What i'm really surprised and confused about is why people here have such a negative view on marriage. Or want to do it as late as possible like it's some inevitable event causing the death of youth.
Call me an old-fashioned fool, but the whole purpose of me practising girlschase is not to bed girls all my life. Sure, that's fun, but it also feels awfully base. It doesn't feel like it would fulfil me. Like skipping dinner to eat loads of chocolate cake.
For me, the purpose of girlschase is for that one day when I meet the girl of my dreams. Though there are so many beautiful girls, I honestly believe such girls only come a few times a man's life. The girls that make your heart beat faster and stomach full of butterflies. Many girls make me feel nervous, but there has never, albeit one or two, that has caused me to feel the uncontrollable feeling of love. I believe in this.
I want to be in the position to know everything i need to know to make that particular girl fall head over heels in love. I want to make her the happiest woman in the world and her appreciating me as the love of her life. To wake up everyday, seeing her face and knowing that we will be together, for better or worse, until we're an old couple, doing simple things like gardening and making tea together everyday. Sure we'll have our arguments and sometimes we'll sleep in separate bedrooms probably. But i have everything i need to know on this website to make sure those arguments don't become serious, and that she'll always have feelings of love for me, care for me as i care for her and share the happy moments in our lives and laugh with each other about them. Maybe i could do that with my 632nd lover, but i just feel that things would be more meaningful and have more depth with the woman i'll call my wife.
And this also leads me onto another area of my life which i most treasure. It is my dream to have children with such a woman. Especially an adorable little daughter whom i can love, play with and treasure everyday of my life.
I'm also very confused as to why Marty recommends marrying a girl ~15 years younger. I'm sure he has his reasons, and who am i to question a man who's already been married, but how can you relate to someone like that? How can you share stories of your childhood and laugh with her when she has no understanding of your time? And you likewise have no understanding of how things were like in her time? She will be born and raised in a different world of that i couldn't relate to.
I was watching the Lord of the Rings for the first time yesterday (watching the hobbit pursuaded me to watch the series), and you can see how Sam, when he thinks he's going to die with Frodo on top of Mt. Doom, all he can think about is marrying his beloved Rosie (
http://youtu.be/gKrmkHLYBug). He realises she is the most important part of his life. She's more important than travelling with Gandalf and Frodo on that big boat to live a life of immortality. It's different from a 'nice guy' attatchment to a woman, but he loves her. Before anyone points it out, i'm totally aware that hobbits/Sam doesn't exist (but neither does James Bond, and most characters mentioned here), and Sam may not be the type of man i should emulate for the purposes of this site, but he has the same personality as me and the same dream i want. After such a quest, you'd think Sam would want to take advantage of his hero status and be the Casonova of middle earth (which many people here would have probably done). But that's just not who he is, and not who i am either.
http://youtu.be/IEnWSf59YlA I almost cried here. Those who will understand these thoughts about marriage will empathise.
That's just one example i could think of right now. I'm sure there are others. The rogue life of James Bond of having sex with yet another random woman is something i just want to experience, rather than something to devote my life to.
Maybe it's more of a personality thing, in which case, i will never truly understand the thoughts of those like DrexelScott, Chase and DavidEdge and how they tend to see marriage as more of a burden than a gift, and how they see children as merely an investment. And they will probably never understand my views on marriage and call me a naïve fool who doesn't understand how the world works (i've been called this before by many people) but i feel it's society that pressures people like DrexelScott and those like him into marriage, which is why it's got a stereotype of being a miserable, sexless and argumentative life that's portrayed on t.v. and common thinking.
Everyone here describes marriage like life as a caged farm animal. Marriage probably sounds as bad to these people as a life without marriage to me, but that's because i don't think about marriage that way.
I understand that people say marriage is nothing but a paper contract, and they're right. My aspiration is to raise and be in a loving family with her that will bring happiness to my dream woman and my children. The act of marriage can't create this (obviously, from looking at society today. My own parents aren't too great either), but i think it provides the only path to it.
I think Metomeya understands my thoughts (as we share similar interests and desires from what i've seen him write), but we are few and far between, and maybe i got to accept that what i want is totally different to what the majority wants (especially on a pick-up forum). But i'm not afraid or ashamed to admit this.
I think i will retire from this life i'm following now at around 25-26, and marry around 28-30. DrexelScott says that this will be the time i will be the most sexually attractive. Then I believe that's the time i should be with the woman i love most.