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I’ve been getting fairly a large number of PMs of late over on the forum side of things here on GC asking about vibe, so here I am in this article to (properly) tackle the beast!
So what is vibe, anyway?
Chase and the amazing writers of Girls Chase have a number of fantastic articles on vibe already, and I recommend you check these out before giving this piece a read:
- Constructing Your Sexy Vibe (and Making Girls Go Nuts)
- How to be Smooth with Girls Every Time
- How to Be Edgy (and Turn Women On)
- How to Pick Up Girls: The Success Factor Part I
- Sexual Tension: 7 Ways to Make Women Excited and Randy
The difference between those pieces and this piece is that the articles above are zeroed in on specific vibes, rather than how to learn and develop a vibe overall in the very first place... and if they don’t answer questions you have about getting vibe down, then keep reading, as I shed some light on the matter of building your vibe.
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Nice article Richard, probably my favorite one by you so far.
Anyway I have an Idea that I think would be extremely beneficial to the blog readers (myself included) having to do with this article. You mention basing your vibe off a role model. Well what if you are our role model. I think you, or any of the authors on this site really, but you in particular, since I've studied your FR's and like your style, should make a couple videos of live, non staged interactions approaching and closing (or getting rejected) women. There are so many PUA vids on youtube and most of the guys are barely decent and scrape through interactions to get a # (there are some good ones though). If you or another GC author we're to make a couple video field reports, lets call them, and then break down the interaction in writing you would have a killer article. It would in my opinion bring GC to a whole new level of utility. You would be exceeding customer expectations and needs thus providing more value. Maybe if it got popular you could sell the video w/ written break down for like a dollar or two a piece. (Yeah I know getting all businesey here just got done studying management)
Maybe it's a far fetched idea of mine but honestly I think it would pump up the value of this site from awesomely badass to legendary. Curious to everyone's input.
Anyway great article, cheers
Rob
Rob
Hey Mr. Rob,
First and foremost, I appreciate the feedback and the compliment =P
If I'm your role model, then well, you need to get your eyes checked. Haha. Seriously though, if I'm your role model, feel free to hit me up on the forum side of the site, I'd be happy to give you whatever information you need.
Funny thing is, I started to model myself after someone on the site as well, on the forum side of thins. I first joined the site, had my troubles, and one guy in particular gave me the advice I was most in-sync with, and I mimicked what he did for a while, and now I am where I am today.
I've also thought about the PUA in-field vids from Youtube, seen a couple of them myself, but none of them ever had what I was looking for. So, it's an idea I'll toy around with, and see what I can do.
-Richard
Very nice article, I'd like
Very nice article,
I'd like to add that this attitude change has a very good "snow ball effect". Last night I had a few lucky things happen (some women suddenly decided to dance with me, other thought I was somebody they knew, etc.
This made me feel confident, gave me a nice vibe, I suddenly felt girls really as "silly and cute" and felt myself attractive, so when I talked to other girls I totally felt how THEIR attitude changed. All this looped nicely.
And that way of seeing girls felt like a switch, now I see them like that all the time, which changed my vibe for the better.
The core problem I keep
The core problem I keep encountering is the belief system. I am very honest person. There are things I dont tell people when I see it can harm them or me in their eyes, yet I never try to lie. So... as in the article: ".... and can then act more natural with women, and are flatly perceived as confident, too." ... but until something unexpected happens, you dont know what to do and your model is shattered into pieces.
I was on a social event yesterday. Friends were quite kind, wanted to see me but when I started talking to them I could see how their interest vanishes up from their eyes. I could see how my presentation, my mask was torn and I felt like a fake person. And when I hit something like this my honest thinking kicks in and goes back to realizing who I really am. And what I am doing. I am deceiving these people in order to look better which I am not. I am better at sports, I got better at drawing, yet my social skills are all the same maybe worse and I sit there and sip the drink so my body gets filled with alcohol in order to hide all this ugly truth.
I have trouble only with people I know. I dont know how to keep in touch with them. People come into my life and go, only to be seen once a year when it feels weird. I like meeting new people because I have trouble keeping people in my lifes. It feels more like a report of my achievements and successes or failures every time I meet with them. And at the end of the night I feel like I have lost. Lost them.
Core Problem
Hey Anon,
You're an honest person, but that doesn't mean you're lying to yourself should you decide to change your vibe. Chase, and everyone on GirlsChase advocates for honesty early on and you still see people change themselves for the better.
The problem you're having is you haven't internalized a mindset. When you're in a pressure situation you lose control of your composure so you're mindset changes, and you lose whatever vibe you were giving off, and become "awkward."
You're not deceiving anybody by changing your vibe, because you've got many vibes in you and they all show up in different scenarios, what you'd be doing is taking a single one and using that as your basic vibe, the one you give off all the time. When you look at your artwork, you probably feel confident, and happy about it, so why would it be deception if you felt like that naturally around friends?
-Richard
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Yo, Chase.
I read your article about facebook & picking-up and I agree with everything on it. I check facebook now and there to see if some of my old friends, who forgotten me years ago, wrote me something.
But because I'm perfectionist, I want everything in my life to be the best way I can do it. Same goes for facebook page.
I think you can relate, because in that article you said you spent hours to build a 'killer facebook page' for yourself. And I would like to see an article about setting up killer page, if you don't mind sharing your tips of course.
Thank you very much!
Richard, I love how you guys
Richard,
I love how you guys think on this website. You guys are so against the grain and contradict mainstream. This kind of thinking has already helped me an unprecedented amount and I only started looking at your site a couple months ago.
Thanks for the abundance of advice!
Nice article!
Nice article Richard!
What you say about the loop which is forming between the mind and the body language is so true.
And about vibe, using positive reinforcement with affirmations is really efficient. Creepy people (like me: look at my name) tend to focus on getting something as if they crave it so badly. Result: they give off that creepy vibe which women pick up and consequently, they distance themselves from these individuals because of the alarm bells which are triggered by their gut.
On the opposite, men who are deeply relaxed, confident and focused on bringing fun and positive emotions to others are perceived as sexy and safe, thus women open themselves to those men and sleep with them.
Thank you for your great tips!
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