above" you for one reason or another, the more this works only as a tension-generator prior to physical intimacy with a girl, and the less she reacts to this kind of pressure.

Effectively, think of creating pressure as a "fear-based" tactic that works well with those who have some degree of fear or awe for you, and/or those who know they've done something socially amiss; the pressure kicks in and she's afraid of not filling the gap in the conversation. My personal preference is to limit its use to when a woman says or does something rude / testing / unhelpful to the progress of the interaction, as a way of pointing out to her, "You messed up. Now you fix it," while rewarding her with immersive conversation the rest of the time.

But, wherever and whenever you choose to use it, this approach can have some powerful effects on getting girls working to alleviate the pressure and make things more comfortable again.

Cheers,
Chase

Anonymous's picture

I totally agree with Chase here, the more socially savvy and experienced a woman is the less you can use "tricks" and such to get a result (spot on with the age here Chase). You'll need a combination of things to create pressure.

You'll have to get her to talk more about herself (by being a conversationalist), while also having sexy fundamentals:

Slower speech, strong eye contact, demanding compliance, relaxed eyes (edge), moving slower, a sexy purr, good fashion, etc.

On top of all that, if she IS actually pressured by you, she knows how to deal with it.

The video on Brad Pitt is an extremely good choice by Chase, because he is INCREDIBLY nervous in the interview, but if you're not looking for it you won't really notice. Why? Because he knows he's nervous and he has had experience being in that position. He knows how to control it and it's not a big deal. Anyone else would have tried to break tension by mentioning in conversation, something along the lines of: "haha sorry for stuttering I'm a bit nervous". This'll destroy your vibe and make you seem inexperienced.

- Eric

Flames's picture

It's true to say that the more experienced they are the less you can use tricks, but also at the same time, the less you actually need to as well. What you were saying about using it as a minor punishment for social in-experience maybe actually what I'm doing in a way, never really thought bout it like that. It usually happens when the girl leads to a topic I'm either not interested in, or doesn't really lead to anything else, so yeah....

I haven't watched that video yet but I've seen many times how nervous some of these celebs are on camera and yes they just get on with it, people seem to think that celebs are these amazing beings who don't have problems like anyone else. I actually like Brad Pitt as an actor and as a person (from what I can tell) he seems like a decent enough guy.

Oh and if we could have something on rapport, both making and breaking. I've had a few girls break rapport recently and it left me thinking wtf? :)

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Hey Flames,

Sure, I can cover those topics. Rapport, there's a lot of stuff on here already about establishing it, but for clarity's sake we can always put together a review.

There's not as much on here about breaking rapport; that one'd be an interesting topic to write on I think.

Chase

Maxz's picture

Another great article Chase, eat every word up!

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Glad you liked, Maxz. Hope it answered your questions!

Best,
Chase

Balla's picture

Hey chase I want to know if am being too cold. I read your articles on being warm and making a girl feel special, but I can't seem to show the soft side of me, which is telling them I care for them or that I like to spend time with them, or whatever. It makes me feel like if a girl knows you care about her or if you show her she's special she'll take you for granted and since she knows she means something to you she doesn't have to work hard, But if your too cold you go into auto-rejection.

I want to open up to girls and show them that theyre special to me without being taken advantage of and being taken for granted. I just want to know if it's cool to be honest with these females and not look or sound like a chump, how can I open up and still be a challenge?

I also noticed when I actually talk to girls over text or phone I get them liking me and wanting to see me more than just texting for only a date. What I mean is I actually have conversations with girls and we talk like friends, when I try the get to the point method and just ask them to go on a date with me and the fact we know nothing about each other seems to be a problem. It's basically the more we talk and get to know each other before the date, the more likely she won't flake.

But you said to just ask her out and dont do the friendly texting. I just want to know if I went over board on moving fast with texting girls to get dates and how can I build rapport over phone and text to make it easier for them to go out with me? Thanks Chase.

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Hi Balla,

To get rid of the coldness, start qualifying women more, and be sincere - there's an article on it here:

Is Qualifying Women Really That Important?

