Seduction

Moving from standard attraction to physical and emotional intimacy with a woman of your choice.

Is She Interested? 8 Signs She Definitely Is


People in the seduction community make a lot of talk about IOIs, or “indicators of interest”. Indicators of interest are subtle hints that girls may drop – often subconsciously – in order to demonstrate their romantic and/or sexual attraction toward a man.

But the term “indicator of interest” makes this whole process sound entirely too scientific, as jargon in any niche field can. At some point, in order to master any craft, you have to get past the jargon and get back to what is simple. And in the case of women, what is simple for men is asking themselves the question: “Is she interested?”

At the end of the day, that is all we want to know. Is she interested or not?

is she interested

Many men waste a lot of time on girls who lead them on, are attention whores, or are just too nice to reject them directly.

Because, as we know, most of us men need very direct communication – i.e., firm rejection – in order to relinquish our pursuit of a girl we fancy. But once we get that firm rejection, or are pretty certain that she is not interested, then we usually will move on.

However, most girls are far too nice to deliver such a blow. Or at least they think they are being so. So it is up to us to figure out if they are interested. And although it may seem somewhat difficult at first, it can be much more obvious than it appears once you learn to look at the signs. And once you become more attuned to the signs, you will be able to pick up on them without even trying. You will even be able to observe them in the dynamics between other people.

So is she interested? Well, by the time you’re done with this post, you should never have to ask yourself such a question when thinking about a girl you like. You will just know. And what is more: you will not only know, but you will also have the power and confidence to act. So let’s get to it.

Deep-Diving and Childhood Regression


Childhood stories and memories are some of the most ingrained, pleasing thoughts that a person’s mind can evoke in life. It is merely human nature to attempt to relive things from a distant past that were pleasurable or peaceful. Although we have but a vague recollection of these events at the surface, they’re rooted far into the depths of our unconscious.

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It is for those reasons that spurring a woman to recall all of these old feelings and thoughts will arouse deep-seated emotions in her that will not only spin her off into fantasy land, but will also create a very strong connection between the two of you.

And yes, I am aware that when we talk about psychoanalytical things and relate them to attracting women many guys shake their heads in disbelief. But, before you cast this one off as mere “hocus pocus”, I recommend giving it a thorough read-through and letting it digest first.

There is truth in science, and why not learn a bit about the dynamics behind deep-diving a girl on her childhood experiences?

How to Host an After-Party (That Gets You Laid)


Hi there, how is everybody doing? Today I will write my last post on logistics for a while. Previous posts in this series can be found here:

Although I find the topic of logistics very interesting and useful, I feel that it is now time to change it up and discuss something else. I will round it off by continuing on from last week, where we discussed how you could screen for good after-parties and get laid at them. Today we will discuss how to host an after-party (and one that gets you laid, at that).

host an after party

Different “attraction building” techniques – i.e., techniques for making women attracted to you at after-parties – will not be the topic of this post because the techniques for making women attracted to you are the same for most situations. So most of the techniques taught by me or anyone else on this website can be used.

Yes, there are certain “special” techniques you can use at after-parties such as funny group games and so on, but I have decided to make this post only about logistics, as this is where after-parties differ from other types of game.

Trust me when I say this: logistics are often more important than building attraction.

If you have your basics in check, it is almost guaranteed you will get laid with the strategy I am about to give you.

It is recommended, though not required, to read my previous post on after-parties. Some of the points listed there can be useful when applying the system I am about to share. It might also be wise to check out my other posts on logistics as well.

Now, let us begin with some basics.

How to Handle Awkward Girls (Who Get Nervous and Antsy)


awkward womanChase’s amazing year-in-review really got me thinking about my own year. It was a fantastic year of growth, development, lessons… and women. I always find it to be a very interesting exercise to look at my year through the lens of women. “Which girl was I hanging out with this month? What challenges did we have? What adventures did we go on? What did I end up learning from the situation? What did I learn about myself?”

These are all valuable questions that seem to arise somewhat naturally when engaging in this exercise. So even if your year only saw two girls, and even if you may have done nothing but make out with them, still, think about how you changed and grew because of these situations.

Going into the year, I knew that one of my greatest challenges was dealing with a certain type of girl. I have a pretty strong personality; I like to make my presence known and I am not afraid to be loud and silly. So I tend to look for girls who are strong, independent, and quick-witted. That being said, I have learned that you can find these attributes in girls who are not necessarily the most extroverted.

So in thinking about how I could improve my seduction skills, I really wanted to challenge myself to see how I could be better equipped to deal with girls who possessed these attributes yet who just happen to be awkward.

I have never done well with dealing with awkward people; mirror neurons are some powerful things, and when you can clearly tell that someone is made somewhat (or fully) uncomfortable by one’s presence, no matter how socially adept you may be, it definitely starts to make you somewhat uncomfortable as well.

But some awkward girls are attractive, smart, and genuinely nice people. So I really asked myself over the first few months of last year: how can I overcome this challenge? How can I better connect with awkward girls who are not so socially savvy?

I asked many friends and colleagues about my challenge. And as I found myself in various social situations throughout 2014, I endeavored to push through my discomfort and actively engage with awkward girls as much as possible instead of excusing myself from the interaction as I had normally been accustomed to doing.

And the results were certainly interesting. So how do you deal with awkward girls? This is what I learned.

How to Use After-Parties to Get Laid


Due to all the great feedback I have received in my previous posts on logistics, I decided to keep writing about the topic. It was requested that I write a post on after-parties, so that is what we will be discussing today.

