Opening

Your initial approach: how you first start talking to that girl you really like.

The Ones You Go to, and the Ones Who Go to You


If you’re like most men, the women you end up with are, by and large, the ones who put themselves on your radar:

  • The girl who sits near you in the library or coffee shop

  • The one who dances next to you at the bar or club

  • The one who glances at you while waiting for the bus or train

ones you go to

These girls signal you, they toss approach invitations your way, and you get up off your butt and go meet them.

If you think about most of the girlfriends you’ve had, they probably fall into this category. Unless you’re a regular street gamer or mass approacher, my guess is most of the women you’ve slept with fall here, period.

Yet, are these the best quality women you can get?

Or are you missing the choicest fruit high up in the trees, for the fruit that’s easier to get, lying readily in reach upon the ground?

Escalation Series Pt. 1: The Logistical Timeline of Events


Last time, to celebrate your successful completion of the fundamentals of communication series, we grew our conversation outline to include what to say next – for now anyway ;-)

Applying your conversation outline during your interactions will allow you to internalize your fundamentals by diverting your focus from what to say next to what to do, and not do, right now!

In turn, this will allow you to determine which of your habits (read: subconscious instinctive behaviors) are effective, or ineffective, at helping you successfully escalate an interaction logistically, physically, and emotionally. Then, simply replace your ineffective habits of behavior with your knowledge of the fundamentals (read: effective behaviors) and experience the difference firsthand!

Escalation

In this new series, to gain a better understanding of how to effectively escalate an interaction from meet to mate, we are going to breakdown the process both logistically and emotionally.

As I explain this information, you will notice that some of it will seem very abstract, so I will attempt to give concrete examples whenever possible. However, at the same time, understand that the more experience you gain, the less abstract this information will become, as you will internalize these effective mindsets and behaviors.

So let’s get started!

Day Game 101: A New Way to Open


In the first part of this series, you learned why you should consider making day game a normal part of your routine and how to get started meeting women during the day by learning the fundamentals. To quickly recap what those are, your fundamentals are:

It’s extremely important that you master these, because everything you will learn throughout the rest of this series depends on you having a firm grasp of them. It may take a bit of time, but you will master them faster than you may think, and it’s certainly well worth the time and effort it takes.

Now we shall move on to the next part: walking up to a woman and getting to know her. This is often called “opening” women.

Day Game

What to Say to Her Next: Interaction Outline Pt. 4


So far in this series, we have discussed a customizable conversation starter that we can implement right now as we focus on internalizing the attractive behaviors women desire. We have also explored the five fundamentals of conversation:

  1. Voice
  2. Awkward Tendencies
  3. Early Attractive Conversation
  4. Screening & Rewarding Effort
  5. Connection Building

In addition to conversation, we have learned three other ways to escalate an interaction: physically, logistically, and emotionally.

You have been learning all this so that you may become more effective at creating spontaneous conversation with a woman to whom you are attracted. Over the next several posts, we will dive deeper into the social value matrix to explore and get a better understanding of the method behind the madness of attraction and communication.

Looking at Women... and Getting Them to Look BACK


In my experience, the power to command the attention of all eyes in a room is more a learnable skill than a natural talent.

And in reality, you can effectively internalize any skill and turn it into a “natural” habit. So the argument that “either you’ve got it, or you don’t” is simply inaccurate.

Just to be clear: if you don’t have it (yet), you can still get it (soon).

However, commanding the attention of everyone in the room is outside the scope of this article, and although that skill would indeed be helpful, in this situation we will focus on how to gain the attention of one person in particular: that beautiful woman who has enamored you, and, for whatever reason, is not returning your gaze.

looking at women

To deal with this situation of how we look at women and get them to look back, we break it down into two parts:

  • Pre-Interaction Communication
  • (During the) Interaction Communication

Let’s start by taking a closer look at what we can do before this situation even occurs.

Want Dates? Then Approach Girls


I’m staying with Colt out in Denver right now, and we had an interesting conversation yesterday in which he mentioned that some of his friends read Girls Chase religiously, then go out to bars and refuse to approach girls at all.

The way he phrased this to me specifically was to ask me: “What do you do when you have friends who are trying to go the whole James Bond GC approach and look super cool but never approach?”

approach girls

So, yeah, I get this. Approaching’s no fun. It opens you up to potential public embarrassment, since you’re going to get rejected more often than not. Worse, if your ego’s feeling a little fragile, or there are people around you’d like to think well of you, that ego or that impression might take a hit if you go out there, walk up, say ‘hi’, and get shot down.

