Seduction

Moving from standard attraction to physical and emotional intimacy with a woman of your choice.

How to Find and Pick Up MILFs


Has the modern mating game been making you weary? Are you tired of dealing with one flighty, stuck-up, flaky girl after another who wouldn’t know a strong man if he bit her on the neck?

Well then my friend, the MILF is the answer for you. You’re not going to deal with any of the nonsense that you find with younger girls when you learn how to start seducing their older counterparts. What’s so great about MILFs?

Find and Pick Up MILFs

  • They are more sophisticated. Even if a MILF is not the smartest person you have ever encountered, she will at the very least have more knowledge of the world than younger women. There is something to be said about a woman who has done some traveling (usually), changed career paths, experienced pain with family and friendships, and has come to understand the true nature of the world.

  • They are realists. The fact is that MILFs do not look at the world through rose colored glasses. They don’t have time to play games because they know how the world really is. They know that they are past their prime and will no longer have droves and droves of men chasing after them. They know that they have to worry about bills and putting food on the table and retirement. So they simply don’t have time to be playing around on their smartphones stringing guys along for their own entertainment. They just want a quality lover who will be on the same page.

  • They have emotional maturity. Most young girls will drive you crazy with how, well… crazy they can be. Never sure of what they want, how to communicate, or what direction they want to take their lives, young girls are always inviting drama into your life. On the other hand, older women are very clear and unapologetic with their desires and know how to communicate their emotional needs to men.

So how do you go about seducing MILFs? Let’s talk how:

What to Say to Her Next: Interaction Outline Pt. 4


So far in this series, we have discussed a customizable conversation starter that we can implement right now as we focus on internalizing the attractive behaviors women desire. We have also explored the five fundamentals of conversation:

  1. Voice
  2. Awkward Tendencies
  3. Early Attractive Conversation
  4. Screening & Rewarding Effort
  5. Connection Building

In addition to conversation, we have learned three other ways to escalate an interaction: physically, logistically, and emotionally.

You have been learning all this so that you may become more effective at creating spontaneous conversation with a woman to whom you are attracted. Over the next several posts, we will dive deeper into the social value matrix to explore and get a better understanding of the method behind the madness of attraction and communication.

Social Value’s Role in a Good Seduction


If you’ve been following my posts, you know that I am from the sexual game school of thought, where the ideal way of seducing women is to make them perceive you as lover; as a man of sexual value; a man who they know can satisfy their sexual needs.

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In order to do so, it is key that you display sexual intent – which you do by, just for starters, escalating quickly, talking about sex, and using sexy eye contact. Unless you do so, you risk being perceived as a provider; a man whom women may find attractive, but not in a purely sexual way.

So, as you know, I have often vouched for being sexual as a way to attract women. Although there are no disagreements that communicating sexual intent works and is always necessary, even if you don’t play the “sexual game”, you will still have to escalate things sexually sooner or later anyway – the question then remains: what is the role of social value in seduction, if it has any at all?

Some of you may suspect that I believe social value plays no role in seduction, or worse, that it might get you perceived as a provider rather than a lover. However, this is not actually the case.

How to Have Sex with Lesbians (When You're a Guy)


Normally when you see an article title referring to having sex with lesbians, you’d probably assume that it was think an article geared toward women. But, in today’s case, you would be wrong. You would be very, very wrong.

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One of my friends is a suave South American stud, and I remember a few years ago he would constantly – and proudly – reference his ability to have sex with lesbian women, even if they had never had sex with a guy before. Sometimes he’d say that he could even convert them.

But most of my friend group just laughed it off as idle talk. They said that the one lesbian (or at least what they thought was one) girl that he was able to hook up with had been a complete fluke. But I didn’t adopt this incredulous attitude. Not I, Colt Williams. I looked at this situation with a great deal of intrigue.

The man is a really good friend of mine, and I knew that not only had he hooked up with a couple of lesbians, but he was also dating a girl who had previously been a lesbian and had never even touched a man before. So I knew there had to be something to his claims; I knew there had to be some kind of method to the madness.

And then as I started taking a more concerted look around me, I noticed something very interesting. My friend wasn’t alone. I also thought of a couple of other acquaintances I had who were dating girls who used to be lesbians. And then to push things further, I thought of some of my girlfriends who were once entrenched lesbians but who now are dating guys (one of them just got married to a man, actually).

