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So been seeing this girl on adn off for a long time (2 years) most of the time I was trying to keep it as FWB and recently let her make it more serious....
Things were going very well (super amazing sex etc) but recently I've been getting super busy and I have to admit I;ve been going out quite a bit with friends (and not her) when I have been going out. Not been doing very many cool things with her.
Anyway since a couple weels ago where she spent the whole weekend here and we were super close and I was finally giving her all of the lovey dovey attention she wanted and she was being really close back - at the end she freaked out about something (which almost happens every time she comes over - she freaks out at the end about something small and irrational) the last 2 or 3 times she has been a little more distant - shes been saying she doesnt want to have sex as much. This is odd since she usually comes on to me all the time and cant get enough Also up until recently we had AMAZING sex - its the best shes ever had and she comes multiple times very hard - recently this has reduced - novelty needed in this area.
Shes been saying its odd that she doesnt want sex as much since she always does normally.... it is weird. Anyway shes also started to cool a little over text - no more xxxxxxxxxxxxx - now its one or two. Also I tried calling her this eve and she was dull and tired and she sent me a text - "Im sorry I put a downer on - glad you had a good night - I feel like I'm doing that a lot recently" basically this is all very bad news - what should I do now to avoid things getting worse? I'm very busy till next friday so still some time before I can do some good stuff.Maybe suggest going on a mini break with her when shes a little more in a good mood and if she comes over? Also I was going to suggest she comes over after she goes on a night out on friday (salsa dancing) but - I dont want to start chasing too much (this almost sounds ridiculous after shes chased for so long) but I worry I might flip the balance if Im not careful and I push for friday if she is hesitant for example. mainly i think issue is from boredom from doing the same thing (coming to my place for sex)
Ideas...
Things were going very well (super amazing sex etc) but recently I've been getting super busy and I have to admit I;ve been going out quite a bit with friends (and not her) when I have been going out. Not been doing very many cool things with her.
Anyway since a couple weels ago where she spent the whole weekend here and we were super close and I was finally giving her all of the lovey dovey attention she wanted and she was being really close back - at the end she freaked out about something (which almost happens every time she comes over - she freaks out at the end about something small and irrational) the last 2 or 3 times she has been a little more distant - shes been saying she doesnt want to have sex as much. This is odd since she usually comes on to me all the time and cant get enough Also up until recently we had AMAZING sex - its the best shes ever had and she comes multiple times very hard - recently this has reduced - novelty needed in this area.
Shes been saying its odd that she doesnt want sex as much since she always does normally.... it is weird. Anyway shes also started to cool a little over text - no more xxxxxxxxxxxxx - now its one or two. Also I tried calling her this eve and she was dull and tired and she sent me a text - "Im sorry I put a downer on - glad you had a good night - I feel like I'm doing that a lot recently" basically this is all very bad news - what should I do now to avoid things getting worse? I'm very busy till next friday so still some time before I can do some good stuff.Maybe suggest going on a mini break with her when shes a little more in a good mood and if she comes over? Also I was going to suggest she comes over after she goes on a night out on friday (salsa dancing) but - I dont want to start chasing too much (this almost sounds ridiculous after shes chased for so long) but I worry I might flip the balance if Im not careful and I push for friday if she is hesitant for example. mainly i think issue is from boredom from doing the same thing (coming to my place for sex)
Ideas...