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If you are unsure about what Attainability actually is and why it's so important, then have a look here:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/book-excerpts-being-attainable-women
The key point being : "Girls don't just reject you because you're not good enough for them, but because they feel like they can't get what they want out of you."
If you have followed what you have learned from this site and turned yourself into a truly sexy, high value man, then you will run into attainability problems more often than not. It seems silly to think that you can turn yourself into such a high value guy that it can alienate you from a lot of women. If you don't believe me, have a look at this data compiled from OKCupid:
http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-4-big-myths-of-profile-pictures/
The author of this article couldn't explain why men in their late 20's and early 30's who were in shape received less attention from females than teenage men who were in shape. Or why men who dressed professionally received less attention than men who dressed casually. I guess this author never heard of the concept of attainability in the realm of male-female relationships because this is Attainability, or lack thereof, in action!
The author proposes:
"In the future perhaps we can investigate what’s behind the decline: is it because older guys and their older abs are inherently less attractive, or because women as they age find body shots less interesting?"
Wrong on both accounts. As women age, their ability to secure a sexy fit man into a relationship becomes less likely, so they opt for more attainable guys. It's equivalent to the old married guy saying he, "Doesn't like fake girls with makeup and pushup bras, give me a natural girl!"
The same thing happens with the clothes you wear. Almost every time I've asked a woman what kind of clothing she finds the most sexy on a man, the answer has been a suit. But why do men who dress professionally get less attention than men who dress casually? The answer is Attainability.
Recently, this fact has become very apparent as I commute to work on public transit while dressed professionally. I get plenty of hungry looks, the girls are warm and receptive, they qualify themselves quickly, but the dates I've actually acquired have been far fewer than when I dress casually. Since the girls I approach on transit are usually university students, I suspect results would be different had I approached career women to whom I'd be more attainable. I'll have to make a trip to the corporate part of my city to confirm this.
The way women assess attainability is almost like a defense mechanism where the running theme seems to be, "This guy's such a stud, there's a good chance he just uses me up and spits me out". This modus operandi is actually pretty accurate when the man is higher value than the woman. Some girls are fine with this setup of "It'll be good while it lasts", but many are not.
If your value is high, then your attainability explains why the most attractive girls seem to be the warmest and hook the quickest, while the less attractive girls often remain more skeptical and withdrawn. This concept took me a long time to wrap my head around. If really hot girls liked me, then the less hot girls should LOVE me - Wrong!
The good news is, the way you dress alters your attainability. Just like how you have to use different lures to hook different fish, you have to dress differently to hook different girls. Ultimately, your aim should be to match her value. What that means is, if she's a hot corporate chick that looks like she just got out of business meeting, then you'd be best served wearing a shirt and tie, dress pants and dress shoes, so your value is equal.
If you are approaching a hot girl at the club where the environment has her value artificially pumped up, then you'd be best served wearing something that maximizes your sexiness, so again, your value is equal.
When approaching girls during the day whether it be the street, transit, coffee shops, or where ever, nothing has served me better than casual clothes like T-shirts, jeans, gym shorts, sweat pants and hoodies. Not exactly sexy attire, but it makes me more attainable and nets me better results than dressing sexy or professional.
It seems odd, dressing down gets you better results? Yep! Tall girls have known this for ages. Why do you think they rarely wear heels? It's because wearing heels would put them out of reach for the vast majority of men, so they wear flats to make themselves more attainable.
I guess the take away point is, if you are already an attractive man, then you might have better results by managing your attainability and dressing down instead of dressing up.
https://www.girlschase.com/content/book-excerpts-being-attainable-women
The key point being : "Girls don't just reject you because you're not good enough for them, but because they feel like they can't get what they want out of you."
If you have followed what you have learned from this site and turned yourself into a truly sexy, high value man, then you will run into attainability problems more often than not. It seems silly to think that you can turn yourself into such a high value guy that it can alienate you from a lot of women. If you don't believe me, have a look at this data compiled from OKCupid:
http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-4-big-myths-of-profile-pictures/
The author of this article couldn't explain why men in their late 20's and early 30's who were in shape received less attention from females than teenage men who were in shape. Or why men who dressed professionally received less attention than men who dressed casually. I guess this author never heard of the concept of attainability in the realm of male-female relationships because this is Attainability, or lack thereof, in action!
The author proposes:
"In the future perhaps we can investigate what’s behind the decline: is it because older guys and their older abs are inherently less attractive, or because women as they age find body shots less interesting?"
Wrong on both accounts. As women age, their ability to secure a sexy fit man into a relationship becomes less likely, so they opt for more attainable guys. It's equivalent to the old married guy saying he, "Doesn't like fake girls with makeup and pushup bras, give me a natural girl!"
The same thing happens with the clothes you wear. Almost every time I've asked a woman what kind of clothing she finds the most sexy on a man, the answer has been a suit. But why do men who dress professionally get less attention than men who dress casually? The answer is Attainability.
Recently, this fact has become very apparent as I commute to work on public transit while dressed professionally. I get plenty of hungry looks, the girls are warm and receptive, they qualify themselves quickly, but the dates I've actually acquired have been far fewer than when I dress casually. Since the girls I approach on transit are usually university students, I suspect results would be different had I approached career women to whom I'd be more attainable. I'll have to make a trip to the corporate part of my city to confirm this.
The way women assess attainability is almost like a defense mechanism where the running theme seems to be, "This guy's such a stud, there's a good chance he just uses me up and spits me out". This modus operandi is actually pretty accurate when the man is higher value than the woman. Some girls are fine with this setup of "It'll be good while it lasts", but many are not.
If your value is high, then your attainability explains why the most attractive girls seem to be the warmest and hook the quickest, while the less attractive girls often remain more skeptical and withdrawn. This concept took me a long time to wrap my head around. If really hot girls liked me, then the less hot girls should LOVE me - Wrong!
The good news is, the way you dress alters your attainability. Just like how you have to use different lures to hook different fish, you have to dress differently to hook different girls. Ultimately, your aim should be to match her value. What that means is, if she's a hot corporate chick that looks like she just got out of business meeting, then you'd be best served wearing a shirt and tie, dress pants and dress shoes, so your value is equal.
If you are approaching a hot girl at the club where the environment has her value artificially pumped up, then you'd be best served wearing something that maximizes your sexiness, so again, your value is equal.
When approaching girls during the day whether it be the street, transit, coffee shops, or where ever, nothing has served me better than casual clothes like T-shirts, jeans, gym shorts, sweat pants and hoodies. Not exactly sexy attire, but it makes me more attainable and nets me better results than dressing sexy or professional.
It seems odd, dressing down gets you better results? Yep! Tall girls have known this for ages. Why do you think they rarely wear heels? It's because wearing heels would put them out of reach for the vast majority of men, so they wear flats to make themselves more attainable.
I guess the take away point is, if you are already an attractive man, then you might have better results by managing your attainability and dressing down instead of dressing up.