ED - Anxious - how to tackle it

Elusive

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I first got this last week - It was round 3 and I got soft in the middle of a BJ - and its an image I havent been able to get out of my head since - Now the first time it happened- I blamed my libido and didnt know about ED

So...

I changed my diet and exercise to as testosterone friendly as possible you know compound lifts - HIT - good nutrition - foods rich in zinc, magnesium, VIT D supplements- reduce sugar EVERYTHING - even things like ginger and pomegrante I had a TON of

But again last night - soft... so soft but its ok im determined - I realise now its psychological impotence my dick is fine I know this but I get in my head so Ive been tackling the problem the wrong way - the battlefield is not physical its psychological..


So what I plan to do now and where I need your advice:

Progressive relaxation - I already found an article on it and guided ones on youtube too - Ill do that twice a day

Visualisation and Affirmation - I want to do this but dont know how or what to imagine: what do you think of? How often do you do it? When? And how do you stay strong and believe in what you say and see?

Apart from this what else is there that I can do to tackle this problem?

I went 70 days no porn where I had beautiful erection Ive watched porn a couple of times since then and have Orgasmed to it once - this couldve been what fucked me - i thought i was cured - but ye definitely no porn- if we overlook that one time im on around Day 80 now..

Im sure you can imagine- But Id really really appreciate your input - theres no way im going down the pill route ..

Btw Ive read all the GC articles on this but... it just hasnt helped - APART from going in Raw: Fantastic - worked a treat this morning even though I went soft in the middle I dont care at least I got my dick in Haha

Thanks!!
 

Elusive

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fucked and came twice already that night
then went again for round 3 - started that with a blowjob
 

ray_zorse

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Eh mate, I don't think you really have a problem, it's more that you think you MIGHT have a problem which leads you to rehearse failure and fucks shit up. Just cut that out, if you ever catch yourself thinking about erection issues switch immediately to an affirmation "Lots of girls are enjoying my dick right now" and think of something else, or repeat the affirmation as many times as necessary. That's all you have to do, except to say that occasionally going soft mid sex or not getting it up is simply a fact of life, nothing can change life's innate variability... just KEEP YOUR COOL when it happens, don't try to explain in any way -- she has no right to your dick and nothing bad is gonna happen. If you don't end up having sex right then, who cares, you can fuck her tomorrow when you're in the mood. So take the pressure off yourself -- you don't have to perform every time and you don't give a flying fuck what she thinks of your performance. It only matters if it matters to YOU. And in that case sure, use affirmations, fantasies, visualization... whatever floats your boat. If you're in the mood you'll soon find one that works in the moment, if you're not keep your cool, it's no biggie haha.
Ray
 

Byron

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You can also play around with nofap- I tried this and found benefits in not completely cutting out fapping entirely but I went from way too often (and thus ED) to every few days and no problems (and when I was having lots of sex, completely cutting it out). So that might be a situational solution so to speak, but if you have it solved and can go many rounds a night, more power to you.
Byron
 

Elusive

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Guys i dont know what changed but IT WAS ALL GOOD

For anyone who reads this thread in the future my tip from all this

Stay away from porn or pleasuring yourself - optimise your testosterone (Nutrition and exercise) - and meditate (did this shit 3 times a day for two weeks lol ) and let your dick do all the talking

And ray your visualisation on getting the Girl pregnant - worked a treat a man!

Either way im good now but whats even better is ill know how to deal with this if it happens again

Good luck to everyone who suffers from this - I understand now how 'Just get out of your head' advice can be so frustrating
 
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