Also, you can tell women you like them / think they're cool / that they're attractive and say it in a very bored / almost dismissive tone, and have it come off very well. Like, "Yeah, I like you, you're cool," said the way you'd say you liked some random thing that someone asked you about that you didn't care that much about but you were just saying it socially to make her feel better.

On texting for dates: the one limitation of relying on just texting to set up logistics is if you didn't make a strong first impression when you met her and you didn't get her to agree to the date then and there, sometimes you will need to get on the phone, yes. Ideally though, you want to avoid this step, as it just adds room for error into the process. Look to create strong initial impressions, connect quickly with women, then propose a date, grab a number, and text for logistics later to set up the date. Firing on all those points is your surest way to getting women out, though if you slip up somewhere along the line, sure, you can always call and take a stab at getting her out that way.

Cheers,
Chase

Balla's picture

K thanks chase but how can I build up rapport with girls over text and the phone? Some pick ups are so quick that I can't really make too much of an impression. And is it wrong to have conversations with them over text like a little bit of deep diving?

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Text's an awful medium for trying to actually build rapport (no context, no voice, and what you can say in 2 minutes on the phone it'll take you all day to say over text), so if you still need rapport building after grabbing her number, definitely go with an actual phone conversation.

For that, take a gander at this article here:

Tactics Tuesdays: Making the First Phone Call to a Girl

Cheers,
Chase

Seifer's picture

Hi, Chase,

I think I have same issues with Balla, so thank you for pointing it out.

But in what kind of situations that we get to say something like this which you just mentioned "Yeah, I like you, you're cool"? The reason I ask is every time I try to open a woman, I have to force myself to NOT be nice for not making them think I'm easy and that they just got me.

So if I qualify women sincerely on something they tell us, then how could we suddenly make some indifferent compliments on their looks, their styles and that we like them in a "very bored / almost dismissive tone"?

This has gotten me a little bit confused, Chase.

Hoping that you could throw some details on this topics.

Thanks.:-)

Seifer

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Hi Seifer,

If you're already qualifying her sufficiently, you won't need to tell her she's cool; she'll already know you think so. But if you've been acting bored and aloof and the tension is raising as she wonders whether or not you're actually into her, that's when you need to drop a line at some point about what you like about her.

Essentially, so long as you're qualifying genuinely and she understands you're interested, this one isn't a problem for you (e.g., you might be running into something else if you're having similar issues to what Balla's seeing) - so see if you can pinpoint something else that might be causing you difficulty.

Chase

Nic's picture

How's it going Chase,

These twenty tips are awesome for beginner's(really powerful stuff), and I found a few useful tips for myself as well. Using stuff like this has been a huge change in my social life. Funny how this stuff is not given as advice anywhere. Not in school, the internet(only your site), and other mainstream puas do not even use this but it is so much more effective what you teach than what others teach. It is insane!

Also, thanks for the advice yesterday. I found out how to achieve resonance. Also, I no longer depress my hyoid while trying to add a purr but I realized yesterday that I actually don't specifically know what to do to add a purr sound to my voice. Sorry to bother you about this but I live in a small town with no voice coaches for dozens of miles around. Looking back at George's videos and I can finally hear a difference. He has a sort of rumble that is very distinct from other peoples voices. Tim Allen also sort of has it but not as much. I have been trying in the mic with no success. How do I make that rumble, do I push my breath out a certain way, or move my tongue a certain way(lol), is there like a certain sound I create in the throat? Where does the sound exactly come from? What did you do to add that rumble or purr to your voice? Again sorry to bother you about this but I have made so much progress with my voice and I want to keep going and not have to wait to see a voice coach.

Thanks again,
Nick

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Thanks Nick. I do try to keep the stuff on here original and fresh!

That's great news on resonance - you're making fast progress.

The best thing I can say on learning purr is, when I was learning it I'd realize that some mornings I'd wake up and my voice was naturally gravelly. Sometimes when you're sick it's like that, or some mornings you're just groggy. Look for that and pay attention, and once you've got a bead on what it sounds like, do your best to recreate it in your normal speaking voice at will. Once you find it you'll know how to do it.

