How to Arouse a Woman

I'd like to make a suggestion for future articles concentrating on overcoming the conditioning that society imparts on us. First, some background. I'm an Asian American male, with well over 30 years of negative media portrayal of Asian men imbued into my subconsciousness. It was not until the past 5 years that I actually started seeing Asian men portrayed in any other role but geeks, asexual, or martial artists. Even Asian American women shun us and reject us. How much rejection can a man take? How long before it breaks him? That's all it really takes...rejection and time.

What other people see on TV, stereotypes of other races, they take as proof. Perception is reality. I see the same thing on TV and also take it as proof. My reality is based on other people's perceptions. I think it would surprise you to know that most Asian American men are self-loathing and self-pitying. I see the same desperation, loneliness, and sadness behind my brethrens' eyes as I did mine.

I didn't "take" the red pill until several years ago, when I discovered this site and other sites like it.

I've overcome a lot of B.S. the world force feeds me. I stopped watching TV and reading the news, thought from time to time I still find myself indulging in sites where Asian American men wallow in self-pity and lament how much it sucks to be an Asian man in America, with all the negativity and zero positivity that comes with the territory. I know. I know. Stop feeding the negativity monster.

I also do dumb things, like selectively price myself out of the market. By this, I mean that I will use racism as an excuse on why I should not approach or even reciprocate when a woman other than Asian shows any interest in me. No way she could be interested because I'm Asian, I say to myself. As a result of this programming, I no doubt send signals that I am not interested or fail to follow up because I simply cannot believe that she could find me attractive.

So, my request to you is to release a series of articles that helps people like me overcome 30+ years of programming. I've heard of advice like "just don't believe in limiting beliefs" or "a stereotype is true only if you believe in it." But you have to also understand that change is extremely hard when I've been indoctrinated to think one thing for most of my life. When something new comes along, it does take a long time to switch viewpoints. It is even harder when I have an almost lack of experience in which to base my future victories.

Thanks.

I think your comments on relationships are good but only half the story. You emphasize what you can do for your woman, but I think that you still have to keep the chase framing--do things to get her to chase you, not the other way around. Even when you can't replace (easily) I think you still don't want to chase (all the time).