Secrets to Getting Girls

Our flagship series on top-secret skills and tactics to master that will take even an advanced ladies man's results with women to the next level.

Secrets to Getting Girls: Get Out of "Polite Conversation"

The whole purpose of meeting a girl is to get past the pleasantries, get to know her, and build something real. But how do you get break free of polite conversation?
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polite conversationYou know the feeling: you find yourself in a conversation that's stuck on the superficial. You're talking about the weather; about how you both hate getting up early in the morning; about what the local sports team did last week; about how sushi is okay but katsu sauce... man, that's where it's at.

Secrets to Getting Girls: Addressing Women's Objections

What do you do when women object? This article takes a look at all manner of objections you'll face - from feigned disinterest to last minute resistance.
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In the seductions of every man, there comes a time when his woman begins to object. “What are you doing?” she’ll say. “I don’t think we should be doing this.” “We can’t do this, it’s too soon.” “We can’t do this, we’re friends.”

Secrets to Getting Girls: Staying Out of Auto-Rejection

Auto-rejection is the phenomenon where women who formerly liked you go ice-cold on you... simply because they've come to believe they cannot have what they want with you.
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These days Sebastian Drake’s VAC attraction model is all but forgotten in the seduction community. There’s been a gold rush toward “natural game” and at the same time a supposed abandonment of the previously ubiquitous “routine-based game,” the ever-present 800-pound gorilla in pick up circles half a decade ago.

Secrets to Getting Girls: The Last 5%

One of the most surprising and frustrating places to lose a girl is in the end game: when you almost took her as your lover, then failed. We discuss why closing on the last 5% is so important.
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last 5%I was sitting in a nightclub tonight, smoke and booze surrounding me, sipping on a Jack and Coke (or what passes for one in this country), and thinking about some past interactions and feeling vaguely annoyed. There was the girl on Saturday whose friend was pushing her to go home with me as hard as she could, but the girl was a little too shy and wanted to push that back.

Secrets to Getting Girls: Scrap Clever

Trying to be clever with women to win their hearts? Well, stop trying so hard - it isn't the comedians who get the girls, but the men who are direct (with a little subtle wit).
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I’m a huge proponent of comparison and analysis. One of the things I always look at is success rates, how women talk about guys, and how those guys treat women. Something funny I noticed a while back about some differences in how some men communicate with women versus how some other men communicate with women struck a chord with me, and I modified my communication accordingly. Since then, it’s been stronger and easier, and women chase me more.

Secrets to Getting Girls: Quick Reads

A quick read is a way of rapidly assessing a person or situation, sizing them up, and figuring out who they are and what they are... and it's perfect for selecting the right women to pursue.
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I don’t know how useful this is as a technique we can discuss here, inasmuch as I don’t know that it’s something you can be taught so much as something you just pick up or develop. But I figured it was worth writing a little about regardless.

I do a little something I call quick reading. Pretty much every guy I know who’s done his fair share of meeting and dating and getting intimate with women does this, and it’s quite different from what you’ll see less experienced guys doing.

Secrets to Getting Girls: Better Than Jerk

Being too nice leads to attraction death in a heartbeat - but that doesn't mean that being a total jerk is the epitome of sexy. To the contrary - "jerk" is merely another step along the path.
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Some guys are just jerks. And they’re fine with that. They think it’s the right way to get girls – it’s far better than being a nice guy, they’ll tell you. And who can argue with that? Nice guys finish last.

Me? I almost lost the most amazing woman of my life thus far before I ever got her because I was a jerk.

Secrets to Getting Girls: Natural Number Swapping

There's an easy way to trade phone numbers with girls - and it's all about making the focus on the date instead of the number.
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Ever go for a girl’s number, and have it just feel really awkward and contrived? Any idea why that was?

Imagine you’ve met a girl you liked a lot, and the two of you talked for ten minutes. Things went really well for the first seven or eight minutes, but they started to die down at the end. Finally, she says, “Well, I have to go find my friends.” (often, incidentally, a consequence of not moving fast enough with her)

Secrets to Getting Girls: The Art of the Deep Dive

One of the pillars of Chase Amante's approach toward women, deep diving is the foundation for creating deep, meaningful connections with women quickly into meeting them.
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Building rapport – and building a connection – is one of those things I consider myself pretty talented as a conversation-alist at these days. People remark that they often feel like we’re old friends upon first meeting me; men very often assume that women I’ve met minutes before have known me for years; and I find it incredibly easy to have people open up to me about all manner of personal details – so easy that they typically offer those details unasked.

Kind of funny, in retrospect, considering I spent most of my life as a man apart, without any close connections of any sort.

So someone you’ve just met thinks of you as an old friend, or the girl you’ve been getting to know for twenty minutes has told you her life story and now feels that you know her better than all but two other people in her life. Sounds fun, and empowering, right? But what’s the advantage of this? Well, as you can probably surmise, the advantages to deep diving with rapport come in spades, actually. Here are a few:

Secrets to Getting Girls: Chase Framing

Chase framing is the act of constructing sexually playful dialogue and innuendo that paints a woman as a sexual predator or pursuer, and you (the man) as the pursued.
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Alright gentlemen, if you feel like fishing with dynamite, I’m going to show you how in this post on Chase Framing. This is how to get girls to chase you. If your goal is women pursuing you, women chasing after you, women trying to sleep with you… chase framing is the closest thing to a magic bullet you can come. Mix in investment and always moving things forward, and you’ll have the recipe for a lot of fast sex and strong relationships with women who want you with a passion.

First, something in the way of a definition.


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