Cheers,
Chase

M's picture

Hey Chase,

Thanks for the great advice. I tend to be shy about getting to know a girl well the first time I see her (talk about lighter things because I'm concerned I'll come across as boring or too serious), but all that's changing now.

If I move too slowly at first and see a girl a second time (say in class), is it alright to ask her "how's it going?" or something ordinary like that? Usually she'll tell me about something funny or thought-provoking that just happened to her. It's interesting and personal, but you mentioned before that it would be a bad topic since it's the same thing she talks about with everyone else. So should I say something else at first (maybe an interesting observation about her?), or is there a way I can move off of that topic and start deep diving again?

I think this is what I wanted to ask in a previous comment, but didn't say it quite right. :)

M

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Hey M,

Sounds like you're talking about small talk, right?

Perfectly normal for conversations to start with it... it's pretty much the order of the day. Nothing wrong with trading a few bits of small talk, but you want to get off it as soon as possible.

So, she tells you about the test she just had or the crazy thing her roommate did... no problem. You don't always want to be in deep conversation, and in fact if you do it much outside of dating scenarios and/or you go deep and then don't take the girl to bed, you stand a very real chance of quickly ending up as her really cool friend she has lots of good conversations with.

My advice is, if you're not moving things forward with a girl, actually skip deep conversation altogether and just stick to small talk and banter, until you're ready to pull the trigger and advance the interaction.

Cheers,
Chase

M's picture

Awesome, thanks for clearing that up, Chase! I think I was trying to get rid of small talk entirely with girls I'm interested in, and it was sometimes feeling a bit unnatural.

Vaughn 's picture

Hello chase, how do you get out of your head of thinking a girls out of your leauge? Examples are of she has more money,better car, better job, etc. What mindset should I have for this and how can I get girls like this? Appreciate it man!

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Hi Vaughn,

Anytime you're feeling like a certain type of person is out of your league, it's just a form of othering / not relating to that sort of individual. You can overcome it by building up new reference points and through using visualizations - see this article:

Reference Points and Changing Worldviews

Once you have enough women like this around you and enough good experiences with them, pretty soon they stop being out of your league, and start being just another kind of girl, no better and no worse than anybody else.

Cheers,
Chase

G's picture

Chase,

You've been on a roll! Lots of great articles and lots of hard work
I appreciate the level of interaction with the community making us a part of it

I've got a challenge and your advice would influence success even further
The last few articles have briefly mentioned expressing interest letting her know why you're chatting to her. The direct opener works wonders when a lady is by herself.

What other ways can we come across correctly and express interest the right way? Maybe that cute waitress who's busy. Or that girl who is with her friends and you're interest is with her not the group. How can we capitalize more effectively?

Many thanks for your advice it spreads to all areas of my life not just women

Regular reader G

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Hi G,

Good to hear you're enjoying the recent spate of articles! I've been working to try and keep the posting schedule up... it's work, but it's productive work and enjoyable (and great for upgrading my writing skills)!

That's a worthy challenge - how do you communicate and show interest properly to a girl who's occupied, distracted, and engaged?

Let me see what I can do on that one in getting a post up on it!

Chase

TMP-187's picture

I know this is kinda off topic but...

Can you put up an article all on School.
I just find it Hard to meet girls that Arent in my Classes.
I might say "Hey" in the halls but with 7 min passing periods and in a BIG school.You rarely see them again that day or even that week.
How can you approach them effienctly and effective in 2 min Less?
How to not be a big Stand-out approaching her?
How to not be a threat to her Reputation with het friends?

I'm sorry if that was alot man.I just know that your the bro to ask.

-Much Love,peace

Anonymous's picture

Well first, is it high school or college?

