In
Part 3 of my 3-part series on compliance, I’ll be discussing how
to say no to people who want compliance out of you – and when
specifically to say it (as opposed to saying yes).
You can read Parts 1 and 2 of the series here:
- How to Get Her to Say “Yes”
- What
If She Says No?
Turning down compliance is
actually an especially dicey area for most. Even for experienced
guys... even for men who are naturals socially... you will
run into the odd situation here and there where you aren’t sure whether
to say yes or no, and aren’t sure how to say no even if you probably
should.
Tell me you’ve been here before: there’s a really cute girl, and you
really dig her, yet the dynamic you have with her is just that you’re chasing her a little bit too much... yet, you
sense that if you let up even a bit, she’s going to vanish off into the
ether.
And then, out of the blue, she says: “Can you wait here a minute? I
have to go make a phone call,” then turns to go leave.
Can you say no to this? Should
you? What’s your play?
You can sense that letting her do this only worsens your position
with her and moves you farther away from getting anywhere with her...
but you just don’t know what else to do.