So toward the end of last year, I made a more concerted effort to try to unravel this mystery of lesbians. And did I succeed? Well, you’ll have to be the judge of that.

3 Ways to Show Her Sexual Intent


When and how should you show sexual intent? Though the question may seem innocent enough, it actually is at the very core of what distinguishes the various schools of thought in seduction.

Why is when and how you show sexual intent so fundamental?

Because it deals with how you get a girl perceiving you as a lover while not going so far that you activate her anti-slut defense beyond the point of no return.

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We all know that we need to display sexual intent when we want to build a sexual relationship, but we also know that, upon meeting a girl, going in for a kiss (read: make-out) is rarely a good strategy.

Since humans are highly social animals, and since skill at navigating the social arena plays such a crucial role in the game of procreation, women have long since learned to screen men for their ability to get what they want with social grace. A man who can graciously communicate sexual intent is likely a man who can graciously get his way in other domains as well. And every woman wants as capable a man as she can get – no matter if he is to be a provider, friend, or lover to her.

We want to be careful here though, as it is quite easy – especially if you’ve been steadily working to improve yourself – to come across as too valuable in a non-sexual way, leading her to writing you off or trying to hook you into a provider-type relationship. But that qualm exceeds the focus of this post.

What we are focusing on today is the importance of finding a balance between showing too much sexual intent too soon, and, conversely, waiting too long (which, as we just pointed out, can be a one-way path to the friend zone or to her deciding to hold you to the more rigorous standards she has for providers).

We’ll be going a little meta as we take a cursory look at the different emphases on sexual intent that the main schools of seduction nowadays have. With this knowledge, you will gain a macro level understanding of three of the main strategies a guy can have for communicating his sexual intent, which means your process will be more flexible and you’ll have a wider perspective of what actually works... and what will work best for you.

So, that being said, let’s dive in.

Compassion as a Weakness, Compassion as a Strength


One of the most important journeys of the more experienced seducer is reaching the point where he embraces true compassion for women.

This is different from the emotion less experienced men feel, where they want to suck up a girl into their world and take care of her and provide for her, and it’s different from the emotion you feel as a more seasoned seducer, when you want to provide her with leg-tremblingly incredible sexual experiences.

It means to be able to do those things when appropriate but also recognize when NOT to do them.

A less dogmatic and more intuitive understanding of what her life is like as a woman requires the ability to differentiate between doting on a woman, and helping her be independently happy; to stop overruling her own thoughts and desires simply to fulfill yours; to stop being inflexible with your frame, even when you might actually be wrong. Truly compassionate men pay attention to these details, and they don’t push them off to the side for an easier journey.

Learning to mind this balance – being the powerful, effective man who is able to bring the things and women he wants into his life, to provide incredible experiences to the people around him, and to command and demand attention, while at the same time being mindful of the power you wield and developing the ability to wield it responsibly and judiciously – is one of the greatest lessons for the advanced student of the social arts.

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Today I will be introducing you to four rules that will help you identify the fine line between real compassion in seduction and pretense.

Is She Interested? 8 Signs She Definitely Is


People in the seduction community make a lot of talk about IOIs, or “indicators of interest”. Indicators of interest are subtle hints that girls may drop – often subconsciously – in order to demonstrate their romantic and/or sexual attraction toward a man.

But the term “indicator of interest” makes this whole process sound entirely too scientific, as jargon in any niche field can. At some point, in order to master any craft, you have to get past the jargon and get back to what is simple. And in the case of women, what is simple for men is asking themselves the question: “Is she interested?”

At the end of the day, that is all we want to know. Is she interested or not?

is she interested

Many men waste a lot of time on girls who lead them on, are attention whores, or are just too nice to reject them directly.

Because, as we know, most of us men need very direct communication – i.e., firm rejection – in order to relinquish our pursuit of a girl we fancy. But once we get that firm rejection, or are pretty certain that she is not interested, then we usually will move on.

