This is kind of an awkward first post for me, as its among my biggest fears regarding the opposite sex. First off I'm a virgin and I've never had a girlfriend or any history with girls beyond friendzone. I host numerous insecurities regarding all things me, but most importantly I've got a small dick, so its understandable why I'm always alone. I'm currently fighting my depression and am attempting to improve my life, through more efforts in school and job searching, while also coming to this website to try to improve myself with women. However, I'm burdened with approach anxiety as I'm bad at talking to people I don't know (especially girls), and should I somehow get lucky enough to get a girl interested in sex I know that I will leave her disappointed. So I guess that one big debatable question of "does size matter?" is of crucial importance to me.
Does size matter?
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I don't know what size is your penis but this is what I think and truly believe. I believe size actually doesn't matter BUT I do believe if a girls sees a nice dick she could think that or actually say it. What does it really matter then?
Being a SEX KAMASUTRA GOD
I think this goes for everyone but specially for you or anyone who knows his dick is small and knows that giving her a great time makes the difference (less than average, like <5''). Who would you think a girl would rather fuck: A guy with an 8'' dick who fucks her okay or a guy with a 5'' dick who makes her wanna scream? I'm pretty sure you know the answer.
So I recommend you to become a sex GOD. Maybe she will see your dick at first and realize it is smaller than other men she has slept before (maybe not, she is in a heated moment) but I assure you that it won't even matter a bit if you fuck her like she has never been fucked before (or as her best times ever).
Besides, if you don't want to be always the chaser for sex it's really important to fuck her really good. She won't come (or at least, as often) to some long-dick-pal if he doesn't care about her (giving her a great time, only thinking about himself) but she will come to you if she really enjoys how you fuck her (you want her to have a great time, not just you). She will crave how you make her feel.
I have a rule that I call Selfish-NoSelfish rule. What do I mean?
I mean that when having sex you have to be both at the same time. You don't want to be selfish (inconsiderate) with the girl. You want her to also have a great time. At the same time you want to be selfish. Because you are not just helping her have a great time, you are building a reputation: You are a sex god. And believe this my friend: women talk. Yes they do. Even about this. Some won't be an open book about her intimate life but I can assure that if the subject comes at least she would say something like "He's great!" and her non-verbal communication will backup her words. Her friends would notice. Points for you. Never hurts to be considered a sex god by others.
Look over internet for tips on sex. There is also a board about sex here.
Hope this could help! Stop concerning so much about that and start concerning about becoming a SEX GOD.
Cheers!
Being a SEX KAMASUTRA GOD
I think this goes for everyone but specially for you or anyone who knows his dick is small and knows that giving her a great time makes the difference (less than average, like <5''). Who would you think a girl would rather fuck: A guy with an 8'' dick who fucks her okay or a guy with a 5'' dick who makes her wanna scream? I'm pretty sure you know the answer.
So I recommend you to become a sex GOD. Maybe she will see your dick at first and realize it is smaller than other men she has slept before (maybe not, she is in a heated moment) but I assure you that it won't even matter a bit if you fuck her like she has never been fucked before (or as her best times ever).
Besides, if you don't want to be always the chaser for sex it's really important to fuck her really good. She won't come (or at least, as often) to some long-dick-pal if he doesn't care about her (giving her a great time, only thinking about himself) but she will come to you if she really enjoys how you fuck her (you want her to have a great time, not just you). She will crave how you make her feel.
I have a rule that I call Selfish-NoSelfish rule. What do I mean?
I mean that when having sex you have to be both at the same time. You don't want to be selfish (inconsiderate) with the girl. You want her to also have a great time. At the same time you want to be selfish. Because you are not just helping her have a great time, you are building a reputation: You are a sex god. And believe this my friend: women talk. Yes they do. Even about this. Some won't be an open book about her intimate life but I can assure that if the subject comes at least she would say something like "He's great!" and her non-verbal communication will backup her words. Her friends would notice. Points for you. Never hurts to be considered a sex god by others.
Look over internet for tips on sex. There is also a board about sex here.
Hope this could help! Stop concerning so much about that and start concerning about becoming a SEX GOD.
