Opening

Picking up girls online works different from meeting them in real life. From how you frame yourself to when to seed the date, it’s another game.

If you’ve been reading Girls Chase for a while, you’ll have noticed a lot of articles by Chase and other contributors talking about online pick-up: message writing, Facebook pick-up, Tinder, Plenty of Fish, and broad online dating related topics such as profile pictures and other details.

However, every day we see new websites, dating apps, and new social networking apps; we also see old apps/websites getting new features. All this impacts online pick-up, and sometimes it’s hard to adapt in stride with the growth of these platforms. Luckily, even though the tech evolution has changed the medium of dating, the principles of seduction remain the same!

In this article, using an extremely pragmatic approach, I’m going to cover what it means to use online pick-up. We’ll go over some basic concepts that don’t change over time. Then we’ll analyze four guidelines that you should always keep in mind during your online approaches and see how we can adapt this to the tech evolution.

To tie it all together, we’ll show you how to formulate a proper process for your online pickup.

Finally, I’ll share a word about the worthiness of doing online approaches, even if I end up writing a whole article about the relationship between the seducer’s role and technology.

Let’s get to it, shall we?

To get a one-night stand, go to where the girl-guy ratios are higher and the atmosphere is hookup-oriented. Approach early and move fast. Invite girls home.

So you want to hook up with a girl and get a one-night stand. Go out, lock eyes with her, walk up to her, smile at her, say hello. Then, not so long after, take her hand and lead her out of there... Straight back to your place or hers. Off come the clothes, and into bed you go. Sounds simple enough.

Over a decade ago, when I set out to teach myself success with girls, one-night stands were my second focus. My first focus was how to get a phenomenal girlfriend (and you can read my guide on how to get a girlfriend here).

It took me a little while to get that first one-night stand, because I did not know what I was doing. But once I figured out how to get them, I got better and better at doing so. After I'd put enough work (and a few years) in, I could just about get one-night stands on command. At that point I'd achieved a major personal milestone: the ability to hook up with girls whenever I wished.

In this article, based on a decade of my own experience hooking up with girls and getting one-night stands, I show you how to do it. In addition, I've tapped 15 scientific studies that will open your eyes to a few elements of one-night stands you likely did not know. And I've laid it all out in simple, clear instructions.

So let's dive in! Let's show you how to get a one-night stand... tonight.

Sometimes a girl rejects you much harsher than she needed to. If you let it, this can ruin your night. Yet, it does not need to.

One of the things you are not going to avoid while learning success with women is the occasional tough rejection.

Maybe she freaked out unnecessarily.

Maybe she said something that felt like a knife shoved in your sternum.

Either way, it sucks when a girl rejects you, especially when it comes out of the blue and is tactlessly delivered. But what if I were to tell you that the water runs deep on this issue and everything is not as it appears? What if you could completely turn around the way you see rejection?

Your body positioning when you approach a new girl tells her a lot about you, fast. If you want to make sure you send the right signals, you want to get the positioning right.

Since lately we’ve been discussing non-verbal seduction, I decided to go a bit further and discuss the actual tools for non-verbal seduction. These upcoming posts will cover in depth some commonly known tools, but they will also discuss some oftentimes disregarded tools that are actually vital – remember that with non-verbal seduction, the devil lies in the details.

To illustrate this properly, I’ve decided to make today’s topic about positioning.

We will base our analysis on clubs and bars, but the exact same principle applies for parties and day game. The reason I use the club is because positioning is more important in this atmosphere and has more nuances in typical night game spots.

By positioning, I am referring to your body’s position relative to the female with whom you are interacting (or trying to interact with, if we are talking pre-approach) – where your body is facing, your distance from her, and even the particular spot where you’re standing can be a big factor. We will discuss all three phases of body positioning in three sections covering three broad seduction phases, namely:

1. The Pre-opening (before you engage)

2. The Post-opening (just after you engage – often described as the “hook-phase”)

3. The Seduction Phase (I am not only referring to when you are making out, or back at your place, but the phase where you have opened, she is hooked in, and you have some rapport, and preferably you are in isolation with her)

Let us now discuss how positioning works during the first phase.

How to approach a girl eating alone – you must disarm her concerns of awkwardness first. Then you turn the tables.

This one’s a bit niche. But hey, I just covered a very broad topic (in great detail!) yesterday in my how to get a girlfriend article. So I think I can tackle a specific one here.

On our discussion boards, forum member CuriosityKillsTheCat asks:

“I’ve approached girls eating many times. It was difficult. Most of the time she had to stop and talked with me. Also I hadn’t find a way to move her to another place. Phone numbers were 100% flake.

Do you guys approach girls eating? My school’s cafeteria has many girls sitting alone eating there. I might miss out big opportunities.”

(here’s his forum thread on this)

It seems like a simple one to solve: she’s by herself, just go talk to her. Right?

Except it’s a little more complicated than that. Try it out, and you’ll find it’s often a bit awkward and a little intrusive to approach a girl who’s seated alone, eating her meal. You can make her feel trapped, and if there are ample places to sit, you look like you’re chasing her if you go all the way over to her. There are plenty of snares here for you to fall into.

Is there a way to consistently approach girls alone in large cafeterias (or elsewhere), and have it go well?

It may sound silly, but warmed up physically, you do better socially. Running, stretching, and massages actually put girls in your bed.

As mentioned in my previous post on opening, I have the luxury of going out a lot these days. Having a flat in the center of a beautiful European city, along with the ability to go out a lot, allows me to really immerse into this – and I love these periods, because not only do I get the opportunity to create a lot of momentum and really have fun (i.e., get laid), but I also allow myself to discover new things and try out new things.

I have already written extensively about social momentum (also known as “getting/being in state”) both on a macro and micro level, but I have only taken into consideration the psychological aspects, totally disregarding the physical. This is what I will cover in this post today. So if you find topics on momentum useful and interesting, this post will be a great addition for you.

For those of you who are new to all this (and the concepts regarding momentum), do not panic; I will share a brief recap for you before moving on. Some links to some more detailed posts will be provided so you can catch up if you like.

You can reduce or eliminate rejection with a few simple adjustments. #1, test the water first. #2, approach in passing – and get rejected in passing too.

Hey guys. I hope you are doing great. I have had the luxury of time to head out regularly again. And whenever this happens, I tend to make observations – sometimes new ones – and sometimes I might be reminded of some interesting phenomenon requiring reflection.

This post, along with my upcoming posts, will be more practical. So I hope you ain’t dropping the field just because of the cold weather, because it is time to get practical... and hopefully you will get dirty.

This time I will discuss some dynamics when it comes to opening in clubs and bars. There are many step-by-step processes one might follow and different ways of opening (the never-ending discussion between direct and indirect opening) that all have their pros and cons.