However, most girls are far too nice to deliver such a blow. Or at least they think they are being so. So it is up to us to figure out if they are interested. And although it may seem somewhat difficult at first, it can be much more obvious than it appears once you learn to look at the signs. And once you become more attuned to the signs, you will be able to pick up on them without even trying. You will even be able to observe them in the dynamics between other people.

So is she interested? Well, by the time you’re done with this post, you should never have to ask yourself such a question when thinking about a girl you like. You will just know. And what is more: you will not only know, but you will also have the power and confidence to act. So let’s get to it.

Deep-Diving and Childhood Regression


Childhood stories and memories are some of the most ingrained, pleasing thoughts that a person’s mind can evoke in life. It is merely human nature to attempt to relive things from a distant past that were pleasurable or peaceful. Although we have but a vague recollection of these events at the surface, they’re rooted far into the depths of our unconscious.

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It is for those reasons that spurring a woman to recall all of these old feelings and thoughts will arouse deep-seated emotions in her that will not only spin her off into fantasy land, but will also create a very strong connection between the two of you.

And yes, I am aware that when we talk about psychoanalytical things and relate them to attracting women many guys shake their heads in disbelief. But, before you cast this one off as mere “hocus pocus”, I recommend giving it a thorough read-through and letting it digest first.

There is truth in science, and why not learn a bit about the dynamics behind deep-diving a girl on her childhood experiences?

How to Host an After-Party (That Gets You Laid)


Hi there, how is everybody doing? Today I will write my last post on logistics for a while. Previous posts in this series can be found here:

Although I find the topic of logistics very interesting and useful, I feel that it is now time to change it up and discuss something else. I will round it off by continuing on from last week, where we discussed how you could screen for good after-parties and get laid at them. Today we will discuss how to host an after-party (and one that gets you laid, at that).

host an after party

Different “attraction building” techniques – i.e., techniques for making women attracted to you at after-parties – will not be the topic of this post because the techniques for making women attracted to you are the same for most situations. So most of the techniques taught by me or anyone else on this website can be used.

Yes, there are certain “special” techniques you can use at after-parties such as funny group games and so on, but I have decided to make this post only about logistics, as this is where after-parties differ from other types of game.

Trust me when I say this: logistics are often more important than building attraction.

If you have your basics in check, it is almost guaranteed you will get laid with the strategy I am about to give you.

It is recommended, though not required, to read my previous post on after-parties. Some of the points listed there can be useful when applying the system I am about to share. It might also be wise to check out my other posts on logistics as well.

Now, let us begin with some basics.

How to Handle Awkward Girls (Who Get Nervous and Antsy)


awkward womanChase’s amazing year-in-review really got me thinking about my own year. It was a fantastic year of growth, development, lessons… and women. I always find it to be a very interesting exercise to look at my year through the lens of women. “Which girl was I hanging out with this month? What challenges did we have? What adventures did we go on? What did I end up learning from the situation? What did I learn about myself?”

These are all valuable questions that seem to arise somewhat naturally when engaging in this exercise. So even if your year only saw two girls, and even if you may have done nothing but make out with them, still, think about how you changed and grew because of these situations.

Going into the year, I knew that one of my greatest challenges was dealing with a certain type of girl. I have a pretty strong personality; I like to make my presence known and I am not afraid to be loud and silly. So I tend to look for girls who are strong, independent, and quick-witted. That being said, I have learned that you can find these attributes in girls who are not necessarily the most extroverted.

So in thinking about how I could improve my seduction skills, I really wanted to challenge myself to see how I could be better equipped to deal with girls who possessed these attributes yet who just happen to be awkward.

I have never done well with dealing with awkward people; mirror neurons are some powerful things, and when you can clearly tell that someone is made somewhat (or fully) uncomfortable by one’s presence, no matter how socially adept you may be, it definitely starts to make you somewhat uncomfortable as well.

But some awkward girls are attractive, smart, and genuinely nice people. So I really asked myself over the first few months of last year: how can I overcome this challenge? How can I better connect with awkward girls who are not so socially savvy?

I asked many friends and colleagues about my challenge. And as I found myself in various social situations throughout 2014, I endeavored to push through my discomfort and actively engage with awkward girls as much as possible instead of excusing myself from the interaction as I had normally been accustomed to doing.

And the results were certainly interesting. So how do you deal with awkward girls? This is what I learned.

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