But if you want girls, you have to approach girls.

The “super suave James Bond who just chills at the bar sipping a martini and just waits for girls to open him” is a kind of funny seduction myth that it’s nice to imagine yourself inhabiting.

However, it’s a myth, and no more. Not even Bond himself does it – his approaches are cool, and smooth, but he makes them.

This is something I see guys who are newer and even guys a bit more advanced doing. Most guys fall into it sometimes. I fall into it sometimes. “I’ll just wait here until girls gravitate to me and then dating and sex will happen.”

But nothing happens if you don’t approach.

How to Get Laid in College, Pt. III: Wildcard


wildcardHey studs,

Welcome to the third and final entry of The Best College Seduction Styles series. Parts 1 and 2 here and here.

If “lolwut?” was your first reaction to the wildcard name, we’re off to a good start.


Wildcard

Examples of Wildcard: Russell Brand, Dr. Who (Matt Smith), or any really eccentric cat you know who pulls mad tail.

Explaining this style is a bit difficult. I had to spend a lot of time with a good friend over the past few months to understand his antics.

However, I have cracked his code, and, just because I love you all, I’ve included an analysis of another baller seducer I know as well. The diverse perspective this article offers should help illuminate the Wildcard style. These guys’ styles are VERY different, but they share a common trait that is characteristic of the Wildcard.

Making the Approach: Picking and Choosing Girls to Meet


Note from Chase: this was a “lost article” of Alek’s that was originally supposed to be the a piece in his series on bitchy girls and hit and run game. It slipped through the cracks and never got published. In it, there is a reference to his upcoming article; this article’s in fact already out, and it’ll be linked to where referenced. But that’s the backstory – here’s Alek...


We may keep writing articles covering fancy seduction techniques, but what is the point if people don’t go out there and try them out?

Fact is, most people stay at home and don’t talk much to women, not because they are lazy, but because they suffer from approach anxiety. Now, many of you might consider this to be a post for beginners, but, as a matter of fact, many more experienced seducers have trouble approaching too.

making the approach

I will here share a confession and some insights on approach anxiety while criticizing the classic way of doing things (i.e., approach a lot until you get used to it). At the end of this post, I will share with you a different perspective on approaching women.

Again, this is not primarily a post for beginners. Many of us struggle with approaching – the approaching phase is not really pleasurable for most of us. That’s why this post is relevant to men of all levels.

Picking Up Girls: Selecting the Right Venue


Today I will share some ideas around picking the right venue when going out at night to bars and nightclubs. This might sound very basic to some of you, but many seducers overlook this point and doing so makes their lives harder than necessary.

Venue selection is one of the most important and useful concepts in “night seduction”, and all the best “night gamers” I have met have criteria when it comes to finding the right spot to hang out.

venue selection

So let us start this discussion by correcting the belief that “famous clubs/bars” are good spots for meeting women. I believe this to be wrong, and here’s why.

Hit and Run Pickup in Clubs: If at First She Does Not Respond…


Previously I laid out my new strategy of approaching – the “hit-and-run” strategy – which allows you to approach women without facing any strong form of resistance (such as “approach walls” – where women respond negatively to your approach).

hit and run pickup

To recap, my hit-and-run strategy is based on first approaching a girl with a simple ice breaker, for the primary purpose of “breaking the ice” (as opposed to the primary focus being to build attraction), then leaving (in order to avoid being perceived as a potential “stalker” and instead as a mysterious man while also making her miss your presence).

Here is how this type of approach goes, step by step:

  1. Look out for approach invitations (signs of interest). If you get none, it is still wiser to approach anyway.

  2. Short approach, often with just a simple “ice breaker” followed by an introduction. Then leave the girl or the group as fast as you can with no explanation given.

  3. Do something else. Maybe approach other women?

  4. Look out for signs of interests – girls you broken the ice with will be curious about you.

  5. Re-open with something along the lines of “There you are” or simply “Sup?”. You will see that the reception will be much warmer!

That was a recap of the most important aspects covered in my previous post that talked about the hit-and-run strategy. You can read a more in depth analysis of this concept here: “How to Stop a Girl Acting Like a “Bitch” in a Club.”

In this post, we will elaborate further on this concept – as you’ve probably guessed that it can be used for much more than just approaching. We will discuss in depth how this strategy (of “approaching and then leaving” and then hopefully re-approaching later; in other words, the hit-and-run strategy) can be applied to other situations, such as dealing with rejections, handling bigger groups of females (three or more), and handling women’s resistance to sexual advances.

No time to lose, let’s get to it.

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