Cheers!
Does Size Matter...? - Yes and No.
- Yes it does.. because you need a dick regardless. If it was only the size of a peanut then I'm sorry for such misfortune.
- No it doesn't, because it has been proven via experiments that most girls only require anything up to 2'' inch to hit their sweet spot.
Thats right.. you heard me. Only 2"
Like how diegoC has mentioned, its all about your confidence, and how you touch the girl.. fore play skills are your best friends. Having the skill to make a girl wet.
So does size matter...? - Only if you think it does.
- Yes it does.. because you need a dick regardless. If it was only the size of a peanut then I'm sorry for such misfortune.
- No it doesn't, because it has been proven via experiments that most girls only require anything up to 2'' inch to hit their sweet spot.
Thats right.. you heard me. Only 2"
Like how diegoC has mentioned, its all about your confidence, and how you touch the girl.. fore play skills are your best friends. Having the skill to make a girl wet.
So does size matter...? - Only if you think it does.
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It really doesn't matter. Some guys seem to think that girls care.
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Moved this to the Sex Board.
Thickness matters, to a certain degree. The average female vagina is about 4" in depth, so if you're rocking anything over 4" fully extended you should be able to hit the back wall of at least 50% of women's vaginas, which is a core component of giving girls rip-roaring vaginal orgasms. However, most men with even much larger penises than that never figure this aspect of sex out.
Smaller penises actually tend to be preferred by women for anal sex. You can still give a girl anal orgasms even with a smaller penis, and it isn't as uncomfortable on first entry as a larger penis is.
Also... if you've ever seen Deuce Bigelow: Male Gigalo, the advice there about penis size is actually quite sage. The title character tells a detective who's insecure about his thin penis that women are FAR more worried about their bodies, and every time he's feeling insecure about his penis he should just compliment his woman on her body instead.
And it's true. I've had otherwise very confident women start apologizing to me about how one of their breasts is larger than the other as I'm disrobing them... often I never would've noticed this if they hadn't pointed it out. And EVERY woman has one breast that's bigger than the other. It's amazing how insecure women are about having a lopsided breast, though.
Or they're insecure about small breasts. Or floppy breasts. Or they have weird nipples. Or their labia is embarrassing. Or they have odd shoulders. Whatever.
Ultimately, when clothes are coming off, she's a lot more worried about what you think about her than about what she thinks about you.
Chase
Thickness matters, to a certain degree. The average female vagina is about 4" in depth, so if you're rocking anything over 4" fully extended you should be able to hit the back wall of at least 50% of women's vaginas, which is a core component of giving girls rip-roaring vaginal orgasms. However, most men with even much larger penises than that never figure this aspect of sex out.
Smaller penises actually tend to be preferred by women for anal sex. You can still give a girl anal orgasms even with a smaller penis, and it isn't as uncomfortable on first entry as a larger penis is.
Also... if you've ever seen Deuce Bigelow: Male Gigalo, the advice there about penis size is actually quite sage. The title character tells a detective who's insecure about his thin penis that women are FAR more worried about their bodies, and every time he's feeling insecure about his penis he should just compliment his woman on her body instead.
And it's true. I've had otherwise very confident women start apologizing to me about how one of their breasts is larger than the other as I'm disrobing them... often I never would've noticed this if they hadn't pointed it out. And EVERY woman has one breast that's bigger than the other. It's amazing how insecure women are about having a lopsided breast, though.
Or they're insecure about small breasts. Or floppy breasts. Or they have weird nipples. Or their labia is embarrassing. Or they have odd shoulders. Whatever.
Ultimately, when clothes are coming off, she's a lot more worried about what you think about her than about what she thinks about you.
Chase
Sex God - I love that!
Chase, this question is more directed to you: What are some of your "signature moves" when it comes to bedding women? What's your process like? What are some things you do consciously that drives women crazy?
A few thoughts would be appreciated!
-Zen
Chase, this question is more directed to you: What are some of your "signature moves" when it comes to bedding women? What's your process like? What are some things you do consciously that drives women crazy?
A few thoughts would be appreciated!
