I recently posted on here of a new relationship that I was on the verge of jumping into, titled... "Things going way too good, only a matter of time before I drive the wheels off and crash hard",,, well,, we've hit a skid.. Anyone with some advice and input is greatly appreciated..
Just a quick summary of what's going on... Met a girl almost a year ago. I was dating her friend, she was dating someone else, yada ya... Recently, I asked her out, and we went out,, and immediately hit it off.. In all honesty, we clicked waaayyy too good.. Only difference, I am in my mid 30s and she is 26, but we really hit it off.. In fact, it amazed me just how much we really had in common.. We were seeing way too much of each other and I had brought it to her attention a couple of times, telling her that it was unhealthy, just how much time we were spending together. The other day we spent 2 nights in a row together and I was off work the next day.. We slept in and watched a couple of movies and then decided to get out and go do something.. I told her "if you have something else to go do, then go ahead.. It's not gonna hurt my feelings." She replied saying, "what am I gonna do?" So we went out for food and had a couple drinks.. As the night progressed, she had an old friend that was texting her. They had once gone out, & had plans to go out this Saturday when he got back in town. I didn't have a problem with it at all, but then as we continued with drinks (you can see the problem is about to surface), the guy was texting her to confirm the date. Just before that happened we were talking about dating other people. She told me that she didn't mind if I went out with someone else, that she just didn't want to know about it. Then... It happened.. I watched her confirm the date right in front of me, which I didn't appreciate and so we started talking about it.. I then told her,, "I'm not about to ask you not to go out with this guy, because you have every right to, but I would like to ask you that if the night gets late and you are about to get intimate, to use your head and maybe hold off on being intimate with him until we figure out what' we are doing." She said that she could not promise me that she wouldn't be intimate. I then told her, I appreciate her honesty but that was just too much for me. The whole time, we wee discussing this like a normal conversation, but you could feel that everything had just changed.. We get back to my house and then the guy is still texting her so I simply said "Look, I see where this is going, how bout you tell whoever you are texting that you will call them in the morning, and let me have you tonight." She looked at me, put the phone down and headed to the bedroom. Then, we had the best sex ever.. As if we both knew this was the last time.. Morning came and I kissed her bye, stopped and looked back at her while she was sleeping and knew it would be the last I saw of her. I messaged a friend telling him that I thought that would be the last night I saw her. I never reached out to her that day and when I got home, she had left me a note saying "you are so sweet. We need to spend time away from each other. This is too much, too fast. Text me if you want." We haven't been in touch since.. Last week she was telling me that I was driving her crazy, how strong her infatuation is for me, many other discussions portraying us being together, but when I expressed that I would not be happy about her being intimate with another man, it all changed. I had gotten her something for Christmas, nothing big just something simple and she is going out of town on Tuesday for a week. Do I just not reach out at all, or maybe reach out on Monday? She left a couple things at my house.. I thought of waiting until Monday, reaching out telling her that she had left a few things at my house, to come get them.. Or do I just let it go and learn from it?? What's my next move here??
Just a quick summary of what's going on... Met a girl almost a year ago. I was dating her friend, she was dating someone else, yada ya... Recently, I asked her out, and we went out,, and immediately hit it off.. In all honesty, we clicked waaayyy too good.. Only difference, I am in my mid 30s and she is 26, but we really hit it off.. In fact, it amazed me just how much we really had in common.. We were seeing way too much of each other and I had brought it to her attention a couple of times, telling her that it was unhealthy, just how much time we were spending together. The other day we spent 2 nights in a row together and I was off work the next day.. We slept in and watched a couple of movies and then decided to get out and go do something.. I told her "if you have something else to go do, then go ahead.. It's not gonna hurt my feelings." She replied saying, "what am I gonna do?" So we went out for food and had a couple drinks.. As the night progressed, she had an old friend that was texting her. They had once gone out, & had plans to go out this Saturday when he got back in town. I didn't have a problem with it at all, but then as we continued with drinks (you can see the problem is about to surface), the guy was texting her to confirm the date. Just before that happened we were talking about dating other people. She told me that she didn't mind if I went out with someone else, that she just didn't want to know about it. Then... It happened.. I watched her confirm the date right in front of me, which I didn't appreciate and so we started talking about it.. I then told her,, "I'm not about to ask you not to go out with this guy, because you have every right to, but I would like to ask you that if the night gets late and you are about to get intimate, to use your head and maybe hold off on being intimate with him until we figure out what' we are doing." She said that she could not promise me that she wouldn't be intimate. I then told her, I appreciate her honesty but that was just too much for me. The whole time, we wee discussing this like a normal conversation, but you could feel that everything had just changed.. We get back to my house and then the guy is still texting her so I simply said "Look, I see where this is going, how bout you tell whoever you are texting that you will call them in the morning, and let me have you tonight." She looked at me, put the phone down and headed to the bedroom. Then, we had the best sex ever.. As if we both knew this was the last time.. Morning came and I kissed her bye, stopped and looked back at her while she was sleeping and knew it would be the last I saw of her. I messaged a friend telling him that I thought that would be the last night I saw her. I never reached out to her that day and when I got home, she had left me a note saying "you are so sweet. We need to spend time away from each other. This is too much, too fast. Text me if you want." We haven't been in touch since.. Last week she was telling me that I was driving her crazy, how strong her infatuation is for me, many other discussions portraying us being together, but when I expressed that I would not be happy about her being intimate with another man, it all changed. I had gotten her something for Christmas, nothing big just something simple and she is going out of town on Tuesday for a week. Do I just not reach out at all, or maybe reach out on Monday? She left a couple things at my house.. I thought of waiting until Monday, reaching out telling her that she had left a few things at my house, to come get them.. Or do I just let it go and learn from it?? What's my next move here??