For all of you who haven’t checked out my previous threads on logistics, you should do so:

Logistics, although not always the most interesting topic in seduction, is one of the key basics most men struggle with. Many men know a lot about seduction yet don’t get any results (that is, they don’t have sex with women) and in many cases, this is due to their lack of logistical knowledge and control.

Put it this way: you can easily get laid if you are not attractive when you have good logistics, while it is hard to get laid if your logistics suck.

Today, we will be discussing after-parties. And as promised, this post is not about hosting after-parties in a “college” context, but in all types of scenarios. This post will give you a few key pointers on how to host an after-party, but the main topic of this post is how to get laid at after-parties.

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For those of you searching for a comprehensive guide on how to host after-parties, be patient, as it is the topic of my next post.

8 Signs She’s an Attention Whore (And Not Really Into You)


If a girl is an attention whore, it essentially means that you’re chasing her. Yet, chances are it’s not entirely your fault. She is probably making you chase her.

In this man’s humble opinion, the attention whore is one of the most socially adaptable and skillful people you will ever encounter.

attention whore

She has a way of drawing you in and giving you just enough to keep you around, all while refusing you what you really want.

She has a way of making you invest in her life and even of extracting value from you, all while convincing you that you have a shot with her and that it is all for the best.

But at the end of the day, she has no actual interest in having your penis inside of her. She just wants another source of validation. I believe in my heart of hearts that all men know when a girl is just leading them on in order to inflate her ego and her sense of importance.

And yet men walk along, foolishly allowing this to happen. But every once in a while, one of those men has a rude awakening where he realizes that he has had the wool pulled over his eyes.

So today we are going to talk about how to spot an attention whore from a mile away.

These telltale signs are there in every single case. The trick lies in not only recognizing them, but in having the mental and spiritual fortitude to act upon your realization and avoid the trap.

How to Booty Call Girls You Meet: 8 Steps


As a follow up to my last article from a couple of weeks ago on How to Sext & Get Racy Photos from Her (in Only 3 Texts) –and supplemental reading to Chase’s article on the subject of “Booty Calling” – this one will also focus on another “text to sex” method that you can use once you’ve reached (at least) an intermediate skill level with women.

As most of you hopefully know, we rarely recommend using texting for anything more than just setting up logistics, the reason being that texting as a communication medium is so impersonal that it just generally doesn't lend itself well to instilling the type of emotion(s) in a woman that you’re able to in person.

In the case of sexting and exchanging racy photos, we’re breaking that rule a tad (but for good reason). However, in this scenario, logistics is exactly the reason. To setup a booty call.

how to booty call

Going to Her Place: Tools to Get You More “Yes”es


Note from Chase: this piece from Alek on going back to a girl’s place covers screening, logistical considerations, and objection-handling during the pull. You can also get more tactics and more “what-to-say” examples and lines in my complementary article “How to Go to Her Place Smoothly, Even If You Just Met.” Onward...


This post – the third in my series on logistical considerations (part i here; part ii here) – will cover even more logistics. This time around however we will cover my speciality: going back to her place.

going to her place

Why am I a specialist? Well that is because I am very young, and I have not always had my own place. Especially when I was a freshman in university, I was still living at home with my folks.

So obviously I have had to be creative and have sex in public a lot. Although public sex is very exciting, it is rather hard to pull off, at least consistently. But after ending up at women’s places a few times, I discovered the obvious: many girls have a place of their own, and many girls are okay with bringing men there.

Keep in mind that this post is in a way a continuation of my previous post (part ii) – if you haven’t checked that one out yet, I'd recommend you do. If you don’t, that is also fine, as I will still recap the main points in this post.

My first post (part i) covered some very basic key points in seduction logistics. The next one (part ii) was about extracting a girl back home, which was more suited for intermediate players. This post however is more advanced.

How to Get the Girl on New Year’s Eve


It’s New Year’s Eve, and there’s a good chance you’re headed out to a celebration of some sort; big, little, or somewhere in between. In that celebration, there will probably be some single girls, too... many of whom may be looking to ring in the New Year in a fun way.

It is easy to get swept up in the hype of a big night out, but while girls might be dressing provocatively and partying hard, the case is that on New Year’s it is twice as important to not get swept up by the atmosphere and keep your composure.

get laid new year's eve

The key to getting the girl on NYE is to not jump the gun by expecting a big payoff before you get there. You have to keep your expectations subdued and simply go along with whatever the night has to offer.

Even though I sometimes wish it were true, you can’t always just dive in and grab a girl’s panties with your teeth. Most of the time you just have to go with what the night is actually giving you rather than what you want it to give you.

Advantages on NYE do exist, but you need to be precise about what they are and take advantage of them without taking them too far, which is actually kind of a difficult tightrope walk.

How to Get a Blow Job from Any Girl You Want (It’s Easy)


There are few better feelings in the world than seeing a girl lustily looking up at you while on her knees or in your lap and seeing and feeling your member in her mouth; and then grabbing her hair and moving her head around your lap as you sit back and enjoy the oh-so-wonderful ride.

how to get a blow job

That’s the amazing feeling of getting a blow job. And even though sex is amazingly enjoyable, there’s something particularly and uniquely satisfying about blow jobs. But the question is: what’s involved in learning how to get a blow job – and isn’t it hard to get a blow job? The short answer is: no, it’s not hard to get a blow job. And today, I’m going to talk about how to put yourself in a position to get exactly that. Here we go.

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