Hey guys,
Speaking as someone who has a low lay count and no LTRs, I'm a little bit puzzled as to how the average guy gets into a relationship....like ever. I've been going out and talking to girls, and I've noticed that most the material on this site is spot on. And what's more is that if I make even one or two small mistakes, I'm out. Women are very unforgiving in terms of dating and relationships. Especially at the start. I've noticed that the few times I have gotten laid, I executed everything nearly perfectly. In every other situation, the girl pretty much always went cold on me after the first date.
But this begs the question: How do so many average men find relationships in their lives? Ever. At all. I'm pretty sure that most guys make a lot more of these mistakes than I do. This is not to say that I would consider myself "good" at this stuff. But I like to think that I'm better than the average guy who just randomly stumbles around and hopes to somehow get results. Still though, it seems that most guys my age have had several LTRs by now.
And on a related note: Are there circumstances in which women are more forgiving of moving slow/being boring/making mistakes? For example: I had a friend who recently got into an LTR with a girl from our social circle. He waited six dates to make a move...SIX! And by what he described, she was ready to fuck him on date #1 (I.e. She literally hopped into bed with him and started scooting her body into him...and he did nothing!). I feel like had this been any of my dates, attraction would have expired long before date six. lol.
P.S.
In case this post looks like I'm trying to complain or to get sympathy or anything like that, I'm not. I'm merely trying to understand the relationship dynamics at play here.
Speaking as someone who has a low lay count and no LTRs, I'm a little bit puzzled as to how the average guy gets into a relationship....like ever. I've been going out and talking to girls, and I've noticed that most the material on this site is spot on. And what's more is that if I make even one or two small mistakes, I'm out. Women are very unforgiving in terms of dating and relationships. Especially at the start. I've noticed that the few times I have gotten laid, I executed everything nearly perfectly. In every other situation, the girl pretty much always went cold on me after the first date.
But this begs the question: How do so many average men find relationships in their lives? Ever. At all. I'm pretty sure that most guys make a lot more of these mistakes than I do. This is not to say that I would consider myself "good" at this stuff. But I like to think that I'm better than the average guy who just randomly stumbles around and hopes to somehow get results. Still though, it seems that most guys my age have had several LTRs by now.
And on a related note: Are there circumstances in which women are more forgiving of moving slow/being boring/making mistakes? For example: I had a friend who recently got into an LTR with a girl from our social circle. He waited six dates to make a move...SIX! And by what he described, she was ready to fuck him on date #1 (I.e. She literally hopped into bed with him and started scooting her body into him...and he did nothing!). I feel like had this been any of my dates, attraction would have expired long before date six. lol.
P.S.
In case this post looks like I'm trying to complain or to get sympathy or anything like that, I'm not. I'm merely trying to understand the relationship dynamics at play here.