The great part about either is that they give you room to be totally out of there and ridiculous. I don't recommend this but to give you an idea of what I've done and how "out there" you can be:

1) Stolen things out of girls hands while they are passing
2) Once I threw ketchup packet at girl passing
3) Sat on random girls laps
4) Sit down with a random group of girls, and say "What's up?"
5) Backed into a girl once
6) Randomly sitting down at booths and helping out (like for the red cross for blood donation signups, or voter registration guys who go around getting people to register for politcal parties)
7) Participated in clubs I wasn't in (like honors society, ended up doing stuff like directly handing 200-300 sandwiches to homeless people)

#6 accidentally got me a job for the VP of administration of my school. Didn't realize until I was signing papers for employees. Whoops. Ended up participating in chair board meetings..

I've done a lot more but there's a lot of stuff you can do. If you don't want to draw attention just be like.. "Hey, I'm bored. What's there to do?"

The parking lot is surprisingly good too. You can just wave them down and be like "Hey, what are you up to?".

Find a place where you can mingle though, like the cafeteria. It's the best place to do social circle, because you'll meet someone. Then you'll see them another day with other people. Sit down with them and you make 2 new acquaintances. Rinse and Repeat (Lather?).

- Eric

Estate's picture

Hey Chase,
As always, great article.

You'll probably bang your head off a wall with this question after writing so much but here it goes....

I've read and re-read your conversationalist blog over and over and it's helped so much. I'm naturally a quiet guy and dates used to scare the hell out of me, what would I say??? But I went through a phase of just going on as many 1st dates as I possibly could to the point they no longer scare me and instead of saying "Oh, yeah, thats great" , as I did 2 years ago. I can keep things running much better these days. Deep diving and making conversation flow and fun is working so much better for me now on a date.

But here's the piece I'm still working on.

I see a cute girl in a bar, "Hey, you look really cute, Had to say Hi, I'm ...".
Now I want to get to "Not Boring her"... and I blank. I want to get into that conversation stage because once she'll a little invested I'm gold.

But when I've opened and she's still at the "Why am I in this conversation" stage, I often find it hard to hook her unless she's already very interested.

Is there a transition step here? How do I get those things that interest her without just acting like shooting fish in a barrel until I hit one. Or is that step only working on my look, walk, edginess, etc so that she is ALWAYS already interested?

I know standard advice is to comment on something she's wearing or whatever... but sometimes there are those girls who, there is just nothing. There's no necklace with a long hidden story, there's no particular style to tease her about or whatever... it's just her... you're attracted to her but you're lost for that transition and BAM, moment is gone.

What do you think?

Flames's picture

Hi Estates,

I very rarely comment on other peoples posts but I think I know what your asking. I think you maybe looking at it a bit wrong, instead of hitting topics until you find out what she likes, you can just give her a direct question that gets her talking about what she likes, or is currently on her mind.

Ex.

"Whatcha upto?" - my personal fav at the minute, seems to work well for me.

"So what are you doing later/tomorrow/weekend etc..?" - shows interest, is she short of time/on a schedule?

"What do you do for fun?"

Stuff like that seems to work well I'm sure there's others but I hope you get the idea.

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Howdy Edge,

That's a common one - just had somebody asking about that in comments the other day. A lot of it's fundamentals - the higher the base attraction you get, the faster and more reliably women hook. There's a small "book excerpts" post up on it here:

Book Excerpts: Reaching the Hook Point with Girls

Aside from that though, since it seems like there's a good deal of interest in the topic, let me see what I can cook up in terms of a post on this. It's a frustrating place to be at with your game, I realize... had me boggled for a few years, actually.

Well, keep your eyes peeled for that one!

Chase

InterKnight's picture

Had an absolutely amazing interaction the other day with a girl who I would never of tried beforehand, gained a lot of confidence from here. I'm usually very anxious and this was a first. However, what can one do when a date is proposed with her turning it down as she had plans beforehand (something that i can not change, until I get better like you of course) without chasing?

How should I persist when I see her next? She showed a lot of interest, however something must of held her back. At one stage she even said I walk like a boss. I'm willing to walk away but I do find her quite ideal.