-Zen
Chase, I wanted a bit of clarification to what you said (below). You mentioned that hitting the back wall is a core component of giving girls amazing orgasms. However, some girls I have been with have mentioned discomfort from hitting the back wall or the cervix wall if I go in too deep. Is this the same thing?
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@ Zen-
There's a way of touching women with your fingertips that is very exciting to them. It's a little difficult to describe. Basically, very light touching... as if you are picking up a piece of cotton candy and don't want to break it or destroy it. Very, very light... and either sweeping your hand back and forth or, if on her breast, cupping your fingers around her breast and gradually pulling your hand back, bringing your fingers together as the run from the base of her breast to the tip, coming together very lightly as they stroke her nipple and move off her breast. And you just repeat this move again and again. It's nice to do when you're just relaxing and want to start revving things up... feels incredible for her. Very easy way to get women turned on, and it's something that even if she's fairly experienced with men she probably hasn't encountered before.
Sexually, I have a somewhat altered missionary position I stumbled on that I use that's very effective at eliciting multiple vaginal orgasms. I've debated about talking about it publicly for a while though... that one's hard to give up
I will say though that some of the secrets to very powerful vaginal orgasms are simply a steady, trance-like rhythm that never alters or changes, no matter how much she begs you to go faster (you can go harder, but not faster... keep the tempo exactly the same if you want to make her cum, at least until you're good enough rhythmically that you can begin altering the rhythm in ways that peak the excitement without breaking the trance, but that takes a few years of practice), and saving dirty talk to use only at high points - most guys seem to use this haphazardly, and it uses most of its effects, but if you save it only for when she's peaking, you can use talk to excite her more and elevate her to the next peak.
Varying physical contact is also very powerful and good for contrast - e.g., at one point you're in a missionary position where your body is entirely against hers - your chest against hers, stomach against hers, pelvis against hers, etc. Full body contact. Then you switch - to taking her from behind, say, or having her lift her buttocks up and support herself without you holding her. Take your hands off her - no hands on her waist or anything - so that the only contact she has is your penis going into her. The contrast of going from maximal contact with your body to almost no contact with anything but your penis is very exciting for women. Do that for a little while, and then moving back to full body contact again gives you a different kind of excitement - passion (the more of your body that's on hers, the better) vs. raw sex (the less body contact, and the more focus on just penis in vagina, the better).
I'm also a fan of whenever girls give me any kind of resistance before sex, getting them really excited during sex, and thrusting very hard and making them cry out, and then stopping, making them look at me, and asking them, "Would you like me to stop now?"
Very nice way of showing dominance - you'd be fine stopping, but they can't even imagine it - which, as you know, is very exciting to women.
Then you get right back to it.
@ Ozz-
Yes, it's the same thing.
The most sensitive parts of a woman's body - i.e., her clitoris, and her vaginal back wall - will hurt if you stimulate them too hard before she's fully aroused. However, the more turned on she gets and the closer to climax she gets, the harder you can attack these areas and the more what would be pain gets interpreted as pleasure.
I'll frequently have girls leave a little blood on the sheets the first few times we sleep together, because their vaginas are not accustomed to sex that hard. The bleeding stops after a few times sleeping with me and their bodies adapt. I'll occasionally have girls complain of stomach pain after sex from hitting their back wall very hard, but that's not too often, and usually just with shorter girls (who have shorter vaginas, and thus it's a bit of a squeeze trying to cram all of you into her). And usually when they're complaining of pain after, it's only after they were screaming with delight before.
Chase
Zen said:
There's a way of touching women with your fingertips that is very exciting to them. It's a little difficult to describe. Basically, very light touching... as if you are picking up a piece of cotton candy and don't want to break it or destroy it. Very, very light... and either sweeping your hand back and forth or, if on her breast, cupping your fingers around her breast and gradually pulling your hand back, bringing your fingers together as the run from the base of her breast to the tip, coming together very lightly as they stroke her nipple and move off her breast. And you just repeat this move again and again. It's nice to do when you're just relaxing and want to start revving things up... feels incredible for her. Very easy way to get women turned on, and it's something that even if she's fairly experienced with men she probably hasn't encountered before.
