Sometimes in nightlife it’s best if you can “shadow”: just melt
into the crowd and disappear. In this article, we talk when and why to
do this.
Today I want to share an old concept of mine that I originally
shared back in 2009, I think. I haven’t really revisited the concept
since then, but lately I have found situations where the concept has
proven to be extremely useful to me, and these situations are not
uncommon. Based on this, I thought you all might find the concept of
“shadowing” to be very useful. It is easy to understand and not
difficult to apply, so this post is for everyone.
What is shadowing?
In basic terms, it’s the “anti-social proof,” but it’s not something
that will ruin your social proof. It just works differently.
I have covered the concept of social proof (and preselection, which
is the result of social proof) multiple times. Social proof is the tool
that makes women preselect you (i.e., choose you before you even
approach). Attraction can be generated as a result of women seeing you
with other women.
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The more women you are seen with, the greater the effect of
social proof, and the more you get preselected
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The hotter the women who provide you social proof, the greater
the effect
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The more into you those women appear to be, the greater the
effect
Check out some of our posts on the subject if you want to learn more
about it.
In order to get social proof, the following is required:
Shadowing, on the other hand, is the opposite. In other words, it is
a tool to avoid attention; you become a shadow rather than a social
butterfly.
I feel some of you may be skeptical already. “Why the hell would you
do this?” is probably a question on a lot of your minds. Isn’t getting
attention necessary to trigger approach invitations from women?
Isn’t
it good to be seen with other girls? Yes, those are all really good
things – but not always.
I consider it my duty, therefore, to elaborate on why and when this
technique can be useful before I get to the “hows” of becoming a
shadow. Therefore, the practical part will be covered next week in Part
2.
As for now, let’s cover the theory behind shadowing.