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Hey Knight,

Great job moving outside your comfort zone on the women you're getting to know... that's hands down the fastest way to improve (so long as you hang in there through those early ups and downs).

The ounce of prevention here is asking her for her schedule first: "Let's grab a bite or a drink sometime this week or next," when you ask for her number, and, "When's good for you to grab that bite or drink?" when you text her to set up logistics. Then you don't run the risk of proposing something and her having to say "no" because she already has plans.

Good rule of thumb: don't ask her out EVERY time you see / talk to her, but every other time is fine. So, next time you see her, make some small chit-chat, don't get too involved. The next time you see her after THAT, even if you have to chase her down to talk to her, just grab her and tell her you need to go grab an ice cream sometime and discuss Disney films and politics (or whatever humorous callback you can come up with that works with your prior conversations with her), then grab her number so you can sort out logistics.

If she likes you, she won't say "no" to ice cream, Disney flicks, and politics!

Cheers,
Chase

Anonymous's picture

Great advice,
Ill beat this into me soon enough. Really appreciate your effort to the blog.

Cheers mate.

Walls's picture

One of your best, Chase!

Loved the Pitt example. This is where visual learning is amazing; I'm normally Brad Pitt in the intetviews (I find it well received usually by women, and it even gets me results) where I'm quietly passionate and gesturing about things, although I speak far less than he did (granted... it's an interview.) Had no idea this was bad form.

I would be personally weirded out if someone talked to me in the tone of voice that Billy Beane (movie Pitt) talked to me in.

So, my question is this: I just use the facial expression and posture of Movie Pitt... right??

My voice not very deep at times, nor commanding. I sound a bit like James Dean (I admire the hell out of how much women love him, and everyone is fascinated by him, so I model some things after him, although he was gay.) For a small sample, check the ill-fated driver safety interview shortly before the dude's death. Is that boring or captivating? Frail or Interesting?

Point is, if I tried to sound like Brad Pitt in that movie clip, it would be forced and obnoxious, just like it sounds.

I'd love more on fundamentals and more visuals on those fundamentals... Voice, this case in particular, and how to develop better tone. And for more suggestions, perhaps more "Seduction Models", including what they do well and what they don't. I know you like James Bond and Harrison Ford, I don't know if you dig Dean.

I know I gave you a ridiculous amount of stuff to tackle here, but anything would be appreciated Chase!

In summary:
Movie Pitt and voice tone?
Is Dean a good model to emulate socially and seductively?

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Hey Walls,

You're making a distinction there that a lot of guys make, and it's typically the reason why men who are more agreeable choose to be more agreeable: they reason, *I* certainly wouldn't like to have some overly dominant, overly masculine guy talking to me like that, so *I* shouldn't be that way either - people won't like it! It's a very considerate way of thinking about things, but it isn't what women find most attractive. Women are more attracted to arrogance than they are to agreeableness.

Granted, there are also some personality differences - I've known guys who were bursting at the seams with energy, smiling, and very alert. You can do that, but you can't be aiming to please - you must be aiming to lead. If your energy levels are higher, your leadership needs to be higher too. Move Brad can hang back and let women come to him and make some very casual "Let's move things forward" gestures, but Interview Brad's got to be excited and DEMANDING ("All right! Let's go! We're going back to my place RIGHT NOW! You're not ready? Of course you're ready! You can get ready on the way - come on!"). Otherwise, the level of energy he's exerting through all the effort he's putting out isn't being matched by his level of results, and women find him less dominant and attractive.

Also worth noting, if you do switch over to a Movie Brad approach, you'll probably go through a dip in results for a while as you adjust to the new role and get comfortable in it. Once you've got it down though, you'll see better results than what you're getting now when being more agreeable (or, you can keep your current posture / expressions, etc., and simply tone up the demands you make on women to get them investing far more and moving even faster, assuming you aren't already).

Seduction Models - that's a great topic; I'll aim to do a write up fleshing that one out, sure.

Dean - I actually haven't studied him much, but let me put him on my watch list and I'll get back to you on that one ;)

Cheers,
Chase

Allen's picture

Hey Chase!