Sexually, I have a somewhat altered missionary position I stumbled on that I use that's very effective at eliciting multiple vaginal orgasms. I've debated about talking about it publicly for a while though... that one's hard to give up
I will say though that some of the secrets to very powerful vaginal orgasms are simply a steady, trance-like rhythm that never alters or changes, no matter how much she begs you to go faster (you can go harder, but not faster... keep the tempo exactly the same if you want to make her cum, at least until you're good enough rhythmically that you can begin altering the rhythm in ways that peak the excitement without breaking the trance, but that takes a few years of practice), and saving dirty talk to use only at high points - most guys seem to use this haphazardly, and it uses most of its effects, but if you save it only for when she's peaking, you can use talk to excite her more and elevate her to the next peak.Varying physical contact is also very powerful and good for contrast - e.g., at one point you're in a missionary position where your body is entirely against hers - your chest against hers, stomach against hers, pelvis against hers, etc. Full body contact. Then you switch - to taking her from behind, say, or having her lift her buttocks up and support herself without you holding her. Take your hands off her - no hands on her waist or anything - so that the only contact she has is your penis going into her. The contrast of going from maximal contact with your body to almost no contact with anything but your penis is very exciting for women. Do that for a little while, and then moving back to full body contact again gives you a different kind of excitement - passion (the more of your body that's on hers, the better) vs. raw sex (the less body contact, and the more focus on just penis in vagina, the better).
I'm also a fan of whenever girls give me any kind of resistance before sex, getting them really excited during sex, and thrusting very hard and making them cry out, and then stopping, making them look at me, and asking them, "Would you like me to stop now?"
Very nice way of showing dominance - you'd be fine stopping, but they can't even imagine it - which, as you know, is very exciting to women.
Then you get right back to it.
@ Ozz-
Ozz said:
Yes, it's the same thing.
The most sensitive parts of a woman's body - i.e., her clitoris, and her vaginal back wall - will hurt if you stimulate them too hard before she's fully aroused. However, the more turned on she gets and the closer to climax she gets, the harder you can attack these areas and the more what would be pain gets interpreted as pleasure.
I'll frequently have girls leave a little blood on the sheets the first few times we sleep together, because their vaginas are not accustomed to sex that hard. The bleeding stops after a few times sleeping with me and their bodies adapt. I'll occasionally have girls complain of stomach pain after sex from hitting their back wall very hard, but that's not too often, and usually just with shorter girls (who have shorter vaginas, and thus it's a bit of a squeeze trying to cram all of you into her). And usually when they're complaining of pain after, it's only after they were screaming with delight before.
Chase
You could think about it like a fighting game. While size has more power, if its not properly used its just as bad as average. But dont worry if your power level isnt over 9000, if you've got skill, she will be more than satisfied.
I always assumed that was just what it meant to “run your fingers” over a girl’s body. So I’ve done that every time I’ve caressed a girl.
I’ll try the breast thing at the next opportunity.
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Good looking loser seems to have some solutions for this issue that actually work... I haven't tried them but seemed like it's worth checking out for anyone that has this issue.
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Old topic revived but valid concern for many green guys.
End of the day? No. Men and woman orgasm from dreams, with no physical stimulation. So if aroused enough it can happen almost "illusionary"
I dated a chick who would not cum, I mean literally 20 minutes after I did she would need me to 3 finger bang her doggystyle so she could lay on her stomach ass up and play with her clit to cum as I did it. Once we painted a house all day indoors, so probably were on fumes lol, but just missionary on edge of a bed, she came as I did (normal missionary) in like a minute. All about arousal not this or that technique or alien finger probe or shape of dong or size etc etc.
When I get asked if size matters I say "not to me". I Always cum and I often never see these women in a month, a year later, who cares in reality.
I'm a 6er usually normal, am lean 6.5 ish, fat as fuck 5.5 on a bulk. Not some porn dude, got a normal dick like everybody else lol. Had girls cum or pretend, who knows hundred times, had em go from in mad love when I can fuck 20 minutes, to nagging me and a breakup when I am bored and cumming in 2 minutes.
