If you're a naturally empathetic person, you probably find yourself in-tune with the emotions of others. Perhaps more often than you'd like.
Even if you aren't, you'll have found yourself in a situation where you would have liked to improve somebody's mood, but may not have known how to.
A reader, Knight, commented in the article on emotional contagion about how a long-time mentor/motivator had seemed down on a recent occasion:
“A great female friend of mine who is usually a great motivator for me was down today - something I haven't seen since we were in year 9 - and it really threw me off.”
He wanted to know how he could shift her emotions:
“I still felt the need to try and cheer her up somewhat... could you perhaps show us all how to shift emotions?I do my best to stay away from downers these days but I realise that some important people in my life are going to feel a bit down some times. It would be great to get them up on par with our happiness again!”
This is a common sentiment when met with the advice that you should associate less with people who are negative or who suck energy from you, a la the psychic vampire; that you have important people in your life that you want to be there for.
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Lifted
Wow, thanks for the great help Peter and Chase!
No worries Knight! Pete
No worries Knight!
Pete
Kindness, helpful or not?
Hello, Peter.
I am usually good at this, but you reminded me that last time I tried to cheer someone up, I forgot to "finish" with lighter topics or some funny stuff.
I have a question related to this. I am fairly kind person, yet I am starting to think being kind is not really great quality for seducing women. What do you think?
Hey there H, Being kind is
Hey there H,
Being kind is not unhelpful for seduction per se, the things that usually go along with being overly kind (being a pushover, not going after what YOU want etc.) are the things that tend to be lousy for seducing women.
In fact if you show kindness in the right context it can help attraction.
Have a look at this article written by Chase so you can make those distinctions:
http://www.girlschase.com/content/why-nice-guys-finish-last
Pete
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