Setting up your bedroom to facilitate great sexual experiences isn't the most important thing you can work on for your ability to seduce women... but it's one of those little things that can make all the other things involved in taking a woman from stranger to lover a whole lot easier.
If your go-to sex logistics spot is a bachelor pad with a single, uncomfortable bed under stark lighting and subject to distracting noises, you're not really giving yourself the best chance to excel at said pursuit.
Alternatively, if you set things up right, you can have hours-long foreplay tangled in pillows, blankets, each other, nakedness, soft light and seductive music. That's what I call "the bubble" - note that this is different from the bubble you can have in conversation... which is where you and a girl are in such rapt communication together that it feels like it's just you and her together inside this bubble, and the whole outside world does not matter - similar feeling here, except it's in your place.
With this article I'll be showing you how to create a bubble experience in your bedroom... and explain too just why you'll want to.
Comments
Small bed?
Loved this article. The new articles are hit or miss for me, but it's great to be getting a lot more, and this is an article that GC has been missing!
Maybe we can call this Feng Shuiduction? I don't know.
Anyway, I do have a question. Is it still possible to create the bubble with a small bed? I have a twin platform bed, and it's the most comfortable bed/mattress that I have ever slept in. I'm still hard-pressed to get rid of it and get a queen, but I wonder if this will be a turnoff to ladies. Maybe they'll say "too small" or something. I've had queen beds before, but they just weren't as comfortable.
Thanks,
PN
Re:
Perhaps look towards your bed 'problem' as an opportunity. When you both sit together you will have no choice but to be close. If it's her first time in your room she probably has her mind racing on other thoughts.
That's a nice re-frame
That's a nice re-frame Knight. And you're right, it's not something that she's really going to be focused on in that situation.
Pete
Feng Shuiduction, I like
Feng Shuiduction, I like it.
Glad you liked the article Pinot. It is possible to create the bubble with a small bed. As long as it's comfy and you have the other factors going for you, you should be fine.
In fact, I've never heard of a case of a girl not sleeping with anyone because their bed was too small, so don't let it worry you ;)
Pete
Lighting
On the topic of dim and seductive lighting, I'd like to add that an excellent item to have in your room is a lava lamp. I have an enormous (about 2-3 feet) lava lamp on my nightstand that emits a purple-reddish glow that makes my whole room look like a small lounge.
I usually warm up my lava lamp before I go on a date so that it's bubblin' and ready to go when I get the girl back home! It's always the first thing she comments on when I walk into my room, and it's a great way to get her to sit on my bed and get "into the mood."
Anyway, I thought I'd throw that helpful thought in there. ;)
- Franco
Hey there Franco, An
Hey there Franco,
An excellent suggestion for a mood light.
If I were to walk into a room and there was a three foot tall lava lamp greeting me, it would definitely be the first thing I commented on too. That's a pretty big lava lamp.
Thanks for the input mate.
Pete
Limited privacy with children, family or friends
Hey Peter! This article is another great addition. Question for you though. What to do when a guy moves in with a girl and they have children. How does a man still have regular sex without the children finding knowing of such activities between parents or even other family members and friends. So my answers to that are get a sound-proof room and keep sex toys and fantasies private. What are your views on this Pete? I think you would be the right person to write an article on this. keep up your great work! Cheers, Troy!
Thanks for commenting
Thanks for commenting Troy.
Unfortunately I haven't lived in your situation before so I can't comment with any authority. I have however had to drown out housemates or siblings in the past. I usually just go for some music and shut my door. A non-squeaky bed is essential here too.
However, if she has kids I don't really think you can do that, can ya?
I guess you could keep your rough and tumble till a bit later at night when the kids are in bed or when they're out of the house. And yes, definitely keep those toys and whatnot private.
Sorry I can't help you out more with this one. Maybe if another reader has had experience with this before they could chime in with some help for Troy...
Pete
Brilliant Post!
I'd like to add that this is a brilliant post. I always used candles for both mood lighting and smell, but I think I may add some more mood lighting by going shopping at the mall and finding something to the same effect as rock lamps.
Also, music has been a long-time favorite of mine for inserting certain emotions into women. Creating playlists for mirroring emotions is simply amazing.
Couch
Ok so I know this may sound crazy, but I usually will take a girl to my recording studio cause it instantly gives me more value. However, How do I use a couch as good bedding? Even a pull out couch is really never that comfy. Thanks for the insight.
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