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and to go after what you want, to go for what you want, what is the logic behind why going for what you want, going after what you want, leading, why are those masculine behavior? i never understood the logic behind it, i will admit, there are times i have feelings of anger and resentment towards girls because of how passive they are in the dating/mating game. I don't know why but me personally, i just never felt like a naturally, dominant guy by nature, i'm not a naturally aggressive guy, so i don't know if this has to do with my genetics, if i'm just a genetically natural born Beta male, or if it has to do with parental upbringing, childhood social experiences, etc. The times i have tried, attempted to be dominant, i never felt pleasure in feeling it, i felt distaste for it.
But i feel at the same time, if i had plenty of great, good reference experiences, then maybe i wouldn't feel this way, the biggest lack of a reference for me is that i'm 24 and have never had a girlfriend before, it's very hard to be confident and have high self-esteem if you have never had a girlfriend before. Although it's not like i haven't really tried lately, i've been doing daygame with a wing-man lately, gotten a few numbers but the girls all flaked, and same with girls on tinder, and the times i do manage to get a first date, i never end up getting a second date, even though i attempt to set up another date it's just that the girl no longer ends up being interested to see me for another date. Ya my mindset is just because it's the way it is doesn't mean i have to like it or enjoy it, so seriously, what is the logic behind why women are instinctively, innately attracted to dominance so much, a guy that takes what he wants? I feel i need to only be in a good mental, emotional state in order to approach women but at those times, it is rare, because i have resentment towards the gender role that guys have to be the initiators.
Don't give the typical responses such as "your a Man, thats why, because you have Balls", seriously, why are a guys balls, testicles a symbol or represent strength, power, dominance, when in reality, balls, testicles are physically sensitive? even Chuck Norris or the late John Wayne couldn't handle getting kicked in the groin.
But i feel at the same time, if i had plenty of great, good reference experiences, then maybe i wouldn't feel this way, the biggest lack of a reference for me is that i'm 24 and have never had a girlfriend before, it's very hard to be confident and have high self-esteem if you have never had a girlfriend before. Although it's not like i haven't really tried lately, i've been doing daygame with a wing-man lately, gotten a few numbers but the girls all flaked, and same with girls on tinder, and the times i do manage to get a first date, i never end up getting a second date, even though i attempt to set up another date it's just that the girl no longer ends up being interested to see me for another date. Ya my mindset is just because it's the way it is doesn't mean i have to like it or enjoy it, so seriously, what is the logic behind why women are instinctively, innately attracted to dominance so much, a guy that takes what he wants? I feel i need to only be in a good mental, emotional state in order to approach women but at those times, it is rare, because i have resentment towards the gender role that guys have to be the initiators.
Don't give the typical responses such as "your a Man, thats why, because you have Balls", seriously, why are a guys balls, testicles a symbol or represent strength, power, dominance, when in reality, balls, testicles are physically sensitive? even Chuck Norris or the late John Wayne couldn't handle getting kicked in the groin.