I've found your blog just yesterday, and you've pretty much stolen my sleep for the past 2 days. I've read MANY blogs about getting women, but hell, I'm sure I'll never go back to any of those blogs again after finding yours.

As for me, I'm not an expert in picking up women. So I made a terrible mistake today.

I was in the shopping mall, and I saw a very cute girl who was probably 15 or 16, she was with her parents. After a while, she just drifted apart from her parents, and started looking at some things. She was in a part where her parents couldn't see her. I was standing in the counter, but I quickly went near her and tried to start a conversation.

Me: Hi! (with a slight smile)
She: Hi! (turning toward me, a bit surprised and questioning look)
Me: How're you?
She: I don't know you? (trying to be polite)
Me: Yes I know you don't know me.
She: Bye! (with slight smile, quickly moving away)

The thing is, this is the first time I've approached a girl so directly. I know I should've talked different things now, but then I messed up a few hours ago.

I see a few reasons why it didn't work:

1. I didn't dress too properly, and I wasn't well groomed, so she didn't find me all that attractive
2. My way of approaching was not interesting
3. In this part of the world, guys don't really approach women that much, so chances are I'm the first guy who approached her like that since she is early teen, and so she was totally surprised and shocked, not knowing what to do
4. Being from a conservative society, she doesn't have any experience with meeting boys
5. She wanted to end the conversation because her parents were around

So my question is Chase, will this approach have worked if the girl was a bit older, some other girl with no parents? Or was it a pure stupid approach altogether in general?

Waiting to hear from you soon, your're the expert after all! Glad that I met you! :)

Jake's picture

Thanks so much for this detailed analysis on what is probably a simple thing. Within this week, I am planning on talking to one of the biggest crushes I have had in my entire life. Before I read this, I was going over and over in my mind all the possible things I could say and all the possible counter statements I could make, but she would undoubtedly pick up on my robotic speech. I was a mess, and I had no idea what I was going to do, I read all kinds of articles devoted to "tricking" women and sleeping with them, but that was not my aim.

I now know I just gotta keep it cool, collected, and confident. Ask about things of common interest to a woman of her age group, simply listen to her, and gauge my conversation accordingly, tailoring it to what she responds with and keeping the conversation natural just like I would with a friend.

It really boosted my confidence knowing that I could be in control of the conversation and make women do most of the talking (because they want to talk), all the while impressing them.

Thanks again!

Oneillm's picture

What if she's into something you know nothing about?

KoD's picture

While it may seem weird, you just summed up the entirety of the Critical Thinking course I took about four years ago. Your's was a little more, focused, but the basic concepts are the same. On a side note, what I learned in that class actually lead to me getting married this last year.

lux's picture

The Brad Pitt video is gone unluckily.

Anyone remembers what was the movie?

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Lux-

Thanks for pointing that out. Looks like it was due to a shift in how we showed videos on the site. Must've missed that one when we updated the code last time.

Video's back up and working in the article now.

Chase

lux's picture

You the man Chase, thank you!

Cheers!

Christina Anderson's picture

I loved it so much that I linked to it from an article I wrote over here: https://medium.com/@iamawriterhireme/ultimate-secrets-on-how-to-flirt-with-a-girl-a7c7ff89526d 

You can see it in Pick your words carefully and be charming and delightful and amazing.

Darren's picture

Hi Chase,

i just read your article, which is great by the way, and I think I understand how to keep the conversation interesting and the girl engaged. My problem is that when doing this I’m now often talking about topics that I have no interest in and now I’m bored. I like attractive girls but I’m also very intellectual which can be tough to find that combo in girls out there. I often have trouble seeing the value in chatting up your normal everyday women with whom I have nothing in common and where I’m bored out of my mind. While I can do this, it just seems tedious and not worth it especially for a girl that’s not going to be a ONS. Do you have any advice for me?

stefalskqpwo's picture

"Let me see how I soon I can get us back to her talking again."
Small typo there, and additional "I".

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