Responding to "im not sure yet"



Responding to "im not sure yet"

Postby kjonesa » Tue Jun 25, 2013 8:50 pm

So this girl i met a bar and was hitting it off great with the other night texted me "I'll be at aubrey's tonight you happen to be going :)" I responded with "I'm probably going to stay in tonight. We should hang this week though". I really didn't want to have a convo with her but she kept the convo going and then we exchanged a few cocky & funny texts(not really sexy) which she responded well too. When i wanted to stop talking to her and make plans, i just said "What are you're plans Thursday?" which she just said "I'm not sure yet." which seems kind of short to me for a girl that seemed interested. I did already respond because i'm not too worried about this girl at the moment but for future reference, what would you guys say to that?

That just caught me off guard because all her previous text were all flirty then that was just a short 'who knows' like text.

Maybe i'm reading too much into it but i'm not sure.

Thoughts?
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Re: Responding to "im not sure yet"

Postby NarrowJ » Tue Jul 09, 2013 10:33 am

"I'm not sure yet" is the equivalent of "I don't have anything planned"

Set up the meet :)
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Re: Responding to "im not sure yet"

Postby Aero » Thu Jul 11, 2013 2:09 am

NarrowJ wrote:"I'm not sure yet" is the equivalent of "I don't have anything planned"


How did you come to this conclusion? I would like an in-depth explanation.
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Re: Responding to "im not sure yet"

Postby ZacAdam » Thu Jul 11, 2013 4:10 am

kjonesa wrote:When i wanted to stop talking to her and make plans, i just said "What are you're plans Thursday?" which she just said "I'm not sure yet." which seems kind of short to me for a girl that seemed interested. I did already respond because i'm not too worried about this girl at the moment but for future reference, what would you guys say to that?


Just be direct here. You would not want to drag on anymore. Tell her you want to meet her. She might be running on autopilot and it can end up relationship route or worse still, platonic.

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Re: Responding to "im not sure yet"

Postby Geebs » Thu Jul 11, 2013 12:00 pm

Personally I would have answered "Awesome! That means you're joining me for XYZ". As I would have interpreted a message like that as woman speak for "I don't know I'm waiting to see if you come up with something interesting enough/make up my mind for me".
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Re: Responding to "im not sure yet"

Postby Franco » Thu Jul 11, 2013 7:25 pm

kjonesa,

Your issue here is that you did not state your plans in the same text message in which you asked her if she was free. You are seemingly trying to trap her by asking her, "What are your plans on Thursday?" She has no idea what you have in mind, so she doesn't want to accept something if she doesn't know what it is.

You need to rephrase your text message to something like the following:

"Hey Jenelle, we should grab coffee or a drink this week if you're free :). What's your schedule like?"


It's extremely important you be completely clear and direct in what it is you want to do with her. Imagine if some guy you barely know were to hit you up and say, "hey man, what are you doing on Friday?" You know he's asking you because he probably wants to do something with you, but since he doesn't tell you what it is, you don't want to say, "nothing! I'm completely free!" Then he invites you to do something you absolutely hate doing, and you're put in the awkward situation of trying to get out of it or going along with it. Women feel the same way when you aren't clear about what it is you want to do with them.

This girl seems interested though. Be clear with your next invite, and I think she'll accept.

(Aero, the above should answer your question)

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