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Not in truth a complete FR, since I didn't meet this girl via cold approach (it was actually off Okcupid). Just thought I'd write it out since it was a major confidence downer and it helps me to write stuff out here.
Grabbed this girl Katy's number off Okcupid, she was being super flirty, sending me winky faces (and suggesting ice cream instead of coffee, made me think of another poster here haha), she's a 24 year old mother of two, not extremely attractive but I figure I need the practice right now (deep dive, leading, how to text, how to be more comfortable around women etc.)
We start texting, convo gets a little sexual, I tell her my parents are conservatively Muslim and she asks me if I'm a virgin, I say "I'm probably more experienced than most other guys", she asks me why I live with my parents at 22, I say it's because I got really sick and lost my intestines to chron's disease a couple years ago.
Then I get this:
Her: Not trying to be shallow but if you don't have intestines I'm not really interested, that would mean you would have a colostomy bag and I could not find that attractive :/.
Me: Lol. That's the first time I've ever had a woman say that to me, shit like this just makes me stronger, thank you for that and good luck with your dating life.
I'M NOT HERE LOOKING FOR SYMPATHY, told a few of my mates at school about it, they wanted to give me hugs and stuff like that (not what I was looking for they just asked me why I was a little quiet today and kept pushing and prodding till I told them).
Just having a bit of mindset issues right now, had quite a few recent FU's, my approaches haven't been going particularly well, and sometimes when I'm approaching at school I just feel like some old guy creeping on teenage girls (which is not the case because I'm only 22 and 16 is the age of consent in my state). It really is coming off that way I think too because I'll ask things like: "Would you be comfortable going out with an older guy?" and basically just shooting myself in the foot with a "nice guy" tone of voice or saying stupid shit like that.
I'm failing to find a balance between being chill and being aggressive, basically what's happening right now is whenever I try to be dominant, stand tall, speak in a deep tone; I get accused of being "cocky", "arrogant", and "sitting/walking like I'm better than people". Could this be an issue of bad verbals and vibes accompanying those? My kino has creeped out my last couple dates (which is why I really backed off on it). I've gotten better since I've been here I feel like I'm just reaching a plateau (and have not been successful enough yet to be stuck at a plateau).
It's just frustrating right now, can't give up though, if all of you are succeeding I can do it too (not that I'm better than anyone else, it just shows me that anyone is capable of doing this).
Grabbed this girl Katy's number off Okcupid, she was being super flirty, sending me winky faces (and suggesting ice cream instead of coffee, made me think of another poster here haha), she's a 24 year old mother of two, not extremely attractive but I figure I need the practice right now (deep dive, leading, how to text, how to be more comfortable around women etc.)
We start texting, convo gets a little sexual, I tell her my parents are conservatively Muslim and she asks me if I'm a virgin, I say "I'm probably more experienced than most other guys", she asks me why I live with my parents at 22, I say it's because I got really sick and lost my intestines to chron's disease a couple years ago.
Then I get this:
Her: Not trying to be shallow but if you don't have intestines I'm not really interested, that would mean you would have a colostomy bag and I could not find that attractive :/.
Me: Lol. That's the first time I've ever had a woman say that to me, shit like this just makes me stronger, thank you for that and good luck with your dating life.
I'M NOT HERE LOOKING FOR SYMPATHY, told a few of my mates at school about it, they wanted to give me hugs and stuff like that (not what I was looking for they just asked me why I was a little quiet today and kept pushing and prodding till I told them).
Just having a bit of mindset issues right now, had quite a few recent FU's, my approaches haven't been going particularly well, and sometimes when I'm approaching at school I just feel like some old guy creeping on teenage girls (which is not the case because I'm only 22 and 16 is the age of consent in my state). It really is coming off that way I think too because I'll ask things like: "Would you be comfortable going out with an older guy?" and basically just shooting myself in the foot with a "nice guy" tone of voice or saying stupid shit like that.
I'm failing to find a balance between being chill and being aggressive, basically what's happening right now is whenever I try to be dominant, stand tall, speak in a deep tone; I get accused of being "cocky", "arrogant", and "sitting/walking like I'm better than people". Could this be an issue of bad verbals and vibes accompanying those? My kino has creeped out my last couple dates (which is why I really backed off on it). I've gotten better since I've been here I feel like I'm just reaching a plateau (and have not been successful enough yet to be stuck at a plateau).
It's just frustrating right now, can't give up though, if all of you are succeeding I can do it too (not that I'm better than anyone else, it just shows me that anyone is capable of doing this).