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You can build comfort to better help maintain sexual tension. When comfort’s too low, tension dissipates. But with comfort? It lasts.

Hey guys, and welcome back.

As you may know, I am currently writing a series on sexual tension. This is the 4th post so far, and I really recommend you check out the previous posts before reading this one. But even if you don’t, you’ll still find this post very useful on its own.

Previously we have discussed:

• The theoretical groundwork of what sexual tension is (part 1)
  

• How to generate sexual tension (part 2)
  

• How to maintain sexual tension by increasing the actual tension (part 3)
  

In this post, we will discuss maintaining the tension by focusing on building comfort with the girl you are experiencing sexual tension with. Previously we discussed how women tend to release sexual tension because of a low level of comfort compared to the level of tension. The solution proposed was to increase the tension so high that she lets go of her discomfort.

Today we will focus on increasing the comfort level. If you can manage both the tension parameter and the comfort parameter, you are technically in full control!

In Part II of the sexual tension series, Alek lays out prerequisites, rules, and tactics used to build sexual tension with women.

Hey guys, and welcome to the second installment in this series of articles about sexual tension. Last time, we discussed the pillars of sexual tension, which are:

• Intrigue
• Mystery
• A sexual state of mind
• A state of limbo
• A natural thing between men and women

We didn’t get much into how it is created or maintained. But now, with the theoretical groundwork in place, you know what sexual tension entails and how you can identify it. This knowledge will, of course, help you generate it, but I believe more practical tools are required to be able to generate sexual tension on command – and do so consistently.

So the way I plan on describing this is to first discuss some quick important factors so that I can dedicate the rest of this post to the most important and most juicy skills. This post will focus on creating sexual tension and will be a purely practical post. My next post will be about how to maintain it (equally important), and will also be purely practical.

Shall we begin?

Two steps forward, one step back. It’s the magic technique that lets you bypass almost all of her resistance… And it’s not hard to do.

One of the more enduring seduction strategies, and one you’ve seen discussed on this site plenty before (especially in some of Alek’s articles), is that of “two steps forward, one step back.”

You may call it push-pull or fractionation. Or you might call it the zigzag path to victory (victory here being, needless to say, a new lay or new girlfriend). Two steps forward, one step back is, on the surface, a crystal clear, simple system:

1. First, a bold move forward (e.g., you place your hand on her lower back)

2. Then, a partial retreat back (to, say, your hand on her upper arm)

3. Wash, rinse, repeat: go bolder still next time... then another partial retreat. Then again. And again

With this method, you may gradually acclimate a girl to touch, proximity, innuendo, or just about anything else. Yet as simple as it sounds, it is a major mindset shift. To use it well, you must shift from the typical mindset of “gain a toehold, then hang onto it for dear life.”

To help you do this, today we’ll talk about the method, and introduce you to the psychology.

Then, we’ll load you up with examples till you’re plum happy.

Women aren’t the only ones who will take you for a ride. Men do it too. Find out how to not get suckered by conniving crooks.

Welcome the third installment in the ‘hard target’ series.

In the first installment, I covered how to be a hard targeting dater, and not get taken for a ride by girls who only want to use you as a friend, meal ticket, network connection, or source of validation.

In Part II, I detailed how to be a hard target in your relationships, and avoid girls who will use you just to rebound, gold-dig, leapfrog over you socially and romantically, or suck the life out of you while they pretend to be in-need.

In this article, we leave dating aside and look at two-timers in general. Not just dates and girlfriends, but anyone you’ll meet in any context. Friends, business contacts, extended family members. How do you make yourself someone who’s hard to take advantage of?

As with the other installments, we’ll look at who the people who seek to take advantage of you are. And I’ll give you a few ways to firm up your sides and be unassailable to these types of folks.

A hard relationship target: the guy who isn’t a pushover in his relationships. Rebounders, damsels in distress, and gold diggers beware.

Last week, I kicked off the ‘hard target’ series with a look at the commonest swindlers you’ll meet when dating. I talked about how to recognize them, what their motives are, and how to counter them. You can read Part I of the hard target series here: How to be a Hard Target, Pt. I: Dating.

If you’re just tuning in, a ‘hard target’ is someone who’s not an easy mark for a schemer, predator, two-timer, or manipulator. When a two-timer crosses paths with a hard target, she’ll have a hard time getting anywhere with him. She’ll realize she probably can’t pull one over on him, and either stop trying, or move on to find an easier target.

Being able to recognize those who would use you in ways that don’t benefit you is vital. These individuals will run slipshod on your life if you let them. They often weasel their ways in with charm and ersatz affection, or by causing you to doubt your own intuitions.

In today’s installment of the hard target series, we’ll talk relationships. Namely, how to recognize girls inclined to use you in ways you won’t like. And, how to avoid being used.

As always, my advice if you realize you’re with a girl who’s bad news is “drop her”... However, I realize that’s easier said than done. Once your life is entwined with hers, it can be hard to let go. So, read on, and hopefully we can prevent you getting too deep with a bad news girl before it’s too late... Or give you a few firefighting tactics to limit your exposure to her if it already is.

How do you get a girl who’s resisting you to comply with your request? Provisional commitment: “I’ll give you X if condition Y.”

In Donald Trump’s master class on deal making, The Art of the Deal, Trump often mentions his use of provisional commitments as he assembles deals. For example, he may agree to purchase a given piece of real estate, contingent on him getting regulatory approval for what he wants to build there, being able to purchase an extended lease for the property the real estate sits on, etc. That means that if he can get these things, he gets the deal. If he can’t, the deal is off, and he doesn’t lose anything, or loses very little.

You might think this is just something you’d use in business and legal situations. “My client is willing to testify, contingent upon him receiving...” etc.

Yet the provisional commitment has a slew of uses in the romantic and social arenas as well – assuming you’re not afraid to negotiate with the women you’d like to bed.

In Part I of the series, we look at the hard target dater: the man who can’t be suckered by friend-seekers, flirts, diggers, or climbers.

In the excellent self-defense book Dead or Alive: The Choice is Yours, Geoff Thompson uses the term ‘hard target’ to describe someone who’s a difficult mark for attackers. If you’ve read my article on how to be street smart, you know what I’m talking about (and if you liked that article, you should probably grab Geoff’s book). Essentially, you can turn yourself into someone the bad people just don’t want to mess with.

This article kicks off a three-part series on becoming a hard target not for assault or mugging, but in your romantic and social life. How do you not get suckered by those who seek to sucker?

In each installment of the series, I’ll address a specific social arena where men get duped. The areas we’ll examine are:

1. Dating: when you first meet a girl, get to know her, and take her out on dates (this article)

2. Relationships: once you’re already together with a girl, in a romantic relationship with her (next article)

3. Social Life: non-romantic encounters in the social arena: friends, acquaintances, people with connections (third article)
   

We’ll take a look at why people will try to bilk you, what kinds of people will do this, and why they try things with some people but not others. And finally, we’ll talk about becoming a hard target these people leave alone, and can’t crack if they try.