Old topic, OP is probably long gone, but anyone worried, it's all in her head, you likely will cum, so fuck it I say. Gonna matter in 20 years? Enjoy yourself, who cares if she cums.
Gun
End of the day? No. Men and woman orgasm from dreams, with no physical stimulation. So if aroused enough it can happen almost "illusionary"
I dated a chick who would not cum, I mean literally 20 minutes after I did she would need me to 3 finger bang her doggystyle so she could lay on her stomach ass up and play with her clit to cum as I did it. Once we painted a house all day indoors, so probably were on fumes lol, but just missionary on edge of a bed, she came as I did (normal missionary) in like a minute. All about arousal not this or that technique or alien finger probe or shape of dong or size etc etc.
When I get asked if size matters I say "not to me". I Always cum and I often never see these women in a month, a year later, who cares in reality.
I'm a 6er usually normal, am lean 6.5 ish, fat as fuck 5.5 on a bulk. Not some porn dude, got a normal dick like everybody else lol. Had girls cum or pretend, who knows hundred times, had em go from in mad love when I can fuck 20 minutes, to nagging me and a breakup when I am bored and cumming in 2 minutes.
Old topic, OP is probably long gone, but anyone worried, it's all in her head, you likely will cum, so fuck it I say. Gonna matter in 20 years? Enjoy yourself, who cares if she cums.
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2023 wow had a case like that thought she was avoiding sex with me,after only one round, abdominal pain after sex is legit thanks for the insight Chase (will shag them silly LOL).@ Zen-
There's a way of touching women with your fingertips that is very exciting to them. It's a little difficult to describe. Basically, very light touching... as if you are picking up a piece of cotton candy and don't want to break it or destroy it. Very, very light... and either sweeping your hand back and forth or, if on her breast, cupping your fingers around her breast and gradually pulling your hand back, bringing your fingers together as the run from the base of her breast to the tip, coming together very lightly as they stroke her nipple and move off her breast. And you just repeat this move again and again. It's nice to do when you're just relaxing and want to start revving things up... feels incredible for her. Very easy way to get women turned on, and it's something that even if she's fairly experienced with men she probably hasn't encountered before.
Sexually, I have a somewhat altered missionary position I stumbled on that I use that's very effective at eliciting multiple vaginal orgasms. I've debated about talking about it publicly for a while though... that one's hard to give up
Varying physical contact is also very powerful and good for contrast - e.g., at one point you're in a missionary position where your body is entirely against hers - your chest against hers, stomach against hers, pelvis against hers, etc. Full body contact. Then you switch - to taking her from behind, say, or having her lift her buttocks up and support herself without you holding her. Take your hands off her - no hands on her waist or anything - so that the only contact she has is your penis going into her. The contrast of going from maximal contact with your body to almost no contact with anything but your penis is very exciting for women. Do that for a little while, and then moving back to full body contact again gives you a different kind of excitement - passion (the more of your body that's on hers, the better) vs. raw sex (the less body contact, and the more focus on just penis in vagina, the better).
I'm also a fan of whenever girls give me any kind of resistance before sex, getting them really excited during sex, and thrusting very hard and making them cry out, and then stopping, making them look at me, and asking them, "Would you like me to stop now?"
Very nice way of showing dominance - you'd be fine stopping, but they can't even imagine it - which, as you know, is very exciting to women.
Then you get right back to it.
@ Ozz-
Yes, it's the same thing.
The most sensitive parts of a woman's body - i.e., her clitoris, and her vaginal back wall - will hurt if you stimulate them too hard before she's fully aroused. However, the more turned on she gets and the closer to climax she gets, the harder you can attack these areas and the more what would be pain gets interpreted as pleasure.
I'll frequently have girls leave a little blood on the sheets the first few times we sleep together, because their vaginas are not accustomed to sex that hard. The bleeding stops after a few times sleeping with me and their bodies adapt. I'll occasionally have girls complain of stomach pain after sex from hitting their back wall very hard, but that's not too often, and usually just with shorter girls (who have shorter vaginas, and thus it's a bit of a squeeze trying to cram all of you into her). And usually when they're complaining of pain after, it's only after they were screaming with delight before.
Chase